What have you obsessed over the most?

jgreenbay35

I can completely relate with the others on once something pops in my head, I have to figure out all of the details.  I have already figured out invitiations, attire, ceremony, reception, music, photo/video, favors, flowers, honeymoon, and every little think that goes along with them that I have though of so far and our wedding isn't until July, 2011.  My latest is what would be good names for our kids.  Not having kids anytime soon, but they have names. :-D  Now its just saving money to pay for all of our plans and waiting for the day to hurry up and get here..

JennaV26

I am obsessing over EVERYTHING! One example is the bridesmaid dresses: I thought everyone had their's ordered as I had asked them in January to have them ordered by the end of February. Come the middle of March I called the store and 3 out of 7 of the girls hadn't ordered them and they told me they wouldn't order any of the dresses until the received ALL of the orders and payments. WHAT?!? I went into panick mode and had to talk to the owner and convince her to just order the dresses that were in and then I spent the next two weeks nagging the other three girls to get their orders in. It was horrible!!

Plus my FI will be starting medical school the week after the wedding AND we're moving two weeks before the wedding so I'll have to come back and live with my sister the days before the wedding AND I have to find a new job AND where I'm working now is cutting back everyone's hours so I have MANY MANY MANY sleepless nights! AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

Rachelm0123

Lol.. My Fiance asked me the same thing as the post above! He said "You are always on the internet reasearching wedding stuff. What are you going to do when it is over?"  Just like the girl above, I said "Research how to get pregnant." Lol.  Then prengnancy, birth, infants, toddlers... The list goes on and on!

AMYFAYE1

My obsessions are many!!! My biggest obsession is the fact that two of my future husbands family members are in the process of divorce because they cheated with the others spouse! This has created sooo much drama in his family, that I don't even think they are happy for us getting married! I am afraid that the whole focus of our wedding and reception is going to be  his family so angry and mad at the divorcing couples, that they won't remember to be happy for us.

Alidra

The cake.  omg we are having someone who works with my fiance make the cake.  It is not going to be traditional by any means.  Im worried it will still look good but be fun, worried if my parents will freak out or not(they are pretty traditional)  i know nothing of the friends work so im worried it will just look like some science fair project.

aderudder

Bridesmaid dresses!!! I looked for months and months and had way too many options!!! And once I FINALLY just quit looking and picked one, then I couldn't decide on a color!!! Now I'm worried about how they'll fit my girls when they come in!!

SKeenan76

OK, now I'm stressing MORE because I haven't even thought about half of these things yet!  EEEEK!  :P

Money is definitely one of the top stresses; BM dresses is another...ugh! 

We'll all get through this, right!??!  LMAO!

bradget1

hmmm...mostly the little things that people probably arent even going to notice, for example my jewelry, my engagement ring is the only jewelry I have worn regularly, like ever. So im afraid jewelry is gonna look funny, or it will be too fancy for me, or not fancy enough.
Also the weather...but its poinless to worry about that!!

Brianne09

Thank you to whoever said cake topppers!!  Its such a silly thing to spend sooooo much time on, but I spent months looking! There was always something wrong, and FI wanted one with a bride and groom, not just our initals or something simple lol.

Before that it was the invitations and the guest list because FMIL didn't help at all. She expected me to look in the phone book for her family's addresses. I found out after I sent the save the dates that some of them went to the wrong address or name. So now I'm more stressed about the invitations (which will actually go out in about 1 1/2 weeks) 

Now that those are done I am obsessing over my veil! I can't find one I love, nor can I justify paying that much money for one.  Originally I didn't even want to wear one and now I'm kinda wishing I hadn't changed my mind (its really FI that wants me to wear one). I don't want to cover the back of my dress because its got some awesome detail, but I don't want a super short veil either. Ugh.

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I obsess over little things here and there.  Nothing that keeps me awake at night...but I definitely do wake up having dreamed about it.  Right now, I'm obsessed with how I want to bustle my dress.  So many options!  I also continuously obsess about the photography (what shots I want to get, what props I want to incorporate, etc)  But that's to be expected since I'm a photographer!

debbies44

Linens!  It's so stupid too!  I want chair covers/sashes BUT I don't want to blow the budget we are doing a very good job of sticking too.  It has been something I have worried about at night as well, and I'm still 9 months out! I think my main problem has been that is ONE linen rental company in my city, and so it's of course WAY over priced. So I would have to get them mailed and then have to worry about taking them down after the wedding, cleaning them AND mailing them back--way more work than I want to deal with the day after my wedding! We thought we found something that would work perfectly until we actually saw the covers/tablecloths/etc and didn't like them!  So now we are changing the whole look (originally wanted black chair covers/tablecloths, but our venue provides white tablecloths). I'm feeling much better after figuring out details with mom, sister (MOH) and FI, but still stressed about it! My FI keeps saying "these are just details" but they are a BIG deal to me. I know I'm the only one who will probably care/notice, but I guess that's part of being a bride

I'm sure once I get started on my invites and escort cards I'll be obsessing over those as well (they will be DIY too!).

mollykempf

I have a wedding coordinator, so she's taken care of a lot--I'm an out of town bride so I'd be going nuts without her. But my biggest obsession has been bridesmaid gifts! I know that seems silly, but I have 8 girls and I want to get them all something really nice but I'm on a budget and I can't find anything that seems fresh and nice. I don't think there is one item in the universe that they would all like, but if I get them different things I don't want anyone to be jealosu of the others' gifts. I may be over thinking it, but I will be so glad when they are purchased, wrapped, and in the girls' hands!

rands09

Centerpieces and music! I know I have changed the centerpieces in my mind a million times! And we hired a DJ with one of the best reps in our area, and I still worry that the floor won't be packed! Irrational, I know, but I agree...this was a wonderful post! So great to know that I am not alone!!

Terry&Patrick

Haha...last my my FI had a quick question about the caller for our contra dance reception. He prefaced the question with:
"Now, I have a quick wedding question. It's simple. Can we PLEASE not spend the rest of the night talking about wedding stuff after I ask it?"
and followed it with:
"There, ok. Now, no more wedding talk, right?"
There was a minute or two of silence after that while I had to put all the detail questions running through my head away and get back to normal conversation...so sad!

Sarawalls

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[QUOTE]I'm most obsessed about being the center of attention.  I may not be "shy" but I do not like being the focal point of 200 people.  FI had to remind me last night that all the people that are going to be there are family and friends.  Also that by the time the actual day gets there all I have to do is have fun.  Oh and not micromanage.  Can I help that my ideas are fabulous and I want to be sure everything looks like the picture in my head? Lol.
Posted by kbatchellor[/QUOTE]


I am so glad I'm not the only one who doesn't like being the center of attention.  I have major stage fright and everytime I think about the actual ceremony and standing up at the alter I get a little nauseous.  Luckily, my FI is as supportive as yours and he calms me down.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /> We're lucky girls. 

I've also been obsessing about the music.  I want everyone to have a good time, but my FI and I are kinda Indy/alternative music snobs, and it's hard to find music that we'll enjoy that people will still recognize and dance to.  Our DJ had never even heard of the song we're using for our first dance, so I have to email him the MP3.  LOL

Lastly, I've been obsessing about not being a bridezilla.  I am so scared I'm going to get too demanding and make one of my close friends mad.  I want this to be easy and fun for everyone involved, and I'm completely OBSESSED with keeping my cool and making everyone else happy.  Oy.  It's going to be a looooong 6 months.

dmort

I've been obsessed over my DJ. I am having the hardest time picking one. I feel like the DJ sets the mood and can really make or break a wedding's feel!  I've been to weddings where the DJ was really cheesy (props and all) and I really want a non-cheesy DJ. It's the only thing I've been really scared to commit to! So far I've found flaws in all of them... Here are my top contenders: 1. Word is that his father comes with him and gets drunk and srews up the bride and groom's names! 2. The second DJ did my friend's wedding and was on the mic the entire time!! 3. The third DJ has a major lisp and was difficult to understand. 4. He is a little over bearing and won't stop calling me.
In the end I think I'm going with DJ #4. I guess being attentive isn't really a flaw!
In any case - a DJ has been and continues to be my biggest obsession and issue!

scrawford1957

I am not so much obsessing as I am worrying that things won't look overly tacky.  When you are on a shoestring budget you tend to overthink and my fiancee says to me that if anyone comes who thinks it's tacky doesn't need to be there.  We are doing this all ourselves and I bought the disposable tablecloths for round tables and figured to decorate the tables with round mirrors, vases with fresh flowers and about 4 votive candles per table.  I got some tulle to decorate the head table with and some pew bows that I bought through efavormart.com with the flowers attached to the table to deck it out a bit more.  We have a stage where our arch will go as well as the DJ and we'll decorate it with tulle and lights.  I can't believe how much money people spend on weddings..have you seen some of those shows?  OMG!  Some of those gowns these women buy cost more than a car and weddings that cost a small fortune.  Our wedding is costing us less than $3K and I already booked our honeymoon week in Kissimmee.  The day is fast approaching too....we are getting married on May 29th.  I am excited, nervous, and every other emotion I can think of. 

dannnae

my weight. I have been kicking butt but not loosing any of it. I guess i could just settle for a larger veil to cover the chubby arms. Grrr!

kimen

I'm glad so many people have said "everything" - it makes me feel better. I think I obsess over PLANNING. I'm a huge planning person and when other people don't help me just get it planned my life goes crazy.

I obsess a lot lately on my mother. She said that she just wants to be at the wedding and that everything else is up to me but every time I decide on something she says "you can't do that" and then she won't drop it so I end up changing my plans. I wanted a small wedding but between me and my fiancé we will have at least 120 - I keep praying for invitations to come back with negative responses, but half way through the list now and only two have said no. I wanted to just order pizza's for the wedding - my mother insisted I have a caterer. 

We talked about decorations for the reception hall when we were out there (its at a hall at a park) the bathroom is not grand or gross but needs some sprucing - she said I should put a rug down. I was like - a rug in the bathroom? Won't it just get dirty? She said we could just wash it and give it to good will after. Then she shows me an add for rugs and since I'm going to that store anyway I stop to look at them. I call her from the store to ask her what size she thinks I need and THEN she tells me I can do whatever I want - that I can have a large rug, small rug, or NO RUG. I'd been going along thinking that she thought it would look nice and then all of a sudden she thinks the bathroom will look fine without a rug? She will surely drive me insane with this flip flop between "of course it matters"  and "do whatever you like, its your wedding". I don't want to spend money. 

Is it sad that at this point I'd rather elope with fiancé than be forced to go to my own wedding. I'm not looking forward to any aspect except being officially joined with beloved. I don't care about the dresses, the food, the pastor, the scriptures, especially NOT dancing because I don't like to dance in public. *sigh*

I would call it quits except we've already sunk so much money - I'm getting married May 29th.

So whatever your obsession is girls - just make sure it is YOUR obsession and no one else's. (with the possible exception of your fiancés. 

RochelleAnn2302

saylovesmark --

have you thought of renting some rustic chandeliers... i think that would be cool with the wood beam ceilings

teresabrad

We're making our own invitations. So the latest thing was the yellow ribbon on the invites. I went to every craft store in town, comparing ribbons to my fabric swatch. When I finally found it, I cleaned out every Michael's of that ribbon. No new obsession has popped up...yet.

CristinaMBaez

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[QUOTE]i obsessed about the favors! funny thing is i still have 15mo til the wedding!!! i spent 5 whole days searching up and down for purple cotton candy, yeah still cant find it so whatever they will have to deal with pink! lol
Posted by kdlopez1631[/QUOTE]

Try this:
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And, if you mix pink and blue, won't you get purple? I don't really know how it works, though...

Nova King

Just a question.. Does your husband know she is hitting on him and the best friend? And if not tell him your feelings and also its your wedding  no one has to be there if you dont want them there..

bradget1

me too with the veil...I guess I can say accessories in general...
Im shocked at how pricey some veils are, when Im not even sure I want to wear one and it will ony be for an hour...

Starbuck673

ME. I am obsessed with how to make sure that I look as good as I possibly can. I've been trying to lose weight, since before we got engaged really, and that's good and healthy and all. But now I read these bridal magazines and they're like, "from the day that you get that ring on your finger, your hands must be your top priority." and then another page says "if you're wearing a strapless dress you should be doing these exercises every day." It's insane! I'm just little me, hard as I might try to be a perfect oil painting of myself. It is just not going to happen. But I have three times as many beauty products in my bathroom right now than I EVER have in my LIFE!

crystalharward

I have been obsessing about everything too! Im probably driving my friends and family crazy by talking about it so much lol! But I think my biggest is the bouquets. I am making them myself and have changed my mind atleast 10 times, torn them apart and started over , hopefully they will stay how they are now!

jk&bgwedding

My shoes - I'm up to 4 ordered pairs (2 have been sent back). H2b is not that much taller, so no significant heels, and I want to be comfortable, summery, but also chic.

kiefner2be

Currently, getting in better shape, my centerpieces and trying to manage My Fiance's sister wanting to take over maid of honor duties. 

And, I keep having nightmares about the silliest things, like showing up to the ceremony without any make-up on, or not realizing it is my wedding day until 2 in the afternoon the day of and rushing to get ready.

ngurney

My first dance!!! I've been thinking about what song to play for years!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jewelg5138

The worst is when I try to go to sleep at night and my brain just won't shut off!

I totally agree!  I can't get to sleep because I am busy thinking about how to wear my hair, how to wear my veil, what kind of jewlery to get.  Sometimes I wonder what happened to the girl I was before I started planning this wedding!

My biggest obsession right now is that I am worried that my dress doesn't quite match the bridesmaid dress.  My dress has satin bands on the bottom in a champagne color.  So, I picked out bridesmaid dresses that have a champagne sash around the waist.  Figured I was being super smart and it would all coordinate so well.  Not so much - my dress looks silver against the bm dresses and now I am worried that all of the champagne accessories I had been planning on for the girls (and for the guys for that matter) won't look right next to my dress!