Anyone else having the opposite RSVP problem? Not enough guests? :(

mrskristinyc

It seems like there are so many posts on here about people adding guests/kids to their list. I'm having the opposite problem. We lived in the city we're getting married in a few years ago, so half our friends are here and half are there. We knew a lot of people wouldn't be able to travel, and not all RSVPs are in yet, but it looks like we'll only have just under 70 (out of almost 150!!). Our wedding is the same day as a big college football game that a lot of my extended family goes to (and they live 4 hours away). Ugggh.

We've already allowed +1s and kids, but it's really disappointing. Also, this might make us just under our minimum for the caterer (but I won't be heartbroken if we have to upgrade to my favorite craft beer).

At least most of the decline have written nice notes on the response cards, and some have sent gifts, but still...

thale0924

I am having that problem too!  I have 103 adults out of 146.  The minimum for my venue is 125 or a 10,000 bill.  We're at 7,600 ~ish right now.  I'm meeting with my venue tomorrow to figure out how to upgrade...or just start adding people randomly! HA!

PattySmith101

i am worried about this too--- we invite + 1's and kids we have gotten alot of yes responses but our min is 110 if we don't have 110 adults we will have to pay full price for our kids meals!i dont want to pay $100 for chicken fingers,fries and applesauce!!! i am the youngest of 7 kids so i have 10 nieces and nephews, fi has 3 , my bff has 2 kids and my hairdresser is bringing her son < i have babysat him since he was 2 years old-- he's 5 now> !!! thats 16 kids...

problem is most of the missing rsvps are fmil's list so i dont know where we stand with those people, since i dont know most of them!!!

when we were making our guest list fi was terrified  we were gonna max out the room ( 175 ) i was afraid we wouldnt meet the min from the begining!!! problem is open bar is already included and nothing needs to be upgraded so we will prob end up paying $100 for a few kids meals!

lulu4150

Us too.  We have to have a minimum of 90 people and it looks like we're going to be about 15 short :-(

achiduck

Our venue doesn't have a minimum but we definitely had more declines then expected. Hard not to be bummed about it. 

aro1589

same boat!  our minumum is 150.  we invited around 170-180 (depending on if people would bring guests or kids).  we have 63 yeses so far.  I went though my guest list and subtracted the people i knew would be nos (out of towners, etc) and added the people i thought would come and still only had 131. 

xxjen015

We have 210 invited (that number has gone up due to +1's, etc), around 75 accepted, 60 something declined, still missing around 70. I suspect a decent number of those 70 will be no's. A lot of our guest list were my parents friends that live all over the country. A lot of them tried to arrange it to make it, but ended up where they couldn't. Also, we are having the wedding in Nashville where I grew up and FI's family is from Chattanooga, 2 hours away and so a lot of FMIL's guest list live in Chatt and won't be coming. We aren't surprised. We don't have a minimum though because we are getting married at my house where i grew up.

mrskristinyc

Wow! I guess I'm not alone! I'm just really surprised. I was worried that we'd have way more than we wanted (we were shooting for about 100 people). My FI and I are having an after party in November at a restaurant in NYC for our friends who can't fly out to Indianapolis, so we'll still get to celebrate with a lot of people. I just don't want the dance floor to feel totally empty! I don't mind the ore intimate ceremony though.

Our minimum is $6,000. The meal is about $78, and we added on a few things (fruit platter, etc). We extended the open bar an extra hour and a half. When we were first talking to our venue, they said adding good beer would be an extra $3/person, so we might get to do that! My absolute favorite beer is a local Indy-area beer (Upland Wheat), so at least there's a silver lining. (Not that I'd rather have beer than certain people....)

violakat03

We've gotten quite a few more declines than I expected, but we don't have a minimum. At this point it's kind of a relief for some of the declines (especially when it's distant family that I wasn't overly happy about inviting to start with) because it lowers our expenses, but there have been a few that really disappointed me.

insanityofamom

We are now six days to my RSVP deadline and I'm missing almost 50 RSVPs. Is it inappropriate for me to post on Facebook and b*tch something about the LACK OF RSVPs! There's no reason...... >.>

That being said, we don't have a minimum with our caterer. We planned the meal for 50- but we could easily change it if necessary. 

jenny&will2014

I was going to say that you should put out the word that "the game will be playing at the reception" but if family actually GO to the game then that wont work. I am also worried that we wont have enough people.

CandiceAdam

We invited about 90 people and expected that we would only have about 70 guests but it is looking like we will be closer to 60, luckily this is the venu min. so I think we are going to end up being ok. This is the last week, RSVPs are due on the 21st and then I will start calling.

mrskristinyc

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[QUOTE]I was going to say that you should put out the word that "the game will be playing at the reception" but if family actually GO to the game then that wont work. I am also worried that we wont have enough people.
Posted by jenny&will2014[/QUOTE]

<div>Heh, actually, I don't think they're even going to the game, but they're having a huge party.  They apparently host a big party for this game every year. (It's Navy vs. Notre Dame, and they live in Northern Indiana and are Navy people...) It's my dad's cousins. I like them and I'm a little disappointed, but you know, a football game like that is a once in a lifetime opportunity, but I'm probably going to get married every year. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /></div><div>
</div><div>At least they sent nice presents. </div>

fishinflagrl

Its looking like we will be in the same boat most likely. There is a huge college football game that weekend that people already have tickets and hotel reservations to. Oh well, sucks for them. Stupid football.

mmmendi

I double checked to make sure we didn't schedule during either of two big college games! We knew it would result in slim positive returns. Maybe you will receive a rush of responses in the next couple of days! (it could happen!)

aro1589

all this talk about football...I'll add this:

my priest can't do the wedding because he has tickets to the Notre Dame game.  he had them wayyy in advance (we booked the church in September of 2011 and he told us before we booked it officially that he would be unable to do it).  lol, apparently college football ain't no joke.

mana8503

Yea I invited 200 and not making me 125 minimum... we had about 50 OOT I wasn't sure on, but then a lot of local people that I really thought would come.  Oh well... nothing I can do about it now.

Kari1353

We sent out 121 invitations for about 250 people.  RSVP deadline was 9/13... we haven't even gotten half of the RSVPs back and the RSVPs we do have (plus the uncounted non-returned) puts us at 195.  I'm sure we will have a lot more no's coming our way.  But I'm getting anxious because I need final numbers by Saturday for a lot of stuff.

reagane02

I don't have minimum that I have to meet (thank goodness) but we ended up with a LOT more declines than we were expecting. Hopefully things come together.

RockyNFrankie

I thought I was the only one! Makes me feel better that I'm not the only one! We invited 137 and so far we have 33 declines and 64 accepts. There are about 8 people that I was sure would come that are not coming and the rest were kind of iffy but I thought out of all of them at least a few would come. Of the people left I would guess less then half of them will be coming.

I have a total minimum and right now we are just short of making it. We already have the most expensive meals and open bar all night. If we don't make the minimum we will have to add silly things like a raw bar or chocolate fountain to make it.

bbair89

yup yup. we invited about 110, and have 67 who are coming so far. Our venue minumum is 80, and I'm really wondering if we'll meet that