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Catholic wedding
I am a Roman Catholic who has recieved all of the appropriate sacraments. I also teach at a Catholic school. However, I have to admit I don't attend church except for when I have to take my class. My fiancee is baptized Catholic and was very Catholic growing up, but is no longer practicing and now he seems anti-religious. Despite this, we are very compatible. He said he would agree to be married in a Catholic church if they let us. Do you think they will let us? We also live together but we are both still virgins. We live together for purely economical reasons.
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they will also inquire as to your intentions with children, in terms of whether you plan to raise them in teh catholic faith.
[QUOTE]We don't plan to have children, although we won't be using birth control. If we do have children, they will be raised Catholic.
Posted by waterfalllady84[/QUOTE]
That's quite the risk you are running... without using birth control you will probably get pregnant eventually.
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if you are saying this because you think she'll be practicing NFP, then you are making a very ignorant statement.
if you say this because you think she will nto be using any method of birth control (artificial or natural) then sure, she most likely wil get pregnant.
[QUOTE] Hey Waterfall if God decides your having children regardless of your condition then you will have children. No worries :)
Posted by BrideBling82[/QUOTE]
That's exactly how I feel, though I have accepted that I may not have children. Thank you.
Re: Birth control/children - I don't think the ladies here were being judgmental, I think they were responding out of concern. Many times, we hear stories of people who are not responsible or are uneducated about natural/artificial birth control methods and have suffered horribly because of it. I think (most of) the ladies were attempting to share information to prevent OP from any future trouble. It seems that she didn't need the help after all!
Sorry, it just bothers me when people throw the "judgment" card out there, when it simply isn't the case.
i dont think she has to give the priest details about her health. i think leaving it at being open to life is sufficient. he probably wont even ask for specifics. our priest just asked if we were open to, and prepared for, children.
He asked us about FIVE TIMES if we were ever married before in any capacity to each other or anyone else (I'm 27, FI is 32) and we still both need notarized letters from our parents swearing we've never been married!
Best thing to do is meet with the priest and discuss it.
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[QUOTE]<strong>Our priest asked us if we were able to conceive. </strong>I don't what would happen if we said no... But it is a very conservative parish. He asked us about FIVE TIMES if we were ever married before in any capacity to each other or anyone else (I'm 27, FI is 32) and we still both need notarized letters from our parents swearing we've never been married! Best thing to do is meet with the priest and discuss it.
Posted by Amynutrition[/QUOTE]
That's an odd question for a priest to ask. I can understand them asking if you were open to having children, but, assuming you are following Church rules and remaining abstinent before marriage, you wouldn't know for sure that were able to conceive. You could know that your health conditions reduce your chances, but no one (even the presumably healthy) knows they can conceive until they have actually done it. Furthermore, the inability to conceive doesn't preclude you from being married... however, knowing you are perpetually impotent is a different story. I see those as two separate things.
OP -- I would reword your statement about kids (at least for your priest) as "we are probably unable to have kids." Be honest if the priest if he asks further questions. I understand not wanting to air dirty laundry on a message board, but your priest will want to ensure, like above, that your marriage will be valid. My guess is that living together won't prove to be a problem, especially since you are already remaining chaste while doing so.
[QUOTE]That's quite the risk you are running... without using birth control you will probably get pregnant eventually. if you are saying this because you think she'll be practicing NFP, then you are making a very ignorant statement.<strong> if you say this because you think she will nto be using any method of birth control (artificial or natural) then sure, she most likely wil get pregnant.</strong>
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</div><div>bingo :) I consider NFP to be birth control because it does what other birth controls do: helps you prevent pregnancy. but I also agree with PP.. you might want to make sure Catholic is truly the way you want to go, as part of most (if not all) Catholic vows have you say "i will" to accepting children into your life as God's gifts
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[QUOTE]<strong>Our priest asked us if we were able to conceive.</strong> I don't what would happen if we said no... But it is a very conservative parish. He asked us about FIVE TIMES if we were ever married before in any capacity to each other or anyone else (I'm 27, FI is 32) and we still both need notarized letters from our parents swearing we've never been married! Best thing to do is meet with the priest and discuss it.
Posted by Amynutrition[/QUOTE]
We had to do a questionairre that had something similar on it. Something like "Do you have any reason to doubt that you'll be able to reproduce"
The church believes the reason for marriage is to produce offspring. While it may be an outdated question, it is still relevant. I doubt they would prevent anyone from getting married, even if they KNEW for certain they couldn't bear children.
[QUOTE]We live together but honestly it never really even came up, and we're still getting married. I think priests are coming around to the fact that it's just so old fashioned these days.
Posted by jazzybacc[/QUOTE]
I have to say that this comment rubs me the wrong way. The implication is that being "old-fashioned" in this respect is a negative thing.
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[QUOTE]*Waves at Calypso from the Boston airport* Waterfall, what is it about your fiancé that seems anti-religious? Are there specific things he says/does?
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]
He has just lost his faith. I don't know how to help him restore it, except by example.
yeah, teh old fashioned thing annoyed me too. but whatevs.
i also think its very erroneous when folks say "the priest doesnt care at all that we live together". i guarantee you they do, but they are stlil happy to marry you.