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1. Have you ever not attended a wedding because you questionted the validity of it, or the seriousness of the relationship, etc? How did you come to your decision? Do you regret it?
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
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As a child I wasn't allowed to attend my brother's JP wedding since it was outside the Church, and his previous marriage hadn't been annulled. It wasn't really my decision, as my parents decided for me.
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
I have gone to weddings where I doubted the health of the relatioship, and was perhaps concerned about impediments to the marriage. I ultimately decided to attend because I realized that me not going wouldn't change their mind, and it woud ruin my friendship. I made my concerns pretty clear, though, so there wasn't much question about how I felt. I was happy for the couples at each of these weddings, and I certainly hope none of them divorce. I guess I was more concerned about age for a couple, or about length of the relationship and past dating patterns for others.
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
No one expressed any concern to me or H. Everyone seemed really happy, and no one ever said anything negative to me.
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
similar to Resa, my parents, sister and i never attended the second and third weddings of my aunts and uncle because first marriages had been in the church and no annulments. it wasnt my decision, but now i agree with the choice my parents made (with the exception of one of my aunts, only because she consciously left the church and does not receive or call herself a catholic any longer - the others claim to still be catholic despite their choices).
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it? ive gone to weddings of friends that were civil ceremonies and i know one or the other was baptized catholic, but again, no longer practicing so i felt it was ok even tho technically it really wasnt.
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it? Yes on the doubt/concern, but no one chose not to attend because of it.
2. I can think of two situations I have known about that I had major concerns. One couple has had lots of ups andd downs, but seem to be ok now. The other, were rushing because of pregnancy and had a civil ceremony while waiting for annullments. They have all kinds of issues now, and I pray for them a lot.
3. No. Everyone was super-excited for us.
No. It hasn't ever been so dire that I felt I couldn't attend.
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
Yes - mainly I worried that the couple wasn't committed to marriage as a life-long commitment. There were a few that I was glad to not be asked to be included in the bridal party. As far as Catholics not being married in the Church - if they no longer considered themselves Catholic, I would feel much more comfortable attending than if they were practicing. Also - there have been some Catholic weddings within the Church that I was a bit concerned about. Mainly due to the couple not necessarily wanting children. In most cases I choose to pray for them and be someone that they could rely on for support and guidance. I think if I chose not to attend, I would no longer be close enough to them to help them...
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
Nope!
I have skipped a few PPD's...but I generally attend all weddings I'm invited to, given no prior scheduling conflicts
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
Yes. One, I was convinced the groom only wanted to get married for the party (and that was the case, they were divorced less than a year later). The second was just recently for my lifelong friend's wedding. I was asked to be a bridesmaid, and I did stand up. She and now DH have been together for several roller coaster years. Lots of emotional infidelity. It felt like they got married just to try to change things. I hope it lasts, but I'm really not sure.
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
Thankfully, no.
No. I really haven't been to many weddings, and I had never even thought to question validity until the topic came up on this board. It's something I'll probably pay more attention to now, but I don't think that I'd ever not attend a wedding just on questions of validity alone.
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
Not really - one friend I worry about a bit because there was an instance of abuse in their relationship. I voiced my concerns to her about what happened at the time, but they worked through it and seem to be fine now.
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
No, everyone has been really excited for us. I know both of our sets of parents are happy that we're having a wedding in the Catholic church. From what I've heard, FI's mom was somewhat upset that his older brother married in a Lutheran church, so I know she's happy that FI is marrying a Catholic
Probably the most uncomfortable for me was when my very good friend got married. I just didn't have a good feeling about her H. TI don't hate him or anything, but I feel really sad for her because he's not a real participant in their marriage or in raising their kids. From the moment she started dating him, I let my feelings be known, and even stopped speaking to her. Eventually I realized she was going to make her own choices, and so I supported her despite not necessarily lilking her choices. I'm glad I decided to keep being friends with her, because I think my friendship has been a good influence and a source of strength for her.
Have you ever not attended a wedding because you questionted the validity of it, or the seriousness of the relationship, etc? How did you come to your decision? Do you regret it?
Not yet but my In-laws are making a royal issue over my BIL's engagement because my BIL and his Fiancée don't have a religion. My MIL has informed me she and my FIL will not attend and are upset that DH and I will.
2. Have you ever attended a wedding where you were concerned about the outcome, or about the validity of the marriage? How did you come to that decision, and do you regret it?
Yes. My sister's; their relationship is off and she's very unhappy but I'm glad i didn't miss it. Our relationship is nonexistent now but it would've deteriorated much sooner if I wouldn't have attended.
3.. Did anyone/has anyone expressed doubt or concern regarding your marriage? Did someone not attend? How did you deal with it?
Posted by Resa77
Two of my sisters didn't come. I just let it go. We don't have a relationship and they made it clear that they didn't approve of DH so I let it be.