A week ago my grandpa went into cardiac arrest and now is in hospice with heart, lung and kidney failure. While he's 89 and has lived a full life, anticipating his loss is, of course, a struggle for my family. I was blessed to be able to travel the 800 miles this weekend to say good-bye in person.
Facing the contradictory activities of grieving Grandpa's imminent passing and planning our wedding has me at a loss. I was intending to check off a lot of needing-to-be-accomplished-soon tasks this week during my Spring Break (placing the deposit on the venue, arranging with my mom for the final payment on my gown, choosing photographer and videographer, Engaged Encounter, etc.), but I became overwhelmed just meeting with our priest to finalize the time. I think even mentioning our wedding to my mom and family right now is inappropriate, and, truly, it all now seems trivial.
Where do I go from here? I know Grandpa wouldn't want our lives to stop, but it seems wrong to keep going like nothing is happening. I'm sorry that this post may seem rambling, but do I appreciate you ladies' support and suggestions...
"Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine!" (Isaiah 43:1)
Re: My grandpa won't live to see my wedding...
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I see that your wedding isn't until November, so it looks like you will have time to greive should the worst happen. And once you get the major vendors book, everything else will fall into place.
I was very close to my Grandma (my Mom's Mom) and while she passed away over 15 years ago, I was still thinking about her on my wedding day. I was sad for a time leading up to the wedding, esp when I was doing our programs, and then I told myself that she (and all my other grandparents) were looking down from Heaven upon us. The Holy Spirit is truly wonderful if you just let it work. I am sure you will be amazed at how relieved it will make you feel. I know it helped me.
I will keep your Grandpa in my prayers. Keep us posted on his status. We are here for you.
Like missy said you have awhile until your wedding so while it will be hard, you will have plenty of time to grieve.
My grandma died in 2009 and I will be the first grandchild to get married since her death (and the first one since 2003). I will be thinking about her the day of the wedding for sure. I'm including her in a prayer of the faithful along with on the program.
I will pray for him and your family. Take time to grieve, November is a ways away, and even though there are things you need to get done, do minimal and allow yourself time
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I lost my Grandmother who I was extremely close to this past August and started planning my wedding about a month afterwards. I took things easy for a couple weeks after the arrangements and whatnot just to "be." And then I started planning and really think its been a good distraction for me ever since. Not that I don't think about her, because I do. It's just good to have something to work on to accomplish an ultimate goal: marriage.
Like I said, do what you feel is right.
I agree with MissySue20.
I know you know this . . . but he is at peace, and walking with Jesus. I pray that you, your family and especially your Grandma will feel strength, mercy and every grace imaginable. God bless you.