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Thank Yous (Partial Husband Rant)

Well, after 3 months my half of the Thank Yous are finally done and will be sent out tomorrow. I cant say the same however for Josh's. I did a few of his (1 or 2) b/c he had an Aunt/Uncle who couldnt make it and emailed Josh to ask if we received the gift, so I made sure theirs got done.

Last time I asked Josh to do his he got all pissy and pulled the "I work hard" yada yada, to whcih I recanted with, and I sit at a desk all day and the last thing I want to do when I come home is sit and write some more, so suck it up. Then I sat down to write more and I handed him 3 cards and said "The least you can do is write the 3 to mom, dad, and sister". He set them aside and said "I will later. They not done.

So today Josh is home sick. Score. I sent him a text saying "This is the last time Im asking. All thats left are your family. Im not doing them. Im not a rude person and I certainly didnt marry one. So while your just sitting around all day, write them" If I come home and he's done none of them, Im going to count up the money I got from my family and friends and its going to be deposited into my personal acct. Im done with this game.

People are inherently stupid. Weddings make it painfully obvious -- KevinandMonica
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Re: Thank Yous (Partial Husband Rant)

  • Happily9Happily9 member
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    edited December 2011
    Get 'em Bridgett!!! Stand you ground!  He is a grown man and capable of writing out a few thank yous! I think men just don't like doing what isn't convienent for them!
  • edited December 2011
    I agree, men really don't like doing anything that isn't a requirement here and now. If it makes you feel better, I'm still waiting for a thank you note from my cousin and her husband. They got married in October, 2006.

    I'm sure the last of yours will be done soon!

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  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited December 2011
    Good job you....I like your way of thinking!
  • sbolger17sbolger17 member
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    edited December 2011
    Men are so lazy sometimes!!  He's probably still hoping you'll back down and do them.  Keep it up!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_thank-yous-partial-husband-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:15e10cff-81e4-45da-b66b-086cbb3b2a2dPost:ca6dfa3b-58a4-469e-ad1c-c6884254b401">Re: Thank Yous (Partial Husband Rant)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Men are so lazy sometimes!!  <strong>He's probably still hoping you'll back down and do them.</strong>  Keep it up!
    Posted by sbolger17[/QUOTE]

    No chance. If it comes down to it, they dont get any. Ill be a bit uncomfortable with it, but Im more uncomfortable with giving in. My SIL has a "No Thank You Card" policy. She believes that if she says thank you to your face then a card is repetitive and unnecessary. So, for her wedding in 08 she never sent any b/c she thanked everyone as they left the wedding.

    So if <u>his</u> family doesnt get any, chalk it up to poor family etiquette. At least mine got theres 

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  • edited December 2011
    My fiance doesn't ever help with stuff like that either. I'm pretty sure he feels it's "the woman's job." I could be wrong though.

    On another note, out of the last five weddings I have been to, I have only received ONE thank you. So maybe it's just 'customary' that some people don't do them anymore. *sigh*
  • edited December 2011
    Good for you Bridgett!  I wrote every single save the date and invitation address, so if I had it my way Marc would be doing every thank you.  I'm too nice though so I'm helping with the thank yous, but I absolutely refuse to do more than my share!!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_thank-yous-partial-husband-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:15e10cff-81e4-45da-b66b-086cbb3b2a2dPost:2583a4f4-14c7-4b62-a039-722774fb7a3f">Re: Thank Yous (Partial Husband Rant)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good for you Bridgett!  I wrote every single save the date and invitation address, so if I had it my way Marc would be doing every thank you.  I'm too nice though so I'm helping with the thank yous, but I absolutely refuse to do more than my share!!
    Posted by acmj11[/QUOTE]

    If I could make him do it, he'd have done them all as well. When he pulls the "I work my asss off everyday" chit I always come back with a "I worked fulltime, went to school parttime and planned one hell of a wedding". With this text I told him that on Monday i was starting internship M-F 5-9 on top of my M-F 830-430 job, my PT job (which takes over almost every other Saturday), and all the MOH stuff I need to do for my sisters Oct wedding. I told him my life for the next 2 semesters was going to be hell and I didnt want to hear him whine about having to write a few thank yous while sipping beer after working 7-3.

    I think he has this entitled chit in his head b/c A) he has a labor intensive job vs my desk job (that I biitch about everyday b/c my 4 yr old nephews could do it) and B) b/c his mother caters to his stepdads every flipping move. He knows I refuse to be like his mom and that he will take part in the family and household duties, but he was raised with a mom who catered, so it hard to break.

    I will break it though!

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  • edited December 2011
    I dont mean any of this to come off as he's lazy or a bad husband. He works very hard and is a very dedicated employee and husband (in fact today he woke me up to tell me he threw up and felt  he would again and wondered if I thought it was ok for him to call in sick b/c he believes if youre not dead, you can be working). Im just a bit frustrated with his "womans work" attitude and these damned thank yous

    Had to make note of that :)

    People are inherently stupid. Weddings make it painfully obvious -- KevinandMonica
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