So we got our first RVSP back today with an unexpected guest (as you can tell from my siggy below)...
I figured one would be coming eventually, but not from who it came from...a GM! This particular GM recently broke up with his longtime gf and moved out of their house. Any BM and GM that were not in relationships were not guested. He knows this. However, he wrote in on his RVSP "and guest." I don't even think he knows who he'll be bringing...I think he just wants to bring someone...
I know, I know...you might say "maybe he met someone," but I know for a fact that he didn't or "maybe he's lonely" but there are 8 GM's and half aren't in relationships.
Sometimes I wish people would stop and realize how much weddings cost. Even one extra guest is just really getting under my skin.
Re: Rant-Annoying RSVP's
Similar thing happened to us except we had no idea FI's cousin was in a relationship- we invited them as a family (father (uncle), son & daughter- cousins). To my defense, FMIL told us to invite them that way. Well they came back with 3 yes plus 1. A boyfriend of the daughter.
We didn't say anything because after all we have given everybody (single or not) the option of bringing a guest. But I still thought it was rude- she could have just asked us.
[QUOTE]I added a plus one to everyone single or not. I honestly dont see the problem with someone bringing a guest. He would have had a guest if he was in a relationship.
Posted by Melissa.hylton[/QUOTE]
As LittleMoments said, my problem with it is that it isn't fair that he bring someone while the other people don't. If I let all of the single people at my wedding bring a guest, I would be WAY over budget.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rant-Annoying RSVP's : As LittleMoments said, my problem with it is that it isn't fair that he bring someone while the other people don't. <strong> If I let all of the single people at my wedding bring a guest, I would be WAY over budget.
</strong>Posted by BeabullMom[/QUOTE]
I can understand your frustration, but couldn't you just allow the WP all plus one's? In every wedding I've been in (admittedly only 3 so far) the entire wedding party were given a plus one, even when the other single guests were not. It seems like the nice thing to do for the ppl you are asking to have a special role in your day.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rant-Annoying RSVP's : As LittleMoments said, my problem with it is that it isn't fair that he bring someone while the other people don't. If I let all of the single people at my wedding bring a guest, I would be WAY over budget.
Posted by BeabullMom[/QUOTE]
I totally get you! I think this is what one of our groomsmen is doing too. He's yet to RSVP and keeps telling me he has until the 14th (today) to RSVP. I really think he's like asking everyone he knows to go with him.
That being said, I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he does this. He is the only single groomsman that we'll be having so I don't want him to feel awkward.
I would suggest calling him and asking him who he's bringing. <em> IF</em> he says he doesn't know yet then I'd tell him he can't do that to you. If he has someone in mind then I think you have to. Like PPs said, most WP get plus ones no matter what. Just my two cents.