Rant-Annoying RSVP's

BeabullMom

So we got our first RVSP back today with an unexpected guest (as you can tell from my siggy below)...

I figured one would be coming eventually, but not from who it came from...a GM!  This particular GM recently broke up with his longtime gf and moved out of their house.  Any BM and GM that were not in relationships were not guested.  He knows this.  However, he wrote in on his RVSP "and guest."  I don't even think he knows who he'll be bringing...I think he just wants to bring someone...

I know, I know...you might say "maybe he met someone," but I know for a fact that he didn't or "maybe he's lonely" but there are 8 GM's and half aren't in relationships.

Sometimes I wish people would stop and realize how much weddings cost.  Even one extra guest is just really getting under my skin. 

Melissa.hylton

I added a plus one to everyone single or not. I honestly dont see the problem with someone bringing a guest. He would have had a guest if he was in a relationship. 

littlemoments324

yeah that is definitely frustrating....I would have your FI deal with it because it isn't fair that he gets to bring someone while the others aren't....

mekiakoo

Similar thing happened to us except we had no idea FI's cousin was in a relationship- we invited them as a family (father (uncle), son & daughter- cousins). To my defense, FMIL told us to invite them that way. Well they came back with 3 yes plus 1. A boyfriend of the daughter.

We didn't say anything because after all we have given everybody (single or not) the option of bringing a guest. But I still thought it was rude- she could have just asked us.

michelle11988

I would have your FI handle it.  I totally understand the frustration in adding people, thankfully I have yet to run into this, but I have a fealing one of my friends is waiting to RSVP after the date so she can try and include her daughter.

BeabullMom

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[QUOTE]I added a plus one to everyone single or not. I honestly dont see the problem with someone bringing a guest. He would have had a guest if he was in a relationship. 
Posted by Melissa.hylton[/QUOTE]

As LittleMoments said, my problem with it is that it isn't fair that he bring someone while the other people don't.  If I let all of the single people at my wedding bring a guest, I would be WAY over budget.

dramaqueen91087

Yeah I've gotten a few of those. One is FI family friend who is traveling from florida. We're just going to let him bring his guest since he's coming from so far. But the other is FI's sister who lives nearby. I'm calling FMIL tonight and telling her that she needs to call and tell her no. I wish I could have afforded guests for everyone but we would be way over budget (or have a really small wedding with half of the people being strangers) if we did that. 

I did allow one for one of my friends. She messeged both me and my mom asking if she could bring her boyfriend. I havent talked to her in a while so I didn't know there was a boyfriend. We said yes since its an SO and she asked. Honestly, I'd probably give it to most people if they asked and it was legitiamate, but dont assume!

BmoreBride311

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rant-Annoying RSVP's : As LittleMoments said, my problem with it is that it isn't fair that he bring someone while the other people don't. <strong> If I let all of the single people at my wedding bring a guest, I would be WAY over budget.
</strong>Posted by BeabullMom[/QUOTE]

I can understand your frustration, but couldn't you just allow the WP all plus one's? In every wedding I've been in (admittedly only 3 so far) the entire wedding party were given a plus one, even when the other single guests were not. It seems like the nice thing to do for the ppl you are asking to have a special role in your day.

butterflyjumper1

We did exactly what Bmore said. We probably have about 10 single friends who are 100% single and are not from OOT, and we did not give them dates. All of our wedding party, including the totally single friends, got dates, and so did all OOT guests, because who wants to travel by themselves, even if they are single? I think it would be fine to just give WP dates - no one will be offended by that.

honeybear072012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rant-Annoying RSVP's : As LittleMoments said, my problem with it is that it isn't fair that he bring someone while the other people don't.  If I let all of the single people at my wedding bring a guest, I would be WAY over budget.
Posted by BeabullMom[/QUOTE]

I totally get you!  I think this is what one of our groomsmen is doing too.  He's yet to RSVP and keeps telling me he has until the 14th (today) to RSVP.  I really think he's like asking everyone he knows to go with him.

That being said, I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he does this.  He is the only single groomsman that we'll be having so I don't want him to feel awkward.

I would suggest calling him and asking him who he's bringing. <em> IF</em> he says he doesn't know yet then I'd tell him he can't do that to you.  If he has someone in mind then I think you have to.  Like PPs said, most WP get plus ones no matter what.  Just my two cents.

arunkumar

It's frustrating for sure. Was the gm and his girlfriend together when you sent their invitation? Because if so, you've already budgeted for an extra person to be there.  I'd let it go if this were the case. Yes it's annoying since he clearly doesn't have a particular person in mind, but he's probably upset at the thought of being there alone since he was with his ex for so long.