Hi everyone - in need of some help!
My new fiance is Filipino, I'm not, and we're starting to make wedding plans. Since I'm not Catholic (atheist actually), we can't and won't get married in a church, which is where 90% of Filipino wedding traditions happen, like the veil, cord, sponsors, all that.
He mentioned the money dance as something he'd like to do. My first reaction was "can we not?" I'm not really comfortable with it. I'm also concerned about my family and friends' reactions - if you don't know the tradition, it's going to look like a money grab, right?
However - this is important to him, since it's the only tradition we can still do. So how do I do this with half a guest list who may be offended by it? My thought right now is to have an mc from his side explain right before it that it's a filipino tradition symbolically wishing the couple prosperity, etc and to enjoy watching or join in if they feel like it. I may quietly spread the word to family beforehand that we're doing it to minimize the number who get the vapours.
So - anyone think this would work? Any other suggestions on how I could pull this off without horrifying half the guests?
Re: Filipino wedding - money dance help!
As for the other tradiitons, the reason why I voted against it is because there are opportunities to get it wrong. There's a coin exchange during the ceremony (another symbol of prosperity), but I attended a wedding where the officiant didn't really undertand what to explain, and so the groom was confused, didn't get the cue to hand the coins to the bride, and just pocketed the bundle!
Explaining the tradition will help! I to am marrying a Filipino gentleman and that is something that would be at our wedding as well. I can understand your concern but at the same time, isn't that the reason you bring family and friends in to celebrate too? Learning new things is fun, look at it that way!
Hope this helped!