Ring or Lipo?

Jaciones

Haha, people are having some kind of extreme reactions to this question! Yeah you are working with a higher budget than some people but the fact that you have a budget at all makes me feel like you aren't being a diva by asking this question. Of course your husband to be loves you as you are, but he also wants you to feel your best too. And you might have more options than you think. Personally I think the pictures are more permanent than the ring, you could always get another ring in the future if you really want it, or have a nicer stone replace this one, etc. And like a lot of people said, you can get a nice ring for $6k. I got $6000 in lipo and I am glad I did. It makes a big difference in terms of those spots on your body that just seem to puff up every time you gain a pound or two. Now they actually keep their shape. If youre a responsible person without serious psychological body issues and you have a good doctor, I don't see a problem with lipo. I had laser lipo where I was awake the whole time, and it is cheaper too. I had it financed for a year so I pay under $400 a month for it. Rather than cutting so much into your ring budget you may want to consider doing that. You could pay yourself or split with your fiance? Remember though lipo is PAINFUL and takes a while to heal. If you're not getting much removed and it is right before the wedding, you could swell up enough you are actually bigger than when you started. You need to allow plenty of time. And of course you can't be a slug afterward, you still need to take care of yourself and watch what you eat. I know you said you're designing your ring so I see why it is an issue right now. But maybe put that off for a bit and stick with your temporary ring while you save up to the budget you want? As for me and my fiance, he thought I was beautiful before and after the lipo. I felt more confident after having had it done. You just have to do what feels right to you!

thousandk1

Well if you are considering Lipo .........you are probably not that overweight to be consider for bariatric surgery.............so I say hit the gym if you want to look good for your wedding. Plastic Surgery is such a waste of money. Especially in today's society save that $$ to use towards a house or a nice honeymoon. Yeah you might look and feel good after lipo but whats it going to do if your honeymoon is in your apartment bc you couldnt afford to go anywhere? Lastly I cant believe your fiance would even give you the option to choose how to use 10k between a ring and lipo or both.

olyrl1985

If you really wanted the lipo, have done. You have to feel happ with yourself that most important thing, buy a ring with the rest of the money. 10K is  too much money for just one ring.

tayrenae77

You can get a super nice ring for 6 grand....get the lipo, then you always have the option of trading in the ring later if need be!!!!

sobelleus

I am all for lipo, but you should weigh the risks and benefits. I, too, wanted lipo prior to my wedding but my (doctor) fiance was totally against it. It is SURGERY, there are RISKS involved, and you need *at least* 6 weeks to heal. And from what I hear from a dear friend, the healing process is not pretty. Hire a personal trainer. You'll feel and look good!

I wanted the ring that I would wear on my wedding day and have for a lifetime, not one that I would want to upgrade later. If you're like me, you'll want that $10K ring. You'll feel good when people notice and admire it. I'm not superficial, and don't wear any jewelry besides my e ring. I would marry my fiance with a tin foil ring, we're just fortunate to be able to afford more.

And I'm waiting until after children for that full body makeover!

tbonnell

Honestly, 10K for the ring alone is outrageous ... the majority of people I know lose their ring within the first five years anyways. I agree with those who say you should hire a trainer. Not only does it make you look great, but you will be so much happier and healthier in the long run. However, maybe you are one of those girls who is rockin anyways, and just have those love-handles that wont go away. Ultimately, the choice is yours, and you will get a million different pieces of advice here. Do what feels right for you! You are the one who will be living with your choice, so enjoy it!

xxxsexynegraxxx

I had the same option and I chose the lipo! You can find an AWESOME ring for 6k, use the 10k and get lipo you could even squeeze breat implants in there if you find the right price. Best decision I've made yet after saying "yes" to my fiance! Good Luck & God Bless!

bzmama

May I suggest instead of traditional lipo why not go for the Sono Bello option where its laser lipo with little time down and less risk than a regular lipo or so i've read. But i would do both things definitely.

KLDunn01

OK...My guess is that many of these people who are questioning your reasoning for even considering lipo have never struggled constantly with their weight. Having a weight problem is not as simple as just watching what you eat and to exercise. A weight problem is a lot like smoking. You can't just kick the habit and if you are lucky enough to kick it then it's a day to day struggle that doesn't go away!

I would like to inform you though that lipo is not a forever solution. A woman is born with so many fat cells in certain places in our bodies and when you take some of those away in certain places and don't change your eating habits and exercise then the fat cells in other places will expand. For example, if you remove the fat cells in your stomach, thighs and you keep eating and not changing the way you eat then other places where the fat cells have remained will enlarge, i.e. your back. Lipo is a continuous thing. Once you get lipo then more than likely you will have to have it again probably somewhere else.

I would have to lean more towards the personal trainer if you have the time and aren't dead set on a quick fix. Remember too that this is your decision and there isn't a wrong one, only the one that's right for you. I wish you the best of luck! Let us know which you decide.

P.S. Do not listen to the people saying 10K is outrageous. Yes, there are many beautiful rings out there for less and for those that are wondering, mine didn't even cost half of that, but it's your budget and you spend it the way you want to. For those that have lost their rings in the first 5 years, didn't seem to mean much then. I keep track of mine!!

KRN726

YES! I totally agree with pp. Do NOT listen to these people telling you that $10K is too outrageous. Just because they don't have that kind of budget doesn't mean it is wrong for you. I say make yourself happy and get both...and ignore the judgemental comments.

Miracle Cat

Any procedure that requires general anesthesia comes with serious risks. Obviously your FI loves every part of you (even the parts that most women don't like about themselves), clearly he wants to marry you. I'd say never mind the 10K ring, find a ring that you love and either put the rest of the $ away so you've got an emergency cushion just in case something happens that affects your income as a couple OR you could put  a good chunk of that $ down on a house or some property that you can build your home on at a later date. Lipo isn't the answer - I'm with the ladies who suggested Spanx - you'll smooth out everything you want to, you'll look great in your dress and as an added bonus you won't be undergoing major surgery or exposing yourself to the risks inherent with general anesthesia.

Your FI loves you for you, you need to love you for you!

KRDevine

10K is not a huge budget for a ring. Get something nice that will be with you forever and that you will love forever. Which is more important to you, your tummy size, or your fiance? How do you think you would feel if you offered the love of your life the option to design a ring with you, and she asked if she could use the money for something like lipo? It seems almost rude to expect him to be ok with that. Finally, liposuction is a temporary fix to a bigger problem. The results won't last forever. Your ring will. Decide which is more important to you: a temporary fix to something you see as being wrong with yourself, that clearly your fiance doesn't care about or he wouldn't have popped the question; or an eternal symbol of the deep, special bond and love you have for each other. Picture your ring not as a piece of jewelry, but as a symbol and an image of your love. Clearly, I would say screw the liposuction, hit the gym, remember that no one will see your tummy bc you'll have a dress on, give up a piece of yourself and commit to the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you can't take a step back from your own needs for a moment to consider what he sees the ring as meaning and symbolizing, then maybe you're not ready to share your life with him. 

KRDevine

Where did you get your ring? Walmart? 10K is the LOW end of the price range. 

KRDevine

YES! Thank you! Stop listening to people who had less of a budget than you! My ring was 10K, I love it, I love my fiance, and I love what he chose to symbolize his love for me. Trying to use money on lipo that he wants to spend on a ring to symbolize your love is just ridiculous and insensitive to your fiance. 

heyimbren

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_ring-lipo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:6b1704c6-f115-4056-841f-762cbfa11d59Post:2a5bc0ee-e217-4cbc-bace-dfa549975360">Re: Ring or Lipo?</a>:
[QUOTE]Where did you get your ring? Walmart? 10K is the LOW end of the price range. 
Posted by KRDevine[/QUOTE]

That is incredibly rude and untrue. There are all sorts of budgets for rings. Just because a ring doesn't cost thousands of dollars doesn't mean it came from Walmart.

Istremene

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_ring-lipo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:6b1704c6-f115-4056-841f-762cbfa11d59Post:a358a57f-95a5-4302-a989-be4dc6c55e18">Re: Ring or Lipo?</a>:
[QUOTE]Instead of lipo hire a personal trainer. Sure it's harder work, but it's healthier, you will look better (tone up those muscles!), and it will last longer. Or use it to buy a house, go on vacation, etc.
Posted by CSTK1910[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This.  After lipo, if your lifestyle hasn't changed you will still gain back the fat.  And if the surgery wasn't done correctly it will come back in odd places.  Try the trainer.  It is waaay better for you.

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psuedodragon

As someone else said, Lipo hurts. I know somebody that elected to try it after trying for several years to lose weight in other ways (he's tried diet, herbal magic, strict exercise regimes, etc, and has never been able to lose the weight). He got the lipo, suffered the pain, and then it still didn't work.
Part of how lipo works is that they inject a saline solution into your body before removing the fat. A lot of the saline solution remains behind (I believe he was told they removed 50lbs of fat) and you seep for a week or two and then your body is supposed to reabsorb the saline. It's been a year and he still hasn't reabsorbed it all.
I'm not saying don't get it, I'm just saying think about side effects, consequences, and risks.

As another little note, my local cosmetic surgery centre did a contest recently where two people (a man and a woman) were given lipo and six weeks of paid personal trainers to work with them as part of an advertising gimmick. The main message here is that, yes Lipo will get rid of some fat, but you still need to work out to get that "ideal" look.

nsimon

p.s. you can always do lipo at a later time if you still want that extra bit taken off!!

AUTeach

Girl, I had lipo on the same area....and I am so happy.  I know what it's like to have the problem area and do so much exercise without any results. Lipo is forever too (because fat cells don't grow back)...just don't gain weight.  You're lucky to have a man willing to pay for it...mine didn't want me to get it.  You will still get an amazing ring for 6K.  Most people, myself included, don't have rings that break the 3K mark.  But...make sure you're working with a board certified plastic surgeon and DO YOUR RESEARCH....understand your risks....TRUST ME....there are some horror stories. In the end, make the decision that is best for you.

AUTeach

P.S. Any doctor will tell you that lipo is for stubborn pockets of fat that do not respond to exercise.  A personal trainer will not help if you have stubborn fat in one centralized location.  This usually has to do with genetics.  The only way to get rid of the fat is to lose weight, but lipo is for those that do not want to lose a lot of weight.  Even with weight loss, those pockets will still be there, they may just be smaller.  To say "you have to work  hard" is an uneducated statement.  Sure, if you're overweight, a personal trainer and hard work is the right goal...but if you're at a healthy weight, have tried exercise and still struggle with fat deposits, lipo is a decision that may make sense.  You have to talk with your doctor.  No one elso can tell you the right decision for YOU!

AUTeach

Schway,
Yes, the fat cells do not grow back...but the left over ones grow BIGGER.  Therefore, the fat is not in weird locations....

tammylthomas

What kind of question is this anyway. Do you not have friends or family to help you on this matter, or is it you want to get on here and boast to complete strangers about your supposed issue. Some of us don't even have $10,000 to spend on a wedding much less an engagement ring. Personally I think you should put $4,000 on the ring, $2,000 on a personal trainer and take the rest for a much needed vacation to see how the poverty stricken live!

artemis_mooonfairy

I'm with the 'Hire a Trainer' crowd.  I work in an OR, and you don't want to know about how they pull and stretch and tug on your skin and body parts to do what they need to do.  You will be bruised for at least a month, and if you don't change your eating and exercise habits, it WILL all come back in a very short period of time.  You WILL have scars, and you WILL have ugly, wrinkled patches around the scars from where they inserted the liposuction tool and were pulling on your skin to move it around inside of you.  Surgery should ALWAYS be a last resort, unless you have more money than sense.  Wrkn925 did it the right way, for all the right reasons.  AND she waited, researched, and made sure that this was what she wanted for LIFE, not just one day.  A good boob job will last forever, but lipo definitely will not.
If you have enough money to spend 10k on a ring, you have enough money to hire a personal trainer to work with you AND a nutritionist to help you learn what and how much to eat.  These things WILL last a lifetime.
If you're doing this to feel better, be healthier, and look better for the long term, you're doing it for the right reasons.  If you're just getting lipo so you look good in your wedding dress, well, you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

staceymhanson

I would have to go with the people saying get a personal trainer instead! my FI step brother in-law is a plastic surgeon and he recomends people try to get muscle tone before they consider surgery because 1. you might not need surgery after all and 2. you will heal alot faster. As for 10k on a ring thats alot of money for a ring you have to consider how big will the ring actually be, again FI step sister doesn't wear her ring because its to big. But you need to decide whats right for you! If going under the knife is what you really want then good luck!

staceymhanson

As for 10K being low end. Your completely rude and that is a obnoxious thing to say!!!! Not everybody can afford that considering thats almost my entire wedding budget. We spent 2k on my ring and i wouldn't trade it for your ring any day!

MissGide

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_ring-lipo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:6b1704c6-f115-4056-841f-762cbfa11d59Post:e2604cb5-ad56-466d-9a32-7dc4e35f65c2">Re: Ring or Lipo?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why don't you just eat right and exercise?
Posted by Kyla0415[/QUOTE]
Hear hear - that way you can spend as much as you like on the ring <em>and</em> it's not the end of the world if you go a bit over the $6k, cause there's plenty to spare. Then maybe invest a bit of what's left in a gym subscription, and the remainder from that could be used to buy motivational treats for yourself as you meet short-term goals on the way to target weight!
Good luck with whatever you choose <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

MissGide

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring or Lipo? : That is incredibly rude and untrue. There are all sorts of budgets for rings. Just because a ring doesn't cost thousands of dollars doesn't mean it came from Walmart.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]
Absolutely! And even if it <em>did</em> come from Walmart ... would that change anything? Less money doesn't mean less love after all.
(That said, I'm Irish and haven't actually been to a Walmart. It may be worse than I think <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />)

zobogo

a girl i go to the gym with had lipo many years ago - didn't keep up on working out to keep the fat off & now the fat cells grow in & look like she has golf balls under her skin - not a good look.  don't know if she had a bad surgeon or if that's normal (seeing it was enough to scare me away from lipo).  put the money towards a personal trainer.  working for it is much more rewarding.

tinyboondockelf

The thing about lipo is, unless you change your life habits, it'll come back. That's where your body naturally stores fat; that's where it will continue to do so unless you commit to healthier eating and more exercise. As others have pointed out, 10k is a huge budget for a ring, and even if you don't really want to spend that money completely on the ring, you could put a portion of it to something that you're going to get more lasting enjoyment out of.

[Deleted User]

I'm not pro lipo, but for all those saying eat better and exercise instead, well sometimes it still doesn't come off. I lost 40 pounds over a year period eatin right and exercising but have plateaued for another year, that's with eating right and exercising daily. If offered lipo, I might consider it.  But this isn't about me it's about her. 

Again I can't a 10k or even 6k ring, but good for her if she can. I'm sure they have a home, savings, a great honeymoon, wedding etc if that is her ring budget.  So no need to suggest all the other things you can do with it, but while we're at it I'll take a donation to my wedding, lol. 

Anyway, get the ring and the lipo if that's what will make you happy on your wedding day. If you haven't tried working off the weight first, then maybe try that and get the bigger ring. You have one wedding day, but you can always upgrade a ring later. Which option makes you feel good on your wedding day and makes you happiest in the long run?