Are you kidding me?

nikkiblueeyes823

I'm with you girls! My wedding is years away but I value all of the info and real stories that you all share. I dont think I've read any reviews that would spark a situation like this. That guy needs a reality check. His loss of clients is his own doing. I myself wouldnt want to be told what I can say and what I cant say/do or not do. (why I quit my job this week). So I'll travel on over to the other side any day.

LyssaBella

I can't get over this! I agree with everyone here. TK is suppose to be a place for brides to come and help each other out with HONEST reviews etc. I think everyone, at least on the Boston board, has been very honest and very helpful to other brides. Why this board is being singled out its absurd and totally not fair. "Whats good for the goose is good for the gander" So if they are going to start allowing these Vendor posts on Boston they better do it everywhere else!And Jeni..WOW is all I can say about that guy! He is only hurting himself and his business. I agree with PP post the email!! lol

kates2480

and it's jerks like him that the knot is "standing up" for. that is absolutely insane and yes, harrasment. TK has now allowed brides to be harrassed, run away, RUN!

jkepros

I agree with all of you girls!  Vendors should be kept out EXACTLY bc of shady guys like that DJ!  Most knotties think before posting, and more often than not when a knottie is upset at a vendor, she DOESN'T mention exactly who it is.  And most of the time, if the vendor is good and helps resolve the issue the knottie writes an update with what he/she did to make good.  Quality vendors would never call someone out like that, so it really is a non-issue.  They say they changed the rule to let vendors respond, but GOOD vendors would never let it escalate to that level.  Bad DJ! 

EKobrenski

Haha ok, who's writing up the Knottie Declaration of Independence?

hapark11

New policy is totally whack.  I'm ready and willing to stick it the (wo)man and walk away from this place and head on over the land of Erilou.  I think it'd be way more fun, anyway.

GettinHitchedInMA

What a jerk. Can anyone point me to the original string so I know what is going on? Would love to get the juicy details.

EKobrenski

http://talk.theknot.com/boards/ShowPost.aspx?PostID=62186557&forumid=89That's it GettinHitched

erilouboston

We, the knotties of the Boston board, in an effort to form a more harmonious union, hereby declare our independence. We will uphold the values of free speech by supporting and encouraging reviews of vendors and services. Our goal is not to impugn or discourage brides from hiring services, but to stress the importance of research during the hiring process. All views expressed will be fair and balanced, with the community taking the role of self-censorship in the rare event that a post is suspicious. We declare that we will not be discriminated against. The knot is a community for brides. If vendors feel the need to defend themselves, they must find another avenue. Perhaps a new posting board, "Vendor Resolutions" or something to that effect, could be established where brides can directly interact with vendors, should they choose, in an effort to resolve any conflict or negative reviews of service. This rule should be followed for every board the knot hosts, not just the Boston board. Dated the twenty-fourth of September, in the year two thousand nine.

EKobrenski

Slow clap erilou!  I love it!  We need a new name though, we can't go as knotties...

foolforfood

where do you want my john hancock?

izzy9

This is absurd! Jeni I would have posted that email the second I recieved it. This DJ should be ashamed of himself - I'm with you girls! They can take our board but they can never take our FREEDOM!

junelley

I am late and just catching up on what happened here.  I don't like the new policy.  I don't see the need for vendors to post in this forum and I don't like how the they would get the last word after a review.  That's so silly.  As someone pointed out that the Boston board is singled out for this policy and maybe a Boston vendor's complaint prompted this new policy.  If that is the case,  that vendor is crap and everyone should avoid dealing with that vendor.  This is a forum for brides (so I thought) and we don't need vendors to come in and disturb our community.  I've always appreciated the reviews and brides should be able to give honest ones without having to censor anything worry about the vendors.@jenwindy - OMG WTH is wrong with the DJ?  I thought a vendor's normal response to criticism like pushy tactics would be to try not to be like that in the future, learning that brides don't like it, and NOT to email the reviewer and demand a check for customers lost. lol It's so absurd!  It really shows what kind of person he is, no?

MandahGirly

Just like us Bostonians to start a Revolution. Does this mean the Vendors/Knot admins are the British Redcoats? I saw we steal the Knot's supply of Bubble wands and throw them over Boston Harbor. HUZZAH!

Knottie6cd98948dcce890b

SO late on all of this, but seriously,if it wasn't for you Knotties, I probably would have made HORRIBLE wedding decisions. I'm with you!

erilouboston

Mandah - Fantastic! I'm all up for another tea party. They messed with the wrong city!

EKobrenski

Haha we should make little Révolution Bride siggie badges

Wishin986

Took me a while to figure out what was going on - but now that I have - I really do not understand why you would ever allow vendors to post.  Of course they are going to stand up for their company - but we aren't looking for their spiel we're looking for what has happened to other brides.  I have never been on any type of forum where vendors are allowed - regardless of the topic.  It just doesn't make sense.  They should be able to go through traditional marketing channels to get business and if they are having trouble because of bad reviews then that's their own fault.  They should offer a better product.

MandahGirly

Seriously, don't they know that Boston is where the Revolution was born!?!? We don't take anyone's sh*t! Oh God, PLEASE can someone make a Revolution Badge? That would be HILARIOUS

MandahGirly

P.S. I've got my musket ready

jenwindy

* Applause Erilou *  Eloquently written! I won't throw Mr. Slimy DJ to the dogs by publicly posting his emaills; he already did himself a disservice with his rebuttal. I will stand for the harassment policy though. No bride should have to put up a private battle for speaking her mind on here. Mr. Slimy DJ was relentless. I feel sorry for the next bride who upsets him.You gals are awesome. I want my badge!

erilouboston

Kobs - you mean like the one I just put in my siggy? Here's the tiny URL for any girls that want to add it! http://tinyurl.com/ydlko6b

foolforfood

hollah!

EKobrenski

hollah back!  Thanks E! I'm having trouble with mine for some reason, I just have to take out the * right?

MeaghanandMichael

Hey I know I am late to this butttt here is my take.On the one hand I COMPLETELY agree with you.On the other hand I wouldn't want us to abandon this board completely. I will totally check out the rogue board all the time. But, one of the main reasons I stay on here is because I am legitimately interested in helping new brides and I also like ot keep abreast of what is happening with weddings in Boston. I know this vendor debacle really hinders helping new brides, but I don't want to desert them entirely!

mcononico

Wow I am late on this! I haven't been posting on this board long but I have found this board to be so helpful already and all of the knotties who post on here are great. I think this DJ is way out of line and I especially can't believe her emailed Jenwindy after his post and fueled the fire more.. what an a**. This policy is way out of line and it needs to change... if it doesn't I'm def with the rest of you and going rogue!!

Krystalynne21

Jenwindy....you can tell him that HIS s&cky attitude just cost him more potential clients! He has no legal recourse to ask for a check anyway.  I looked at his website and decided against him loooooong before your post.  You are entitled to your opinion.....and quite honestly, I value your opinion much more that some DJ who thinks he's the sh!t

erilouboston

Meaghan - I totally agree with you, I'm on the board for the same reasons. I think though, that this policy change will hinder any attempt we make at honest advice and assistance. I don't want to abandon the board completely. That being said, when I'm back up that way next week, I may look into alternative methods for us all to post honest vendor reviews, with no advertising dollars at stake. That board would of course be a bit censored (no personal attacks on vendors, no potty-language, ha!) - but I feel we do that here already without the knot mods "assistance." If you read Shag's email response from Knot Annie, Annie brings up a good point - and I can see in other cases where a vendor might feel impugned by a bridezilla. But on this board, I have never (or maybe very rarely) seen a review that commented on a specific aspect of service that wasn't backed up by several other brides with the same complaint. It's that complaint the vendor should be addressing, not use our board as free advertising space, in which they have the last word.

jenwindy

Oh dear, you're still on vacation. What are you doing Knotting!?

erilouboston

Jeni - I DON'T KNOW! It's so beautiful outside! I just have such an issue when I feel like freedoms are being trampled! I'm very protective of things I hold dear, one of those things is the knot - it's the only place I can express myself honestly. I'm sure many of the other brides feel the same way. You can't b*tch about your MOH to your MOH! I worry that the vendor policy change is only the start. But seriously, I think I'm going now...for real... haha!