Let me start by saying I'm not new to TK. I've always just lurked without an account. I had never found the need to post before, until now.
We've set our date for November 19th, 2011. We're getting married three hours away from our home. We have not picked our BP yet, but pretty much know who we want. We had planned on asking right after the holidays. Everyone knows the date though, it's been set for at least 4-5 months.
Well FSIL has recently got engaged. Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy for her. She's been dating her FI for 7 years now, we knew it was coming. But, at Thanksgiving she announced she is getting married on November 18th, 2011. I've actually cried over this. We'll have basically the same guest list on FI's side. And most of them will have to travel to both weddings.
At first I thought, hey, we'll just move our wedding. But we've already put down 3 deposits and can't get any of them back. FSIL on the other hand has not done any planning. She's already ordered save the dates though. She plans on sending them out before Christmas.
We've tried talking to her about changing her date but she refuses. We'll loose almost $1500 if we change. And this is not an option. We can't afford to loose that money. But we don't people to have to choose which wedding they attend.