Talk about mean girls

Rosie109

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[QUOTE]Rosie that video is great, I've never seen that one.  Where do they find these families?
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

You need the see the whole episode. His dad mentions how you can't go directly off of bad foods (like a detox) you have to wean yourself off. Much like you do with cocaine.

BECAUSE THAT IS HOW YOU DEAL WITH A COCAINE ADDICTION.

ski2play

I have to ask, manhattansatin, are you feeling better now that you have this off your chest?

mica178

Is SAD making everyone BSC?  What is going on this week?  Bored students on winter break?  What?

Please watch the language and name-calling.

Perhaps I should give you all my appointment line so that butthurt people can be seen in my clinic.

whitsy

I still stand by what I said. A lot of people gave good advice. Sometimes it's just a matter of weeding through other responses that you didn't ask for (such as my response about her age comment), to get to the stuff you did ask for. I've started threads before that turned into wars because I got responses that I didn't want to hear. It happens. It's not a beatdown. It's just the nature of posting on a board where there are hundreds of posters.

manhattansatin

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[QUOTE]I haven't read that thread fully cause I don't give a crap.  In general, however, a lot of what causes the "school yard beatdown" as you term it, is stupidity on the part of OP in phrasing, not giving correct or giving insufficient information.  You get what you ask for.  The board (as it exists today) doesn't purposely try to find things wrong with what people post about on here.  For the specific thread you are speaking to, from an etiquette standpoint, yes, it's rude to invite one coworker over the other in such a small office.  Normally, it really is okay to only invite those with whom you are close.  But it's a two person office.  *shrug* For the record, there were people *I didn't, and still don't, like* invited to my 70 person wedding.  I didn't like doing it, but I did it because I didn't want to deal with the fallout. From what I read, that's what OP was told as well.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

I agree that OPs can get pretty defensive and see the advice as an attack. I'll say that 1,000 times over because I know it's very true. I'm not arguing the advice that was given. The thread I'm talking about was pretty gnarly for "just giving advice".

Snippylynn

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[QUOTE]Is SAD making everyone BSC?  What is going on this week?  Bored students on winter break?  What? Please watch the language and name-calling. Perhaps I should give you all my appointment line so that butthurt people can be seen in my clinic.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
And what would be the cure for this?  All I can think of is astroglide.

manhattansatin

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[QUOTE]I have to ask, manhattansatin, are you feeling better now that you have this off your chest?
Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

Yes actually

Rosie109

I still want to curse. Am I allowed to curse? I will nicely curse.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]I still want to curse. Am I allowed to curse? I will nicely curse.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

<div>Lint Licker. Or should I say Liint Liicker?</div>

Habs2Hart

Okay... I just went to read that thread, and there's someone from Pennsylvania that's screen name said "Habs2Hart" and it freaked me out!  I didn't write that. 

:: curles up in a corner and hides from TK glitches ::

dumdumfroggie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : And what would be the cure for this?  All I can think of is astroglide.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

<div>They also have those foam donut thingies.  </div>

Snippylynn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-mean-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:037ae6a5-1e95-419a-aa79-663cf5948cc7Post:b7c287fd-fd66-42ec-a47b-8e065f28b230">Re: Talk about mean girls</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : I agree that OPs can get pretty defensive and see the advice as an attack. I'll say that 1,000 times over because I know it's very true. I'm not arguing the advice that was given. The thread I'm talking about was pretty gnarly for "just giving advice".
Posted by manhattansatin[/QUOTE]
From what I read, that OP brought it on herself with her ridiculous comments about age, etc etc, and then defending it. 

whitsy

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : From what I read, that OP brought it on herself with her ridiculous comments about age, etc etc, and <strong>then defending it.</strong> 
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

Yep. If she had just stopped, and said, ok. Sorry about that! And let it go, it would have been fine. But she still defended it, multiple times. I don't care what the woman has said behind your back, it's still rude to say crap like she did and assume she knows the woman's personal life decisions.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : Yep. If she had just stopped, and said, ok. Sorry about that! And let it go, it would have been fine. But she still defended it, multiple times. I don't care what the woman has said behind your back, it's still rude to say crap like she did and assume she knows the woman's personal life decisions.
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]

That's what got me het up as well.

...also she was fun to play with. 

It was a bit like being a cat with a bug...

LDYGTR13

This is how I picture OP - like rawr, I'm gonna come in here and light sparks and people will be nice, grr!

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : Quit stealing my childhood photos.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

But you were so cute!

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-mean-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:037ae6a5-1e95-419a-aa79-663cf5948cc7Post:15e104cd-4d04-42cf-9f83-d58018ec0452">Re: Talk about mean girls</a>:
[QUOTE]This is how I picture OP - like rawr, I'm gonna come in here and light sparks and people will be nice, grr!
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

<div>Like me or I'll bite you!</div><div>
</div><div>I got bit in preschool once.  Dude tried to take my Tonka Truck!</div>

Snippylynn

Face it Manhattan.  We're a bunch of cynical, slightly (self) righteous, egotistical brats. We know what's right, we know what's wrong and we have our own set of moral codes around here. You don't have to like them, you don't have to want to be a part of them, but you DO have to realize that you are not going to change them. 

I can't even give you a gold star for effort on this one.

redheadfsu

OP- I posted in the one you thought was mean. I was actually trying to HELP the poster (as was everyone else in that thread). By you know, pointing out that she will have to find a new job as 50% (1 out of 2) of her co-workers are going to be a drama llama about not getting an invite, thus making staying at her current job impossible.

I swear what is with all the hurt feelings today?  I guess the newbs had too much eggnog and are starting the drunk girl "Everyone Hates ME!!!!" early/during the work day today.

sparent2010

Holy monkey balls I can't keep up with the crazy-

mkgrover

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[QUOTE]Holy monkey balls I can't keep up with the crazy-
Posted by sparent2010[/QUOTE]

<div>And it's only bound to get worse after Sunday.  Hang on to your britches folks.</div>

LDYGTR13

Ugh, I hate Christmas proposals.

mica178

The treatment for butthurt is: 1. more fiber and 2. buttrest.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]Ugh, I hate Christmas proposals.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

<div>Hahahahahahahaha I hadn't even thought of this.</div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : And it's only bound to get worse after Sunday.  Hang on to your britches folks.
Posted by mkgrover[/QUOTE]

And i'll be in the mountains with no internet.

So sad that I'll miss the entertainment.

Kokes28

I just joined and frequently see girls gang up on new posters here. I just created my account and am a little nervous to say anything as I don't want to be a target, so I'll probably just lurk. Unless I have some awesome advice to give, but that's what I would've done if I were you manhattan.
Also, I don't think that she is the same person because the poster in the 85 year old woman thing doesn't know how to spell advice... she spells it with an s. And it appears as though manhattan knows how to spell it. 

sparent2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : And it's only bound to get worse after Sunday.  Hang on to your britches folks.
Posted by mkgrover[/QUOTE]

Hahahaha ah... well biitch hats on ladies

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_talk-mean-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:037ae6a5-1e95-419a-aa79-663cf5948cc7Post:f51f0fb5-61fd-425b-9cf7-b0480e2c9c35">Re: Talk about mean girls</a>:
[QUOTE]I just joined and frequently see girls gang up on new posters here. I just created my account and am a little nervous to say anything as I don't want to be a target, so I'll probably just lurk. Unless I have some awesome advice to give, but that's what I would've done if I were you manhattan. <em>Also, I don't think that she is the same person because the poster in the 85 year old woman thing doesn't know how to spell advice... she spells it with an s. And it appears as though manhattan knows how to spell it. </em>
Posted by Kokes28[/QUOTE]

Nice catch!

I don't see that <em>new</em> posters get ganged up on.  I see that some new posters get very defensive when given good advice that they don't want to hear and they start fighting with people. 

I'm still pretty new and haven't gotten ganged up on or flamed yet. 

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]I just joined and frequently see girls gang up on new posters here. I just created my account and am a little nervous to say anything as I don't want to be a target, so I'll probably just lurk. Unless I have some awesome advice to give, but that's what I would've done if I were you manhattan. Also, I don't think that she is the same person because the poster in the 85 year old woman thing doesn't know how to spell advice... she spells it with an s. And it appears as though manhattan knows how to spell it. 
Posted by Kokes28[/QUOTE]
We don't gang up on or give snarky answers to posters with their feet planted firmly in polite reality. If you're coming here, asking how to be rude to the ELDERLY, we're going to set you straight. If you come here asking a sane question, then you'll be treated with kindness.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk about mean girls : Nice catch! I don't see that new posters get ganged up on.  I see that some new posters get very defensive when given good advice that they don't want to hear and they start fighting with people.  I'm still pretty new and haven't gotten ganged up on or flamed <strong>yet</strong>. 
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>Watch out "they're" coming for ya!</div>