Vegetarian/no alcohol

punkyb2b

What would "offend" you more as a wedding guest- an all vegetarian, meat free wedding or a no alcohol wedding?  Why is the former deemed worse than the latter?  They both save money and most people can go a meal without meat or a night without booze. 

ffmaid

vegitarian woudl bother me more. Alcohol is fun but well I woudl assume it was because the bride and groom could not afford it. Vegitarian is someone trying to force their belief system and eating habits on me. Either would have me leaving a wedding earlier to get the missing item

ndzenowski

I can't imagine a vegetarian meal that most of my family or friends would enjoy. What are some examples? I think the no alcohol issue depends on your friends and family also. No alcohol and no meat in my family would not fly.

danieliza1127

If it's an evening reception, I'd rather have alcohol and go without meat.  If it's an afternoon reception, I'd be fine with no alcohol.  I can go one night without either, sure, but if you want me to dance and stay all night, give me a few drinks.

wadingmoose

No meat.  I don't go a day without meat.  I often go weeks and months without booze.

SwedishChick2011

I personally would not be offended by either.  I'd be disappointed if the food sucked or if there were no soft drinks, though.

sol_star

Neither one would bother me but then I was a vegetarian for a few years.

salt78

Alcohol is more fun to party with than meat.

Kati0105

Depends on the type of vegetarian offerings.  Yummy meat-free pasta would be easy for me to scarf down after a few glasses of wine.  I am terrible at both dancing and mingling, so an alcohol-free wedding would be painful for me.

betrothed123

I wouldn't be offended by either.  I don't need alcohol to have a good time, and I know of a lot of meat-free dishes (for example some pasta dishes) that are fabulous.

punkyb2b

We had meat at ours, and an open bar.  I dont eat meat ( not because of animal reasons), but wouldnt mind being at an event where either of the above is done.  I dont find it a huge deal. Although I do like alcohol, and would prefer a wedding that had some

TiDa2009

I would prefer alcohol over meat, but neither would offend me.  The way I see it, though, is that people think it rude when vegetarian meals aren't offered to vegetarian guests.  So, why isn't rude not to have non-vegetarian meals for the non-vegetarians?I personally wouldn't care what was served at a wedding, but I just thought I'd throw that out there.

Pirata13

Easy--alcohol. You can create vegetarian dishes that are awesome and not just spaghetti with marinara.  Now I want a glass of wine.

vallyhoo

The reverse what Wading said. No booze. I don't go a day without booze. I often go weeks and months without meat.

amandasw

I'd pick the meat over the alcohol any day. I love me some cow.

cbell090509

While I could go without either, I would rather have the alcohol.  Maybe I'm biased because I don't eat a lot of meat anyway.  There are so many yummy vegetarian meals out there that I wouldn't miss the meat at all.  However, I was thankful for the alcohol at the last wedding I went to.  It sure made it easier to be around FH's family. 

betrothed123

So, why isn't rude not to have non-vegetarian meals for the non-vegetarians?A vegetarian does not eat meat.  Most people who eat meat will still eat dishes lacking meat (for example, do you NEED meat in your potatoes?).  There's a big difference there, IMO.

ac_in_dc

Neither one would offend me. But I'd definitely leave earlier if there was no booze. I never realized y'all were so meaty.

lyndausvi

I would not be offended.  But I would be more disappointed in a dry wedding than a vegetarian wedding.   Why?  I like to drink socially. 

Leah&Christian09

Neither would offend me, but I'd be more annoyed at no-alcohol.  You can do some excellent meals without meat, especially pasta dishes.  But a cheeseburger is not going to encourage me to get out on the dance floor. 

mandysmear

I can deal with vegetarian.  But, let me have things with eggs and dairy pleaseandthankyou.So, I would rather have a vegetarian meal than no alcohol.

danieliza1127

Haha, Salt said it best!FWIW, I wouldn't be "offended" by either.  Why get offended over what someone does or doesn't serve?  I just wouldn't be likely to stay until midnight without drinks.

fangsiting

"The way I see it, though, is that people think it rude when vegetarian meals aren't offered to vegetarian guests. So, why isn't rude not to have non-vegetarian meals for the non-vegetarians?"Because many vegetarians that don't eat meat for moral reasons think it is wrong to serve meat and there is nothing morally objectionable about eating vegetables.  Not serving veg food at a non-veg's wedding means that the vegetarian doesn't eat.  Not serving meat a veg wedding means that guests get a complete meal...just one without meat.  That said, I would never say it is rude for a non-veg to not have something special for me to eat.  It's greatly appreciated, but I would never expect anyone to go out of my way to feed me.  For the OP--I wouldn't be offended by either, but I'd take alcohol over meat any day of the week. 

zippityb

Why must we choose? The theme of my wedding will be hedonism.

fangsiting

oops, go out of THEIR way to feed me. 

TiDa2009

A vegetarian does not eat meat. Most people who eat meat will still eat dishes lacking meat (for example, do you NEED meat in your potatoes?). There's a big difference there, IMO. Very true.  All I'm trying to say is that if the reception meal is catering to your guests, then you should have options for both.  Like I said before,  it wouldn't bother me if there were no meat.  I wouldn't complain or be offended for something that was offered to me free of charge.  That would be rude.

ThePinkSuperhero

I could survive a meat-free, alcohol-free wedding.  With the right people, anything can be fun.

ffmaid

fang- that can not be true or you are the one high and mighty vegitarian who would not complain if a bbq did not have veggie burgers ect. Veggitarians complain if there is not a vegitarian option. Most hosts put a lot more per person effort into veggitarian guests then they do their average guests because of the this.  So if vegitarians as a group generally complain and are unhappy if there is no vegitarian option they should offer an option to their guests of things that would make their guests happy thats called being a good hostess. Also in a vast majority of cases it is not that people could not eat meat just that they make the choice not to eat meat. So these folks shoudl respect the choice not to eat all vegitables without forcing this thought on others. Food and drink are the two most memorable things about a wedding when you go dry or vegitarian you make sure your wedding will not be remembered for how wonderful it was but for how badly hosted

buttaflai

You can sneak alcohol in your purse. You could try to sneak meat, but I don't think that will work as well.

ofeliaknits

I am a vegetarian, so I think it's pretty obvious what I'd choose.  I can tell you that though I do eat soy and spouts and other "gross" (read: actually really delicious) foods, I have had some *fantastic* meals not including those foods.  My FI eats whatever I cook every night, and he loves his meat.  But because I make really great meals, he doesn't miss the meat at all.  Since I've been specifically asking about what's the best veg meal a site can make for me, I can tell you that the best I've seen is a Veg Napoleon with stacked grilled veggies and other deliciousness.  Even places that didn't have really great food told me that they'd do whatever veg dish I wanted because it was so easy.

wadingmoose

Honestly, if your crowd likes to drink, you're a pretty bad host if you don't offer booze.If your crowd consists of the cattle ranching type, you're a pretty bad host for throwing carrot casserole at them