NWR: Adopting a child

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

when i was in my 20's i could think of nothing more than having a child of my own. now that i am almost 32 i can say that my thoughts have changed! i am no spring chicken, and with my health issues, i just don't think i could handle a baby! i know my husband would not cope well either.Yeah, my fiance will be 36 when we get married. I'd like to try to have a baby 2-3 years later, and I think he'd like 2 total (though I might be okay with just one). If we can't get pregnant in a fairly timely manner, I'm just going to start the adoption process. I'm not a big fan of IVF or other invasive methods when there are needy children out there to be had. Personal opinion.

thesuninherhead

I can't answer your questions about it being easier, but I do know that there are lots of children awaiting adoption in the US from the child protection system. The issue is that many of these children are high-needs- children who experience abuse and neglect frequently come with psychological issues, developmental issues and attachment problems. It takes a very dedicated and patient parent to work through these with an adoptive child. It's certainly not something I'd class as 'easier' than a baby. If you are really interested in this, you could always try fostering for awhile first and see how you deal with it. There's a lot of checks (at least, here in Australia there are) that you'll have to go through before you can do that, though, including training on child development etc. FI and I were going to do 'emergency' fostering for children last year, but we got so busy that we didn't have a chance to complete all of the necessary training (which is basic, but required) yet.