EFF YOU!

ring_pop

ffmaid, valid point or not, some things are better left unsaid. Can we exercise a little sensitivity here?

cmhershey

I'm sitting her with my mouth open.  What a horrible human being!  Ugh...can we hang Fat Dave by his balls?

pumpkinpumpkin

Ok, I can understand that I opened myself up for personal comments when I opened up my personal life. You got me there.

cmhershey

Ok, I can understand that I opened myself up for personal comments when I opened up my personal life. True, but it does not excuse the sickening comments he made.  You have more than every right to be upset.

pumpkinpumpkin

This guy lives in a religious/spiritual community but still had the nads to say "hopefully it doesn't turn out well". Well, that's one of the issues. Hutterites are generally pretty dishonest, and most of them are thieves, scammers, etc. - because they don't earn their own money, they never have needs that aren't fulfilled, but they never get to just go buy something of their own. If you ever ask a hutterite why he's being dishonest, he'll level with you, tell you the things I said above, followed by, "God will forgive us of our sins on Sunday". I've heard this so many times.

Bubbalub

Ok, I can understand that I opened myself up for personal comments when I opened up my personal life. You got me there. Perhaps, but that still would never excuse what Fatass Dave said. The only appropriate response to news like that in the workplace is "I'm sorry to hear that." I read that Hutterite link you sent and now I'm even more horrified at this guy. Ugh.

wadingmoose

ffmaid clearly does NOT understand how small towns work.At all.

mandapanda78

"God will forgive us of our sins on Sunday"Yeah. I've heard people of many religions use this reasoning. The basic lack of human decency it implies makes me feel kind of ill. This whole situation makes me feel kind of ill. I'm going to go kick things.

BecW2be

ffmaid clearly does NOT understand how real life works.

atobias1

ffmaid, you agreed this guy was wrong to say that. Just stop there out of respect for her. I understand (don't agree with, but understand) what you are saying but there is not point. There's no going back in time. It happened. Have some respect for a girl whose fi just got cancer FFS.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

P2, I get what you're saying about the small town. It's a totally different world, especially if you've never lived in one before. Everyone knows your business, and people are hurt if they didn't hear your business straight from your mouth. I've never worked in a small town, but I imagine the same thing is true. I go anywhere in H's hometown, and people come up to me and congratulate me on the wedding, ask how H's job is, ask how we like the new house, etc. I've never met these people. It's just one of the charms of small-town living

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Ugh, I cannot even imagine a person so insensitive that they would joke about something like this... not to mention be serious.  I'm sorry.

ffmaid

Fine P2 Although I view crying at work as unproffesional as well. It is not like I do not know what you are going thru . It sucks big time. I had to deal with it a few years ago. I told my boss due to doctors appointments but I did not tell my coworkers until the day the chemo made me lose my hair. It is awful but it is personal. I'm sorry he was a twit.

salt78

Oh my god I'm very late on this, but I wish I could throatpunch that guy.

kikibaby

Crying at work may be unprofessional, but I think it can be forgiven for chrissake.  You know, like when someone you love has cancer.

britne28

And this guy is single because....?  I'm gobsmacked that he is so dense.  But he's SOL because there are so many positive affirmations coming to you and your FI that his negativity won't make a dent.  And there's no room for debate on this thread!  P2 and her family just got the rug ripped out from under them.  The only thing they need right now is support. 

wadingmoose

What you don't understand, FFmaid, is that small towns are infinitely different than a city.  I can walk into a grocery store here and never, ever see those people again.  Ever.I rarely bump into people from work anywhere outside of work or work-related activities.  It just doesn't happen - well, there are the guys I see at home depot all the time, but they're exceptions to the rule.In a small town, you know everyone.  You walk into the grocery store and have a 5 minute discussion with the cashier about your family, or their family or crazy Joe down the road and what he did yesterday.There are no secrets in a small town.  None.  Unless you actually tell NO ONE about what's going on.  But that's impossible to do in a small town.  Dear god, I've heard people say to my Mom, "Did I see you guys going to Saskatoon last week?"  Honest to god.There are people who go to the hospital JUST to visit with anyone that's in there.  And the patients in the hospital will go and visit each other because they all know each other.

BecW2be

Crying at work may be unprofessional, but continuing to argue such an insanely stupid point is not only meanhearted but tacky, uncouth, disgusting and trashy. I'll go for unprofessional over twatcustardish anyday, ffmaid.

kikibaby

*high five* Bec.

betrothed123

Small towns are a whole different ball park than a big city.  I had an IUD inserted a few weeks ago, and within 20 minutes of getting home everyone and their mother was calling to make sure I made it through the procedure okay.  I hadn't told a soul what I was going in for, and neither did my H.  We were the only ones that knew.  There are no secrets in a small town, no matter how hard you try to kee something quiet. Although I view crying at work as unproffesional as well. And this?  OMFG, FFmaid, STFU and GTFO.  You don't have to type everything that comes into your head.

opalsky007

I was about to write a rebuttal to ffmaid, but I don't think anything I've got can top "twatcustardish".

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

twatcustardishWord of the day? Please??Bec, calm down, we don't need you having a heart attack on top of everything else. I'm worried for your health, love

ac_in_dc

I had an IUD inserted a few weeks ago, and within 20 minutes of getting home everyone and their mother was calling to make sure I made it through the procedure okayOhmygod, that freaks me the fuuck out.

pumpkinpumpkin

Although I view crying at work as unproffesional as well. I'm done.

mandapanda78

twatcustardish. i am beside myself. that is the most awesome word ever. (and completely appropriate here)

wadingmoose

::Hugs::Yep.  I did that to you P2.  I know how much you LOVE it.   Just for fun...::MORE hugs!::

betrothed123

I had an IUD inserted a few weeks ago, and within 20 minutes of getting home everyone and their mother was calling to make sure I made it through the procedure okayOhmygod, that freaks me the fuuck out. Welcome to small town life.  It can be a bit annyoing, but it's really nice when someone is trying to break into your house and the neighbor knows for a fact they've never set foot in it while you were there.  We tend to watch out for each other a lot when we know everything about each other.

BecW2be

But I make up good words when I'm this worked up, Vogt.

vallyhoo

*HUGS**BEAR HUGS*I am the most unprofessional person in the world because I have cried at work from laughing so hard. How's that for a conundrum.

wadingmoose

I cried at work when I found out my Grandpa died.  And then when FI sent me flowers after he found out.No one called me unprofessional.Nor did anyone call my old boss unprofessional when her husband died and she cried at work a few times.I love Twatcustardish.  LOVE it.