EFF YOU!

amalama · October 2009

Wow what a jackass! I'm sorry about him and about your fiance pumpkin. But I'm glad your boss took your side, which is one of the upsides of living/working in a small town. And stories like Betrothed's (I think it was her with the IUD) is why I stopped going to the doctor in my hometown as soon as I could. So much gossip.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

True! I hope that word stays in Knot circulation for a long, long time.

pumpkinpumpkin · October 2009

Bec and Moose, I love you. And everyone else in this thread, except for the obvious.

wadingmoose · October 2009

Na na na na na! P2 loves me.Oh, and Bec too. But she LOVES me.And Bec.

kikibaby · October 2009

I definitely cried at work when my grandfather died. Big, snot-bubble, sobby crying. My boss hugged me and told me to go home and be with my family. She still thinks I'm professional.

squirrly · October 2009

Crying in a meeting because someone doesn't like your powerpoint = unprofessional. Crying in your office because of a major medical issue with you or someone you love = totally reasonable. Some people (ahem, ffmaid) deal with tough situations by bottling everything up inside, not telling anyone & trying to ignore the issue so that nobody else notices & makes them feel bad/guilty/etc. Some people deal by reaching out for support. Whichever one works for you is fine. But don't be judgy because somebody else picks a different method.

tidetravel · October 2009

Does anyone else find it ironic that for all of the spelling errors in ffmaid's posts, that she obviously can spell cuss words. There are a lot of stars in those posts.(unless she's putting the stars in herself, which is just silly)

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

Tide, fuuuck is an important word, everyone should learn to spell it correctly

ffmaid · October 2009

A S S is an easy word to type

BecW2be · October 2009

I will onlyl refer to that user as fyyffmaid from now on. FuckYouYouFuckingFuckmaid is much more appropriate than simply ffmaid.

3plus2=5 · October 2009

I'm sorry P2 that you had to listen to such an obtuse person. Comments like that are not appropriate in any situation.The small town stories reminded me of one of my own.The town I, for the most part, grew up in was much smaller than it is today, about 5000 people. In Grade 10 a couple of friends and I decided to skip a period in the afternoon and go hang out at the pool hall. By the time I got home after school, my mother had received 6 phone calls from people asking if she was aware that I was not in school and of all places at the pool hall.

wadingmoose · October 2009

3plus2, I learned VERY early that if I did anything out of line, Mom would know about it before I got home.The plus side was that the police knew us and our family and I babysat for them. I've been pulled over, even after leaving, and had the officer say "******'s daughter? Have a good night."Yeah.

pumpkinpumpkin · October 2009

HAHAHA, Bec, I think I just blew a snot bubble, because I'm being really unprofessional, and kinda crying at work (not bcause of fyyffm) still over the comment and everything in general...but fuckyouyoufuckingfuckmaid made me LAUGH. Hard.

ffmaid · October 2009

Bec- I really do not understand why you are so mad at me. I did not insult you. I did not insult pumpkin. I did not even agree with or approve of the jerk that is pumpkins client. I simply made the horrible hidious mistake of trying to help her and tryiong to explain how to avoid having to deal with hidious jerk clients commenting on her private life. I did not mean it in a mean way. But she is rightly upset at this horrible treatment that the jerk client treated her to. I said what I said not to be mean but to be helpful. When you make something public it is open to public comment and that was the horribly unproffessional thing she did which has clearly come back to bite her in terms of being very upset. Her FI has cancer and that is awful and really hideous miserable private struggle. When you make a private struggle public things go very bad. I meant it in a helpful way and to give a perspective that was another way of thinking about the issue and a way to prevent the issue from happening again ( although I truly hope nothing this horrible ever happens again)

BecW2be · October 2009

Well then my job here is done. I love you, and I hope you can smile through this, and come out on the other end stronger and smarter and more brilliant than you ever imagined possible. And never be afraid to step squarely on the throats of those who are too stupid to STFU. Shut them the FU with the ball of your foot.

3plus2=5 · October 2009

Oh, it certainly had its advantages as well.We had 3 businesses within the family in this town at the time, as well as being very involved with the Lion's Club. Everybody knew who the R's were even if it was just by sight. When I had my children at the hospital there, they had to give me a private room both times because of all the gifts I received. It was also really cool to have the same nurses there to deliver both children.

eastunder1 · October 2009

I normally find fffmaid pretty awesome with her straight talk, but in some circumstances it's better to just bite your tongue. It's called tact. Try it. I'm sorry about Marks cancer P2. This is the first I've heard of it. I hope all goes well.

squirrly · October 2009

really hideous miserable private struggleffmaid - it's not private for them. That's what she's been saying. It's a public struggle. They WANT their friends to know so that they can be supportive. That's their choice.

pumpkinpumpkin · October 2009

I did not insult pumpkinUm...yes you did. Am I sitting here worrying about what you said? Abso-freaking-lutely not. But yes, you did insult me. Here's just a few examples: - it's unprofessional to tell my co-workers about Mark's condition - it's unprofessional try cry at work over a personal matter - it's unprofessional to have a social relationship with my clients (who, btw, are my friends and neighbours) - I opened myself up to comments like Fat Dave's when I exposed his condition - saying repeatedly that the receptionist was in the wrong, when I made it pretty clear in my very first post that I was okay with it (hence, none of your business what you think).There's more, but we'll stop there.

BecW2be · October 2009

You have repeatedly insulted her and continue to do so by calling her choice to inform her workplace of her current state of mind which resulted from her husband's medical condition "horribly unprofessional". It's neither horrible nor unprofessional. You are a douchebag for even suggesting it once, but NO, you have to keep coming back to drizzle more stupidity and insensitivity on the subject. It infuriates me. No one gives afuck that you are some stuck up, repressed, stone-hearted twatpimple who can't deal with her issues by sharing life's situations with other people. Go thefuck away and leave her alone. The more you try to justify your nasty attitude, the bigger a doucebag you become. STOP IT.

atobias1 · October 2009

ffmaid it was several things.In the beggining you tried to say maybe he meant it as a joke. Doesn't make it okay, doesn't make her feel better.then you just have really crappy timing. I believe you that you gave your advice not to be mean, but to try to help her, but dude. Seriously consider your timing. She JUST found out, had some slime ball hit on her and tell her he hopes her fi dies. You pick THIS moment to tell her she shouldn't be spreading around her personal life.... seriously??

ffmaid · October 2009

Pumpkin I'm sorry.

TnJBonnell · October 2009

What a D!ck!

pumpkinpumpkin · October 2009

Thanks Eastie. Also, it's not like I want the public to know - or want the attention that comes with it, but in some cases, I know some people are going to be hurt hearing things through the rumour mill, and that's what I'm trying to stop. Maybe my receptionist was wrong by bringing it up in the first place, but I'm not that concerned. I don't want a public struggle, but there are certain people who will need to know what is going on in my personal life. Ie - I had 3 client meetings scheduled for next Wednesday (Mark's first treatment). I had to call and re-schedule, I was honest and up-front about it, because I anticipate that these won't be the last meetings I'll have to re-sched, and there's no point lying and beating around the bush. ffmaid - your comments weren't helpful at all. What's done is done, I can't go back and change things, and that's why your comments weren't helpful. Mentioning that the receptionist should be fired and that crying at work is unprofessional does not equal being helpful. At all.

pumpkinpumpkin · October 2009

Thank you, ffmaid. Ok, I'm really done with it now.

sudslover · October 2009

I had to look up what a hutterite colony was and came to the conclusion that there has been too much inbreeding in FD's area. Thank God the majority of people are kind and supportive. I'm sorry you had to experience this type of trash.