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Snippylynn

So, LDY, if you agree with me, why would you then say that my posting a thread is AWish? It's an effort to stimulate more conversation. I used to do it all the time when we lived in Italy and no one said boo to me. It usually sparked conversation about where I went and what it was like, etc. I am trying something that worked in the past.

Maybe everyone should think of it that way instead of "There goes Snippy, being an AW again." I mean, what am I being AW about? Really? Everyone posts something on here to talk about LUNCH (FFS) is fine, but me taking a day trip to a castle isn't?

That's fuucked up. Unless you have issues with me talking- at all- about my life here? I just really don't get it.

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]And honestly, <strong>if most of topics of conversation were remotely interesting, I'd probably feel like participating</strong>, but it's just a bunch of bullshit. It's like you're all just here, taking up space. Not that you have to be discussing world peace or the UN, but DAMN.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

So you think everyone else thinks your dog is just SO much more interesting? I think the general consensus here is that nobody cares about your damn dog anymore.

chirpchirp

The fact that you seriously think that the only reason I would have found something obnoxious about Snippy is because of her comment on flaming  is deluded.  The "get over yourself" comment was because you think you must have it all figured out.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I know this gets said a lot and maybe you've been trying, I'm not around much bc this posting from my phone shiit is LAME, but why don't you (anyone who complains about this) start talking about something interesting? Everyone jumps on Chels for posting links to articles and starting discussions, but then complain that no one is discussing anything. WTF do you want?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
I would if I had something to say, but I dont most of the time. I dont have time to think of new threads to post most of the time. And if I do, I post something. <div>
</div><div>I'm just saying there are conversations that I'm not invested in so I don't post in them...no harm/no foul. </div>

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I know this gets said a lot and maybe you've been trying, I'm not around much bc this posting from my phone shiit is LAME, <strong>but why don't you (anyone who complains about this) start talking about something interesting?</strong> Everyone jumps on Chels for posting links to articles and starting discussions, but then complain that no one is discussing anything. WTF do you want?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

This is so true

dmiller9274

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think that it is admirable to work to change your vocabulary to eradicate offensive terms.  I just start to take issue when people get rude policing others on their own usage. <strong> I've told FI that the N word and the F word (the homophobic one) are offensive to me, and please try to avoid using them in my presence.  Can I change his vocabulary? No. </strong> But can I make him aware of how it affects me in a polite respectful way? Sure. My sister on the other hand who called him out in front of my extended family for using the "R word, that I see as rude and unhelpful.
Posted by NYCFoodieBride[/QUOTE]
I don't associate people using retarded or lame as being incredibly hateful, insensitive? sure, but not hateful.  The bolded words? yeah that's just hateful and pretty gross that anyone thinks it's acceptable to use those words. 

josephwedding

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think that it is admirable to work to change your vocabulary to eradicate offensive terms.  
Posted by NYCFoodieBride[/QUOTE]

<div>Just caught up on all the threads.  I agree with this. I generally try to steer clear of offensive terms. Silly has slowly become my replacement for the "R" word.</div><div>
</div><div>I swear a lot less than I used to as well. A lot more people are offended by swearing than I previously imagined, and I just feel I can better expand my vocabulary by learning non-derogatory terms in their place. </div>

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]The fact that you seriously think that the only reason I would have found something obnoxious about Snippy is because of her comment on flaming  is deluded.  The "get over yourself" comment was because you think you must have it all figured out.
Posted by chirpchirp[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh FFS.  You're a real fucking peach.  </div>

Snippylynn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : So you admit that you'd think it's weird if it was a total stranger? I agree - I think it's strange in general if people post whole threads about their animal, but I guess I've always seen you as a more hard edged and serious person than someone who would talk about their dog prancing around a castle, so that's what strikes me as strange about all of your Lucy threads.  But I'm sorry if I'm wrong - it happens a lot.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]
LDY, I am not at all hard edged and serious. At all. I find hilarity in everything, and am often described as a goober.

You know me from a computer. Which means that you know a fraction of my personality.

And 'all of my Lucy threads' considering that was the first one I have posted in god knows how long? You are so ridiculous.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : So you think everyone else thinks your dog is just SO much more interesting? I think the general consensus here is that nobody cares about your damn dog anymore.
Posted by ILoveToRobot[/QUOTE]

Woah, nobody said that. It's just that some of us feel like posting the same things in a chit-chat thread already going on would be better. Lucy is adorable.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I don't associate people using retarded or lame as being incredibly hateful, insensitive? sure, but not hateful.  The bolded words? yeah that's just hateful and pretty gross that anyone thinks it's acceptable to use those words. 
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]



Agreed. The f*g and the N word are never, ever even close to being acceptable. I don't think anyone using them means anything except hatefulness which I don't believe is the case with retarded or gay. Totally different plane to me.

annakb8

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I know this gets said a lot and maybe you've been trying, I'm not around much bc this posting from my phone shiit is LAME, but why don't you (anyone who complains about this) start talking about something interesting? Everyone jumps on Chels for posting links to articles and starting discussions, but then complain that no one is discussing anything. WTF do you want?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not LDY, but I know for me, I'm just not good at starting threads. I guess I usually don't think people will be interested in the same stuff as me.</div><div>
</div><div>I try to make a point not to complain about things being boring, however I have found myself posting less (and lurking on TN much more) than I ever used to before. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, the problem with Chelsea's threads is that the articles rarely are interesting. </div><div>
</div><div>ETA: I guess she is trying though, so snaps for that. </div>

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think that it is admirable to work to change your vocabulary to eradicate offensive terms.  I just start to take issue when people get rude policing others on their own usage.  I've told FI that <strong>the N word</strong> and the F word (the homophobic one) are offensive to me, and please try to avoid using them in my presence.  Can I change his vocabulary? No.  But can I make him aware of how it affects me in a polite respectful way? Sure. My sister on the other hand who called him out in front of my extended family for using the "R word, that I see as rude and unhelpful.
Posted by NYCFoodieBride[/QUOTE]

Like THE "n" word?  The one that rhymes with Tigger?  FOR SERIOUS!!  I know that the other "f" word is also offensive, but I didn't know that people nowadays still thought about the "n" word.  That blows my mind. 

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF :  I've told FI that the N word and the F word (the homophobic one) are offensive to me, and please try to avoid using them in my presence. 
Posted by NYCFoodieBride[/QUOTE]
You have to tell him this?? He uses those words?

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well, it's certainly not a compliment.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Sorry, I should have said "I don't think of it as a politically incorrect insult."  My bad.

mica178

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[QUOTE] I also don't buy "lame" as a derogatory term.  The second dictionary definition (according to Merriam Webster) is "lacking needful or desirable substance" -- which is EXACTLY the way the way the word is used on the boards.  I have yet to see anyone use it as derogatory slang referring to people with disabilities.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

What's your point?  Go look up "gay" or "retarded" in the dictionary, and some of the definitions are non-insulting, non-derogatory as well.

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I don't associate people using retarded or lame as being incredibly hateful, insensitive? sure, but not hateful.  The bolded words? yeah that's just hateful and pretty gross that anyone thinks it's acceptable to use those words. 
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

I agree. NYC I am actually really surprised your FI uses those terms so much that you actually have to tell him to stop. That just blows my mind.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : You have to tell him this?? He uses those words?
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]



Those were my initial thoughts. No way in hell could I marry someone who thinks that language is ok. It says a lot about who he is fundamentally as a person.

FutureMrsTR

Anna - it's the complaining and not doing anything about it that is annoying. Although I bet you'd be surprised at what people will talk about with you

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Those were my initial thoughts. No way in hell could I marry someone who thinks that language is ok. It says a lot about who he is fundamentally as a person.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Eye to eye.

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I know this gets said a lot and maybe you've been trying, I'm not around much bc this posting from my phone shiit is LAME, but why don't you (anyone who complains about this) start talking about something interesting? Everyone jumps on Chels for posting links to articles and starting discussions, but then complain that no one is discussing anything. WTF do you want?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Word.</div><div>
</div><div>

</div>

Snippylynn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Those were my initial thoughts. No way in hell could I marry someone who thinks that language is ok. It says a lot about who he is fundamentally as a person.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
Completely agree.

ErinG93

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : This, minus the lurking on TN because that place still scares me. <strong>If you (general you) want it to be dramatic and crazy around here, go on with your bad self. If you want an interesting thread, start one. Fuucking complaining about it all the time is getting old.</strong>
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Agreed. Also, TN has so many fuucking boards I can't figure out where people post.

</div>

LDYGTR13

I guess I should have said that there aren't as many conversations now that Im as invested in - which is totally fine - but that's why I'm not around as much. I'm not complaining at all, but I've just got less time to talk about things like lunch, etc. Now, unless someone's being a ceeyounexttuesday about something that I'm super involved in or whatever, I just don't have much time for it. 

But like I said, when I do have time (like today) I contribute, or, like yesterday, I start a thread...

Beachy730

I feel like the only threads that get a lot of posts are random chit chat threads, drama threads, or contraversial ones.  So even when people post an article or something, if it's not contraversial then conversation doesn't usually go far.  Then when it is contraversial, people get all butt hurt and take things personal.  So then people stay away from contraversial things.  That's at least my take on why there is a lack of things to talk about.  Not complaining, it's just that's how I feel like things go.

Bubbalub

TR, two things:

1) You are saying all the things I'm thinking today.

2) You are jumping SUPER high in your siggy. Wow!

Celles

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : What's your point?  Go look up "gay" or "retarded" in the dictionary, and some of the definitions are non-insulting, non-derogatory as well.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

I think my point was pretty clear.  "Lame" means weak, ineffectual or lacking in substance.  If I call something "lame" when it has any or all of these characteristics, then I am using the word correctly, in context, and making no reference whatsoever -- positive, negative or neutral -- to anyone who has a disability. 

If I call something "gay" when the dictionary definitions are "homosexual" and "happy," and the intended connotation is clearly negative, then it's fairly obvious that I'm using the word as a derogatory slur.  The same holds true for "retarded."  Neither of these words have a definition that can be used negatively while remaining contextually true.  "Lame" does.

FutureMrsTR

Nubs (that's autocorrect for you, I'm leaving it) - haha, it's all in the angle and bent legs. Some guy actually told me I need to work on my "ups" after H took that picture.

midgetthemighty

Is "the dreaded *insert random WR thing here*" the new "To be or not to be" title?

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]I guess I should have said that there aren't as many conversations now that Im as invested in - which is totally fine - but that's why I'm not around as much. I'm not complaining at all, but I've just got less time to talk about things like lunch, etc. Now, unless someone's being a ceeyounexttuesday about something that I'm super involved in or whatever, I just don't have much time for it.  But like I said, when I do have time (like today) I contribute, or, like yesterday, I start a thread...
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]



So if you're not complaining, what are you doing? Explaining why you don't post as much? I don't think anyone asked that.