Fiance is in the wedding party, I'm not

MrsMack10612

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fiance-is-in-the-wedding-party-im-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b49da59-e708-4175-a00b-f4941e0140a0Post:af155eb1-41b3-4a6a-8acf-8ae999056188">Re: Fiance is in the wedding party, I'm not</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fiance is in the wedding party, I'm not : You just described our wedding reception.  <strong>DH and I split up almost immediately</strong> to spend time with all of our guests, many of whom we hadn't seen in  along time.  And she think's I'm insecure in my relationship {{eyeroll}}.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

This was us too.  There were times when the band was playing special songs we requested and I had to "shout" across the room "Where's the groom?".

We joke when we run into each other at parties asking "When did you get here?".

lovefuzzies

I'm really hoping no one takes this wrong because it's not meant to be witchy but what about those of us who's venues don't give an option other than an elevated head table?  It's not like I went around asking venues to provide nothing but a head table.  We picked a venue we loved before we picked the bridal party and the only option the venue offers is an elevated head table.  We've chosen our entire WP and have ended up with 5 GM, 3 BM and a Man of Honor.  That's a total of 11 people at the head table (include FI and me) and the head table only seats 12.  Each person in the party has an SO and some have children who will be attending the wedding.

So then my question is: how can I sit these SOs and children with the bridal party in this situation?

rach1200

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fiance is in the wedding party, I'm not : You know another option is to have them sit among the guests.  More andmore weddings that I've been to have the B&G at a table with their parents, MOH and date and Best Man and date.  The WP is scattered amongst the rest of the tables and are always seated with their date/SO.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I'm going to do.  My fiance and I will probably sit with both sets of parents and everyone else in the bridal party will be sitted at tables with their SO and the people they are closest too.  I've learned a lot by reading the etiquette boards here but I had planned to do this before even finding this forum.  It seems more common sense.  I'm happy if the people who have spent time, money and effort to support me are happy.  And therefore I will do the best I can to make sure they are happy and comfortable.  The comfort of the people who love me enough to support me on one of the best days of my life trumps everything else.

elizabethriley

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fiance-is-in-the-wedding-party-im-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b49da59-e708-4175-a00b-f4941e0140a0Post:a6904bb4-f5a0-48fe-9601-0d6aa4f020a0">Re: Fiance is in the wedding party, I'm not</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm really hoping no one takes this wrong because it's not meant to be witchy but what about those of us who's venues don't give an option other than an elevated head table?  It's not like I went around asking venues to provide nothing but a head table.  We picked a venue we loved before we picked the bridal party and the only option the venue offers is an elevated head table.  We've chosen our entire WP and have ended up with 5 GM, 3 BM and a Man of Honor.  That's a total of 11 people at the head table (include FI and me) and the head table only seats 12.  Each person in the party has an SO and some have children who will be attending the wedding. So then my question is: how can I sit these SOs and children with the bridal party in this situation?
Posted by lovefuzzies[/QUOTE]

<div>You could sit with your parents and grandparents at the head table, or your siblings/SOs, or with just your BMs and MOH and their SOs. Then sit the rest of your bridal party with their spouses/kids at regular tables like all the other guests.</div>