WR "I don't get it"

mica178

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[QUOTE]In addition to what has been said, I don't get the bouquet toss especially when the bride buys a throw away bouquet,or long gaps. What is a pick-up on a dress?
Posted by iamjoesgurl[/QUOTE]

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FutureMrsFezz

I had never heard of bridal portraits until I started using TK.  I still don't get it.

Birdie1483

My mom had bridal portraits done back in the day. I don't know if they were more popular back then or what. She said it ended up looking kind of weird because she curled her hair for the bridal portraits but it rained on the day of her wedding and all of her curls fell out so her hair was straight on her actual wedding day.

Our photog offered an engagement pic or bridal session as part of our package. I love my pics, but now I have this weird phobia of plastering them over everything like everyone expects us to. FMIL asked if I was using them on the Christmas card this year. I thought that was too cheesy.

I used the shot from my siggy for our magnets and only because it was a pretty background and didn't have our faces in it. Something about having my face on all of my friend's refrigerators creeps me out.

[Deleted User]

I'd never heard of bridal portraits until right now. 

To clarify, are they are pics of you in your wedding dress before the wedding day?  If so..I definitely don't get that.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]I'd never heard of bridal portraits until right now.  To clarify, are they are pics of you in your wedding dress before the wedding day?  If so..I definitely don't get that.
Posted by tiffbot1985[/QUOTE]

Yeah they're of you all dressed up either in a studio or somewhere on location. My photog lives on a couple acres, so he showed me pics of girls out in the grass by their barn for their bridal portraits.

Rosie109

It looks like fischy is drying his little snowman armpit hair. 

I am probably crazy but I don't get the centerpieces that make it difficult to talk to people because they are so big. 

Birdie1483

Example of bridal portrait:

MattsPenguin

Bridal portraits were much more common back in the day.  And are still pretty common in the south, from what I can tell.

I don't get "Tears of Joy" packets.  Like your wedding is going to be so beautiful, you assume it will move all of your guests to tears?!?  Puh-lease.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]I'd never heard of bridal portraits until right now.  To clarify, are they are pics of you in your wedding dress before the wedding day?  If so..I definitely don't get that.
Posted by tiffbot1985[/QUOTE]
You got it. And it's really commonplace here to have a huge picture from the bride's bridal portrait session on an easel (a full size easel, the ones I've seen are HUGE) at the reception. That weirds me out way more than the actual taking of the pictures.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WR "I don't get it" : You got it. And it's really commonplace here to have a huge picture from the bride's bridal portrait session on an easel (a full size easel, the ones I've seen are HUGE) at the reception. That weirds me out way more than the actual taking of the pictures.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Yeah that's creepy. 

I didn't do bridal portraits and never even knew people did them until here.  Our photog took a lot of portraits of me getting ready and individually on our wedding day, and I'm not crazy about any of them.  I feel like its definitely an AW move to have pictures of you by yourself plastered anywhere. 

doctabroccoli

I don't get it when only the wedding party is served champagne for the toast.  Give it to all of us alcoholics too, damnit!

By the way, when did TK start reporting my board times in EST instead of CST?  I like it!  Less mental math!

And fishy - I like the new sig too.

annakb8

I don't get boudoir pics. What, exactly, do you do with them? You can't hang them in your house or anything. And while I guess your husband might appreciate them, I would feel weird about having sexy pictures of me hidden away in a drawer somewhere.

I also don't get wedding pictures that look like a high fashion editorial. I don't need to look "edgy" in my pictures, I just want to look like a happy bride. I think some e-pic shoots get out of control too. We did them, but only because my uncle is a professional photographer who offered to do them for free. We didn't have any decent pictures together and now we have a few.

Calypso1977

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WR "I don't get it" : Like, flowers and centerpieces? 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

yep!  i seriously considered not carrying a bouquet and i only had centerpieces because a friend asked if she could make them.  limos fall under this category too, as well as teh wedding cake (i did have a cake, btu it was a sheet cake and we didnt cut and feed each other).  no one saw the cake until it was on their plate in front of them.

doctabroccoli

Haha, I was just about to say -
This isn't WR, but I don't get why TK needs to do maintenance at 2pm!  Do it at 2am!  (Although then Loopy may get bored at work).

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WR "I don't get it" : You got it. And it's really commonplace here to have a huge picture from the bride's bridal portrait session on an easel (a full size easel, the ones I've seen are HUGE) at the reception. That weirds me out way more than the actual taking of the pictures.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Huh.

Yup, definitely don't get that then.

rjtutter

I don't get (1) leaving the reception early, or (2) changing into another dress.  When we were first planning my Dad questioned why we weren't doing either of these.

(1) If we're going to have a party, I want to stay until the end.  My FMIL tells the story about how her and FFIL felt like they were left out out their reception because they had to leave so early.

(2) If I'm going to spend a large amount of money on a dress I'm going to wear that dress for as long as I can!

Just to stick up for engagement shoots, for us one of the reasons our photographer has them is so that the couple is comfortable in front of the camera on the wedding day.  FI and I aren't the most photogenic couple at times (he often has "Chandler" moments) and so it was great to get some "practice" in.  Now, come the wedding day we know what to expect in terms of photography and our photographer's style (and vice versa).

kellyb1487

Having 2 Dresses

Wearing shoes that are going to be killing you by the end of the night
Shoe pictures that the wedding photographers take
Going in debt over something that lasts 1/2 a day
Brides consistantly refering to the wedding day as "My Big Day"

jemmini6

Ditto rj on the e-pics.  It's included in our photography package mostly so that we can get aquainted with working with our photographer.  Plus, my FI is an amateur photographer, so he's normally always the one taking pics, which means we don't have too many of us together.  We plan on using our e-pics for our STDs and wedding website.

I love the idea of budoir pics and I think FI would love them, but I don't know what we'd do with them after I gave them to him....that's the part that keeps me from getting them done.

[Deleted User]

I don't get the craze with candy bars and photo booths.

aegrish

ugh candy bars are just overrated these days! I've seen like 6 of them! they're not unique anymore.

tonyscutieest09

I don't get miniature brides
I don't get two dresses
I don't get the moustache thing

courtney1188

I don't get...

the garter and bouquet toss

inviting a ton of guests you aren't even remotely close to.

those engagement rings that have a ton of little diamonds in the middle instead of just one center diamond (no offense to anyone who has one, just NMS)

something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue

brides who freak out when they find out a friend/relative is using the same colors, favors, flowers, whatever.

courtneyandtimothy

I don't get honeymoon registries.  They might be acceptable today to SOME people; however, I find them offensive and super tacky.

[Deleted User]

I don't get being invited to a Jack and Jill when I'm not invited to the wedding.  Why should I pay for your expensive day when you don't even want me there?

michgleas

I don't get garter tosses sat all. I don't want to see your man lift up your dress and show off your leg to everyone, save it for the bedroom!

summermoon76

I don't get this post... can anyone say negative nancy?

Rosie109

Negative nancy

MegaMultitasker

Whoever had the pictures with the black and chocolate lab in their signature--OMG too precious!! FI and I got a black lab puppy-- i've never loved something so much in my life (FI's a close 2nd, just kidding!)

-I cannot stand the guy sticking his head up the bride's dress to get the garter.  I feel like a bride should be regal and classy, (I don't mean diva), and it just seems trashy to me.

-Don't care for photos of the wedding party at a playground (i've seen this at 3 weddings so far)

-The picture where everyone tries to jump at the same time--those never turn out and look kinda stupid to me

and I don't like the cha cha slide.  I will throw my shoe at the DJ if he plays that   FI's grandma loves the chicken dance, so I guess I can't get out of that one

strlzfan11

Matching hairstyles for the bridesmaids

Head tables

Bridal party dances

Honeymoon registries

Brides who don't think they should have to pay for their weddings

JasmineLeilani

There isn't much I DON'T get actually.

Colored dresses are very easy to comprehend to me. 

They are actually more traditional than white. White dresses were only popular after Queen Victoria wore one on her wedding(though Phillipa of England was the first documented), for the rest of history women wore colored dresses (usually their best dress). Brides in Spain often wore black (it's expensive to dye a gown black, showed wealth,and could later be worn which was important in the age of hand sewn everything).

I can't think of any other culture who Traditionally wore white. In most Asian cultures white is a mourning color!!!! (Think beautiful South Asian brides in their rainbow Hanboks, vivvid Sarees and delicious kimonos!)

Okay, I take it back. I totally don't get people who spend a TON on everything, and then the food is disgusting. What's up with that???