Help me waste my evening away

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Good evening! Back from dinner and being tech support for my mom for an hour on the phone. There is nothing good on tv so I am watching this seasons Sister Wives. So captivating, but odd.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

<div>I've been thinking about watching the first season if I can find it, but I just don't know...</div>

Loopyseven

WW - your FSIL sounds very considerate.  We didn't do parent dances.  My dad is handicapped (balance issues) and would not have been able to do it.  He said my uncle would stand in, but H didn't want to dance with his mom, so we used "not making my dad feel bad" as the excuse not to do a spotlight dance.  We just told the DJ to play What a Wonderful World (Louis Armstrong) and they danced to it with everyone else.

willywally5

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[QUOTE]Wally - my parents danced for a while during our first dance, then we switched partners. <strong>My dad made everyone laugh by grabbing H instead of me at first,</strong> but I do have some lovely pictures of H dancing with my mother.  Also, during the father/daughter dance H and MIL joined my father and I on the dance floor, then towards the end a few other fathers/daughters joined us. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

<div>That is funny! Not thinking my DD"s bio mom would see the humor in it if I did that to her, though. LOL. </div><div>
</div><div>DD and FI are having 'Real Love' by the Beatles for their first dance.</div>

Nickivegan

Or first dance was to Micheal Franti's "Say Hey". It was a toss up between that and Bob Schneider "The world Exploded in Love." Franti won because we really didn't want to slow dance; and it was great because it set the dance floor vibe for the rest of the night!

willywally5

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[QUOTE]WW - <strong>your FSIL sounds very considerate. </strong> We didn't do parent dances.  My dad is handicapped (balance issues) and would not have been able to do it.  He said my uncle would stand in, but H didn't want to dance with his mom, so we used "not making my dad feel bad" as the excuse not to do a spotlight dance.  We just told the DJ to play What a Wonderful World (Louis Armstrong) and they danced to it with everyone else.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>He is AWESOME! We love him so much! We told DD if they ever break up, we are keeping HIM! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /></div><div>
</div><div>I figured they'd do first dance and then father-daughter and be done with it since his mom is deceased. But he really wants to do this. I'm like, whatever! I'll dance!</div><div>
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pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help me waste my evening away : He is AWESOME! We love him so much! <strong>We told DD if they ever break up, we are keeping HIM!</strong>  I figured they'd do first dance and then father-daughter and be done with it since his mom is deceased. But he really wants to do this. I'm like, whatever! I'll dance!
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]

<div>My parents have actually never discussed this, but I'm fairly certain they would say the same. My grandparents too. </div>

heb557

Hi all, I just got home from a party. I's so good to hang out with life long friends. I'm absolutely exhausted. 

I danced with my dad to Walk with you by Edwin Mccain. H and I's first dance was Then by brad paisley. I cried the whole time thru both dances, like a fool.

Nickivegan

The only thing I don't get, is why thy moved out of their community? If they wanted to stay secretive, then stay off TV! But it's otherwise really good at allowing the viewer into their lives and lifestyle. Although, it's probably not 100 accurate to other polygamist who have not been on tv.

brandichamberlain

Good evening.  Like Hockey, we have an entire play list.  We didn't hire a DJ, though.  A good friend just rented some equipment and we put together all of the music he needs to download. He did this for his sisters wedding and it went really well.  We got everything (equipment and music for around 225).  I am putting putting the final touches on the list this week.

My FI and I are dancing to "Could Not Ask For More" by Sara Evans and I'm dancing to "My Little Girl" by Tim McGraw with my Dad.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]The only thing I don't get, is why thy moved out of their community? If they wanted to stay secretive, then stay off TV! But it's otherwise really good at allowing the viewer into their lives and lifestyle. Although, it's probably not 100 accurate to other polygamist who have not been on tv.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

<div>I just can't wrap my mind around it. I really just can't. </div>

willywally5

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[QUOTE]The only thing I don't get, is why thy moved out of their community?<strong> If they wanted to stay secretive, then stay off TV!</strong> But it's otherwise really good at allowing the viewer into their lives and lifestyle. Although, it's probably not 100 accurate to other polygamist who have not been on tv.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>IKR? Have to admit the show is very intriguing. </div><div>
</div><div>So the moved away but now the state/county have said they aren't going to prosecute them, so they could move back. I don't get that part, especially since finding housing for the whole crew of them is proving difficult.</div>

HockeyFan4

alright everyone I am off.  have a great night!

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away :   IKR? Have to admit the show is very intriguing.  So the moved away but now the state/county have said they aren't going to prosecute them, so they could move back<strong>. I don't get that part, especially since finding housing for the whole crew of them is proving difficult.</strong>
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I am trying to figure out why they would rather put 20% down on four houses than just build a home that suits their needs (similar to their old one). </div>

pokepoke27

Goodnight Hockey! 

Forgive me if this question makes me seem ignorant, but how can the state prosecute them? I mean, is it illegal to live and have children with multiple women? From what I understand, the first marriage is a "legal" marriage and all others are only "spiritual" - so from my limited knowledge, that's not breaking the law is it? 

willywally5

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away : I am trying to figure out why they would rather put 20% down on four houses than just build a home that suits their needs (similar to their old one). 
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I think maybe they needed to come up with more cash up front for new construction? Maybe I dreamed that, but I think that was an issue. </div><div>
</div><div>I can't even imagine four house payments. Yegads.</div>

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away : I think maybe they needed to come up with more cash up front for new construction? Maybe I dreamed that, but I think that was an issue.  <strong>I can't even imagine four house payments.</strong> Yegads.
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]

<div>Especially because (from what I can tell) none of them have jobs.  I would just think that $80,000 (20% down on 4 houses priced at 100k) would be enough to start on new construction, right?</div>

willywally5

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[QUOTE]Goodnight Hockey!  Forgive me if this question makes me seem ignorant, but how can the state prosecute them? I mean, is it illegal to live and have children with multiple women? From what I understand, the first marriage is a "legal" marriage and all others are only "spiritual" - so from my limited knowledge, that's not breaking the law is it? 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

<div>I asked the same thing last season. I don't remember exactly how it all works, but there was some way they could do it. But, it's not something they really ever enforce UNLESS there are child brides or some sort of abuse like that occurring. </div><div>
</div><div>Pretty sure the only reason anyone bothered to even go thru the motions of ANYTHING legal against them was because it was so 'in your face' because of the show. Usually, they just turn a blind eye. </div>

pokepoke27

I would think that Child Brides would fall under pedophilia rather than polygamy. Or maybe it's both? 

Nickivegan

The kids were at the old house. Do they still own it? I'm still really confused, but fascinated. I do give them credit for putting their lives out there. Unlike the dumb Gosslin family, I feel that was done fully for the money. Also, I want to see a tv show about the really extreme polygamists that live in the gated community in Texas. Holy culture shock, I must know more.

willywally5

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away : Especially because (from what I can tell) none of them have jobs.  <strong>I would just think that $80,000 (20% down on 4 houses priced at 100k) would be enough to start on new construction, right?</strong>
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

<div>I suppose it depends on what sort/size house you are going to build. Having just built myself, though, I do know that construction loans have different criteria, interest rates, terms, </div><div>
</div><div>It is weird because they really do seem like super nice people. I mean, I'm not into sharing my husband but I'm kind of like, hey, whatever works. I'd rather have them living that lifestyle and taking good care of each other than the way some 'normal' families live!</div>

brandichamberlain

I think they said that one of the wives has a relative (sister?) living at the old house now. 

ETA: old, not hold. 

willywally5

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[QUOTE]I would think that Child Brides would fall under pedophilia rather than polygamy. Or maybe it's both? 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I think that'd be both.</div>

Nickivegan

I picture all Toddler pageant girls as Child Brides. Disgusting. I'm rather open minded, but those things gross me the EFF out. However, I totally get sucked into TinT if it's on. Gotta get my judge on.

willywally5

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[QUOTE]The kids were at the old house. <strong>Do they still own it? </strong>I'm still really confused, but fascinated. I do give them credit for putting their lives out there. Unlike the dumb Gosslin family, I feel that was done fully for the money. Also, I want to see a tv show about the really extreme polygamists that live in the gated community in Texas. Holy culture shock, I must know more.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

I think they do. And it looked like tons of their stuff is still in it because they basically fled quickly instead of taking time to really move. <div>
</div><div>I think that gated Texas group might scare me. If a place like that has to be gated, I always get the feeling it's cuz otherwise you'd have a hard time keeping people IN. KWIM???</div>

StefffiC

They can be prosecuted because they claim to be married to the other women. Some families don't, some families do. I have some friends with multiple spouses and it's a different lifestyle. I like my one husband and he's happy with his one wife.

Just tucked the pony into bed with some hay and water since he doesn't want to stay out all alone anymore. Hope he's happy with this situation!

Night Hockey!

Loopyseven

Yeah.  I have watched some of that show - but not this season.  I just don't get how that guy got 4 women to "marry" him...

willywally5

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[QUOTE]I picture all Toddler pageant girls as Child Brides. Disgusting. I'm rather open minded, but those things gross me the EFF out. However, I totally get sucked into TinT if it's on. Gotta get my judge on.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

<div>LMAO! Totally hear you on that. My teenage daughter does pageants, but NOT like the ones they show on TV. (she started at 13 with a no make-up allowed competition.)That is some seriously whacked out crap. </div><div>
</div><div>There was a movie years ago about a polyg sect with all kinds of icky practices ... I think it was called 'Child Brides of Short Creek' or something</div>

willywally5

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[QUOTE]T<strong>hey can be prosecuted because they claim to be married to the other women. Some families don't, some families do.</strong> I have some friends with multiple spouses and it's a different lifestyle. I like my one husband and he's happy with his one wife. Just tucked the pony into bed with some hay and water since he doesn't want to stay out all alone anymore. Hope he's happy with this situation! Night Hockey!
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>That's what it was! For things like health insurance and other super-official stuff. </div><div>
</div><div>Cripes, I don't know what to do with my ONE husband half the time. I'd hate to have to put up with FOUR of him! </div>

Nickivegan

In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away:[QUOTE]Yeah. nbsp;I have watched some of that show but not this season. nbsp;I just don't get how that guy got 4 women to quot;marryquot; him... Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE] same. I like my one H, and we are perfectly content. But I have to give these ladies credit. I would cut a biiiitch then the H if I had to share. I can get jealous, then again so can Elliot.

StefffiC

I've known a couple of families with multiples wives and one family with two husbands. My family was really open minded growing up and we were somewhat on the fringes with our religous beliefs, anyhow. It is an incredible lifestyle, but I'm way too jealous to make it work. Some of the families I knew were the very Patriarchal Old Testament Fundamentalist that were law keepers - there's nothing wrong with that lifestyle, but those families are different than the families I knew where it was a lifestyle choice that were more into the BDSM type lifestyles with the multiples.

I think three coins site is still up and running if you want info on poly as a lifestyle from several viewpoints, they had a good site 10 years ago. I can't remember the exact address, though.