Help me waste my evening away

pokepoke27

Yes, I am not ashamed to say that I judge TinT. 

And it's not that I judge polygamists (the non icky kind), I just can't understand it.

willywally5

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-me-waste-my-evening-away?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2c39e0da-28a1-4573-b88d-031b2c608c27Post:0f8a8e64-875c-46c5-9502-c76a51c688f2">Re: Help me waste my evening away</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah.  I have watched some of that show - but not this season. <strong> I just don't get how that guy got 4 women to "marry" him...</strong>
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

<div>I know! He's kind of a big goober, really. And he's not even seriously hot or anything. Makes ya wonder ... </div><div>
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brandichamberlain

I also find it interesting that most of the kids say they doubt they'll follow with plural marriage in their own lives. 

StefffiC

There is a lot of social pressure and of the families I know, very few of the children are following the parents. Some of the families I've known 10 - 15 years and seen the kids grow up and get married.

I don't have a TV, so don't see the show, but I've heard of it.

(we have no religous issue with TV, I just have a noise aversion and DH is never home, so we don't have TV service. The PS3 is hooked up to the TV, but we don't do Hulu or Netflix, before y'all think I'm all weird or something. LOL)

willywally5

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[QUOTE]I also find it interesting that most of the kids say they doubt they'll follow with plural marriage in their own lives. 
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

<div>That is interesting. I wonder what their reasons are? I'd love to know. </div><div>
</div><div>I have to say there are times when it'd be AWESOME to have some other gals around to help with stuff. But I still wouldn't like to share.</div>

amorg334

Yes Edie.  I was looking up all sorts of fun ideas for things for the wedding and I found a few that I really enjoy.  It is helping to bring my focus in on the things I want.  

Nickivegan

In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away:[QUOTE]I also find it interesting that most of the kids say they doubt they'll follow with plural marriage in their own lives.nbsp; Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE] yes! But the kids do seem to have good heads on their shoulders, and they seem very wholesome. Not like a lot of the kids I sub for in my city, they are all royal non wholesome jerktwats. My theater students are usually wonderful, though.

raes19

Steffi - I wish we didn't have cable. When H and I got our first apartment together a few years ago, we didn't have cable and it was great. H won't give it up though, he can't miss his baseball games.

willywally5

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[QUOTE]There is a lot of social pressure and of the families I know, very few of the children are following the parents. Some of the families I've known 10 - 15 years and seen the kids grow up and get married. I don't have a TV, so don't see the show, but I've heard of it.<strong> (we have no religous issue with TV, I just have a noise aversion and DH is never home, so we don't have TV service. The PS3 is hooked up to the TV, but we don't do Hulu or Netflix, before y'all think I'm all weird or something. LOL)</strong>
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh shoot, Steffi, we ALREADY thought you were weird! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />  Just teasin'</div><div>
</div><div>I would think it would be tough on the kids, especially if they had to keep it a big secret. They grow up feeling like they need to be ashamed of or protective of their family. That is a lot of pressure for a kid.</div>

willywally5

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-me-waste-my-evening-away?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2c39e0da-28a1-4573-b88d-031b2c608c27Post:1b6e3a0e-c0fa-4348-bdfd-cfc1eb12b70c">Re:Help me waste my evening away</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away: yes! But the kids do seem to have good heads on their shoulders, and they seem very wholesome. Not like a lot of the kids I sub for in my city, they are all royal non wholesome jerktwats. <strong>My theater students are usually wonderful, though.</strong>
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>That is cuz theater kids/people in general ROCK. (Says the once-a-theater-geek-always-a-theater-geek old lady)</div>

musicalsunlight

I don't like the fact that polygamy only is for men with multiple wives. I don't like the double standard.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]I don't like the fact that polygamy only is for men with multiple wives. I don't like the double standard.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>In todays world it is a double standard, but way back when it was actually a bit necessary. A man with multiple wives can have several children around the same time, where as women with multiple husbands can not. </div>

StefffiC

I am weird. I'll own that! LOL

Most families do live in fear of being found out. Many of them live more on the fringes - cash jobs, home school, etc... and the kids really want to be more mainstream. Yes, they're good kids, no doubt, but it is hard worrying that your parents will be jailed for their decisions. I knew one family that the dad lost his job over adding the second wife, it really tore the family apart.

My parents were very strict Old Testament, kind of Messianic Jewish, and I really wanted to be more mainstream. I left their house at 24, having never dated, with a 10pm curfew, had been homeschooled all my life, and worked only in the family business. I was bound and determined to be as wild as possible. I met my DH the week I moved out and he kept me out of major trouble. I'm now 29, with a mainstream corporate America job, member of the Baptist Church, a great husband, and a much more mainstream life than my parents want to accept. it's hard to be different growing up.

musicalsunlight

I don't really think having more than one wife at a time. But that's just me. Eta- *more than one wife is necessary is what I meant.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]I don't like the fact that polygamy only is for men with multiple wives. I don't like the double standard.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Polygyny is multiple spouses, Polygamy is multiple wives, and polyamory is multiple husbands.

Biblically Polygamy is the only one accepted. But, hey, Biblically women are property, so...

brandichamberlain

I think the weirdest thing is that the three original wives lived just fine for 15-16 years before adding the fourth.  She also has a  much different appearance than the other wives (brunette, petite). 

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help me waste my evening away : I was married last year but I use Pinterest for house ideas even though we won't start really looking until next year.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

I discovered <a href="http://www.houzz.com/" rel="nofollow">www.houzz.com</a> this past week - we're remodeling our house and it has amazing house ideas on it. You can pin them to your idea book, too.

It's my latest addiction.

musicalsunlight

Ah, I didn't know there was a difference in words, Steff. But yeah either way I take issue with it. Haha.

willywally5

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[QUOTE]I am weird. I'll own that! LOL Most families do live in fear of being found out. Many of them live more on the fringes - cash jobs, home school, etc... and the kids really want to be more mainstream. Yes, they're good kids, no doubt, but it is hard worrying that your parents will be jailed for their decisions. I knew one family that the dad lost his job over adding the second wife, it really tore the family apart. My parents were very strict Old Testament, kind of Messianic Jewish, and I really wanted to be more mainstream. I left their house at 24, having never dated, with a 10pm curfew, had been homeschooled all my life, and worked only in the family business. I was bound and determined to be as wild as possible. I met my DH the week I moved out and he kept me out of major trouble. I'm now 29, with a mainstream corporate America job, member of the Baptist Church, a great husband, and a much more mainstream life than my parents want to accept. it's hard to be different growing up.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Interesting. So were you chomping at the bit to get the heck out of their house or what was the deciding factor?  (And if I'm prying, tell me to shut up and I won't be offended at all.)</div>

StefffiC

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-me-waste-my-evening-away?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2c39e0da-28a1-4573-b88d-031b2c608c27Post:071af2e8-ae47-4485-9a2c-fd1134dc61b9">Re: Help me waste my evening away</a>:
[QUOTE]Steffi - I wish we didn't have cable. When H and I got our first apartment together a few years ago, we didn't have cable and it was great. H won't give it up though, he can't miss his baseball games.
Posted by raes19[/QUOTE]

We had it for a year when we lived in Winston and we very rarely used it, so we didn't turn it on up here. Neither of us are sports fans, so I guess we don't miss it as much as most people would. He's a movie buff and I haven't ever watched TV, even as a kid.

Loopyseven

I think wife #4 is his midlife crisis.

strlzfan11

Evening folks!

willywally5

In Response to Re: Help me waste my evening away:
[QUOTE]I think wife #4 is his midlife crisis.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

Some guys get snazzy new sports cars, some guys get toupees or lipsuction ... 

This guy gets ONE MORE wife! 

pokepoke27

Haha Loopy, that's just too funny. 

pokepoke27

Hey strlz! 

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]I think wife #4 is his midlife crisis.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Makes sense. Although, I think it's been said that the first wife found her/suggested her.</div>

strlzfan11

Yup! Just got in about 20 minutes ago.

StefffiC

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-me-waste-my-evening-away?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2c39e0da-28a1-4573-b88d-031b2c608c27Post:f40bdb93-3b70-4965-b775-e6c134778e01">Re: Help me waste my evening away</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help me waste my evening away : Interesting. So were you chomping at the bit to get the heck out of their house or what was the deciding factor?  (And if I'm prying, tell me to shut up and I won't be offended at all.)
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]

II wasn't really unhappy for a long time - I had two decent horses, leased a barn, had two horses in training to me, and was somewhat content. Then I had a very bad accident on one of my client owned horses. I had no health insurance because my family owned business didn't provide it, my parent's didn't believe in it, and I just decided I wanted to be on my own and able to make decisions for myself instead of my parents dictating everything to me. I also had no PTO or sick time at the family business, my mom, who owned one of the horses at our barn, griped about caring for the barn while I healed, etc...

I left about 5 months after my accident. I couldn't make it on my salary working for mom and dad, but they forced me to work a 6 month notice for them, so I worked 3 jobs for 6 months to survive. Our relationship has been rocky for the past 5 and a half years even without my DH who they blame for a lot of things.

Nickivegan

I wonder how many polygamist brides use the knot?

angelstar975

In Response to Re:Help me waste my evening away:[QUOTE]I wonder how many polygamist brides use the knot? Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

Haha what if there are people on this board that talk about their H but don't mention that their H has other wives?

Hey ladies! FI and I just finished watching True Blood. I get to work for a few hours tomorrow, I'm excited.