Back story: I have a good friend who is getting married in April of 2013. This time last year, she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I accepted without hesitation. I had no idea what I was getting into. Over the past few weeks, I have been receiving emails from both the bride and her maid of honor stating what I am obligated to pay for in order to be a part of the wedding. Obviously I know I am expected to pay for my dress, and I had planned all along to help pay for the shower and bachelorette party. Now the MOH is telling us that each bridesmaid must pay 300 each.....per party, minimum. My friend then sent out an email telling us to give money to MOH for the shower and that doing that was more important than putting the deposit down on our dresses. I don't feel comfortable giving someone money without knowing what it is paying for or how much more I will be asked for. At this point, I am unsure if I can even afford all of these things, and MOH did not ask any of us what we can afford. She just got together with the girl she is closest with, they made grand plans, and now they are asking all of us to pay for it. The bride has stated in every email that she will not be upset if we must step down as bridesmaids because we cannot afford it. She said that she and her FI will miss us if we aren't able to stand up with them, but they will understand................................................................Now, to my question...If I decide to step down, what is the best way to go about it? Even though she says she will understand, I feel that it may hurt our friendship. That is the last thing I want. You ladies usually give good advice, so I thought it couldn't hurt to get your opinions. Thanks!
