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danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]i flame lpstl for wasting no time taking up residence in self-righteous know-it-all parent land.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Right because heaven forbid she (who has a child) have an opinion that differs from yours (who hates kids) about parenting methods.

goheels05

I'm pretty sure I have never commented on whether E and SB should be kept separate because I really don't giveashit.  You must be thinking of someone else. 

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That's crazy.  Divorce is one of those things, I have a hard time with my church about.  I mean, I sort of understand where they are coming from, people divorce way too easily, but sometimes, it really is the only option and I hate that they make good people feel like garbage for getting a divorce.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]


Divorce isn't easy at all. 

mocha beans

I'll flame TK for going down for maintenance last night while I was in the middle of reading Whit's thread.  Not a good way to go to bed.  And I'll contribute a few 55 gallon drums of gasoline to the flames for him.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Right because heaven forbid she (who has a child) have an opinion that differs from yours (who hates kids) about parenting methods.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Ditto Dani. Well said.

lilgina64

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[QUOTE]I'm pretty sure I have never commented on whether E and SB should be kept separate because I really don't giveashit.  You must be thinking of someone else. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

I'm just going to ditto this, I haven't been around in a while so I'm not quite sure how I could be so vehemently opposed to something I wasn't a part of?

Also Dani, eye to eye.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]I'm pretty sure I have never commented on whether E and SB should be kept separate because I really don't giveashit.  You must be thinking of someone else. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

When you guys/they first moved over there and I asked about it, the party line was that you didn't want us bringing E drama to the SB board. 

Personally, I'm bummed that so many regs have ditched E and moved to SB because it's so slow here now.  They're posting things over there that they could have/used to post here, I just don't get it.  I don't get the move at all - okay I do get it, they're trying to get away from specific people that post here that they dont' like.  I get it, I don't like it.  I miss the posts and conversation but I don't want to follow them to another board to get it.

missy68

I'm with moose on this one. Even if it's the best thing to do, and there's nothing to divide, making the process simple. It may be easy the first, oh say 8 months, if you're the one initiating it, but at some point, it hits you in the face like a bag of bricks.

And this is coming from someone who was emotionally abused towards the end of the marriage and turned into a shell of herself. I stayed for 4 1/2 years trying to make it work.

shellydiane820

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Divorce isn't easy at all. 
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I'm generalizing.  Divorce is easy for some people.  I'm 24, and know people I went to school with who are already divorced and remarried.  It must not have been that difficult for them.

I'm not saying always, but i can be.

wadingmoose

Easy legally, yes.

Emotionally?  Probably not as easy as it appears.

pumpkinpumpkin

And while we're flaming SB. I have a flame about the "who do we like/dislike thread".
1. I can't imagine how some of the people who responded in that thread would've responded if it was posted here.
2. I know there's a lot of people who have been accused of groupthink and think it's the most ridiculous idea ever. But that thread was a perfect definition of groupthink.

kkchisholm

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I agree with KK, and yes, Night, I think that mental abuse can be every bit as cruel and manipulative as physical, and just as much cause for divorce/annulment. 
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

Are you refering to kk as kentuckykate? That could get confusing.

cengle

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[QUOTE]I wonder how accepting these churches would be if you responded to the divorce argument with "I'm sorry you feel this way. I think I should find a church that agrees that my mental, physical and financial well-being are more important than what some men thought how God feels about marriage a few millenium ago. Please note my tithe and accompanying services I've volunteered here will be following me to my new place of worship."  I'm sorry, but Whit's fucker already broke his promise. Hers is a response to his. And if it's up to me to "learn to love again" while I'm being abused, I'll try and work on that while I'm smothering the asshole with a pillow as he sleeps.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

I'm just going to give a big ol' AMEN to this. 

sarabellam

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[QUOTE] Unlike other Christian religions, marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic Church, therefore, it should be difficult to dissolve.
Posted by mandybear7[/QUOTE]

Wrong-o. Marriage is a sacrament in denominations other than just the Roman Catholic church.

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Personally, I'm bummed that so many regs have ditched E and moved to SB because it's so slow here now.  They're posting things over there that they could have/used to post here, I just don't get it.  I don't get the move at all - okay I do get it, they're trying to get away from specific people that post here that they dont' like.  I get it, I don't like it.  I miss the posts and conversation but I don't want to follow them to another board to get it.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

This. And I know the people switch back and forth, but I just don't have the time/ attention span to do that, so I miss a lot of ladies when they visit {here}.

crfische

Teehee...Amen...

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'm just going to give a big ol' AMEN to this. 
Posted by cengle[/QUOTE]

Snort! That was sort of sermonish. Sorry!

goheels05

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : <strong> When you guys/they first moved over there and I asked about it, the party line was that you didn't want us bringing E drama to the SB board.</strong>  Personally, I'm bummed that so many regs have ditched E and moved to SB because it's so slow here now.  They're posting things over there that they could have/used to post here, I just don't get it.  I don't get the move at all - okay I do get it, they're trying to get away from specific people that post here that they dont' like.  I get it, I don't like it.  I miss the posts and conversation but I don't want to follow them to another board to get it.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Right, but that wasn't me.  1.  I still post on both boards.  B.  I don't have a strong opinion on the matter.  Elephants.  When someone says something, they are only speaking for themselves, not everyone they are friends with.

Cew's pretty much the only one who doesn't post on E at all anymore, and I don't blame her. 

vallyhoo

I'm going to toss my hat in with the not understanding why SB has turned into a clone of the old P&E, minus FFFs clearly, and yet people pretend like it isn't.

lizstill13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Divorce isn't easy at all. 
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I took it to mean that a lot of people give up and see divorce as the easy way out. Some people just stop working on the marriage because they are bored, no one has cheated or abused, and instead of even trying to work things out and go to counseling, they get a divorce.

mandapanda78

I flame people who post with ALL CAPS and HELP!!!! in the title. Is your house on fire? Is your kitten stuck up a tree? No? Then you don't need HELP!!! You need a deep breath and a shot of whiskey.

Whit's husband is beyond FFF. If we had an "E Tar and Feather Day" that might be more like it.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I took it to mean that a lot of people give up and see divorce as the easy way out. Some people just stop working on the marriage because they are bored, no one has cheated or abused, and instead of even trying to work things out and go to counseling, they get a divorce.
Posted by lizstill13[/QUOTE]

Easy assumption to make.  Do you actually know what the issues are?  Do you know what they've tried to do to solve them?  I guarantee my friends and family really have no clue what my ex and I tried to save our marriage.  Most don't even fully know why we divorced.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]I flame people who post with ALL CAPS and HELP!!!! in the title. Is your house on fire? Is your kitten stuck up a tree? No? Then you don't need HELP!!! You need a deep breath and a shot of whiskey. Whit's husband is beyond FFF. If we had an "E Tar and Feather Day" that might be more like it.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

OMG MY KITTEN IS STUCK IN A TREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Right, but that wasn't me.  1.  I still post on both boards.  B.  I don't have a strong opinion on the matter.  Elephants.  When someone says something, they are only speaking for themselves, not everyone they are friends with.<strong> Cew's pretty much the only one who doesn't post on E at all anymore, and I don't blame her. </strong>
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

Why, because some people said her humour wasn't what some people think as funny? Seems a little silly.

And I don't care what board you post on at all...I thought you were a part of that conversation about not wanting the drama that is here. You hardly post here anymore either.

wadingmoose

Also, I flame the guy on the train who was wearing WAY too much cologne this morning.  It's been 2 freakin' hours and that's still all I can smell.  Ugh.

sarabellam

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Right because heaven forbid she (who has a child) have an opinion that differs from yours (who hates kids) about parenting methods.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Eye-to-eye, Dani.

goheels05

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[QUOTE]I flame people who post with ALL CAPS and HELP!!!! in the title. Is your house on fire? Is your kitten stuck up a tree? No? Then you don't need HELP!!! You need a deep breath and a shot of whiskey. Whit's husband is beyond FFF. If we had an "E Tar and Feather Day" that might be more like it.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]


Ha!  I make a motion that FFF is renamed to E Tar and Feather Day, because it's a far more appropriate title. 

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-34?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:47795220-dfbd-4d45-9266-8394d797d322Post:bdef16f8-42e2-4b61-877e-db8d79dc9942">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : When you guys/they first moved over there and I asked about it, the party line was that you didn't want us bringing E drama to the SB board.  <strong>Personally, I'm bummed that so many regs have ditched E and moved to SB because it's so slow here now.  They're posting things over there that they could have/used to post here, I just don't get it.  I don't get the move at all - okay I do get it, they're trying to get away from specific people that post here that they dont' like.  I get it, I don't like it.  I miss the posts and conversation but I don't want to follow them to another board to get it.
</strong>Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

I am surprised you are still saying this. I think a ton of us (not all, sure) cross post all the time. I think it is immature to drag your feet and say you won't participate in a fun thread just because you are mad you have to leave your comfort zone. Who cares which board it is on? We would love to see you over there and I think you would like getting to know some of the semi regs over there who rarely post over here.

For what it is worth, I don't care where drama goes on any board. The only time things got weird for me what when people were flamming bbycakes on SB for E drama. I get why it happened now that it is played out and I don't have a problem with it anymore.

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-34?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:47795220-dfbd-4d45-9266-8394d797d322Post:1275a2b8-6cf7-46d8-bae4-5ac73cac25c1">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame people who post with ALL CAPS and HELP!!!! in the title. Is your house on fire? Is your kitten stuck up a tree? No? Then you don't need HELP!!!
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

Hahahahaha, so true!

Heels, also Betrothed doesn't post here anymore.  Anyway, sorry if I lumped you in, I don't remember specifically who in that post said those things but it was definitely several people, not just one.

cengle

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[QUOTE]I flame people who post with ALL CAPS and HELP!!!! in the title. Is your house on fire? <strong>Is your kitten stuck up a tree?</strong> No? Then you don't need HELP!!! You need a deep breath and a shot of whiskey. Whit's husband is beyond FFF. If we had an "E Tar and Feather Day" that might be more like it.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I read this line as "is your kitchen stuck up a tree?" 
That would be a big problem.