Money Issues

RebCappon

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[QUOTE]Well I am showing my son what she wrote about me on the May 2013 board. About how I drive her insane. We will see what he has to say about all of this then!
Posted by Momma71511[/QUOTE]

<div>Where does it say this on the May 2013 board? I think you're seeing things! </div>

mcda04

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[QUOTE]Well I am showing my son what she wrote about me on the May 2013 board. About how I drive her insane. We will see what he has to say about all of this then!
Posted by Momma71511[/QUOTE]

Don't run to your son with this nonsense. He'll probably shut you down and take his future bride's side. (rightfully so)

If you're the same FMIL that asks about every single detail eventhough you're not paying and giving unwanted advice, I'd be annoyed with you too and you best believe I'd be venting on TK boards. If this is bride is your FDIL, she's so much more likeable than you.

stantokm

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : Where?  I saw several women discussing their FMILs, but none of them I saw had complaints that were specific enough to even remotely point to being OP's FDIL.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

In the Dear FMIL post, one of the posters is also from Upstate New York.  Nothing was specific enough for it to definitely be the same person, but if you read that post under the assumption that she's the FDIL in question it makes sense.

Hard to say since the potential FDIL is respectful enough not to go into detail.

courtski2004

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[QUOTE]Well I am showing my son what she wrote about me on the May 2013 board. About how I drive her insane. We will see what he has to say about all of this then!
Posted by Momma71511[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, I'm sure that everything in that post will be a complete shock to him. They're getting MARRIED. You don't think that his FI has shared her feelings about you with him before? It is more than clear that what she said holds water.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : Where?  I saw several women discussing their FMILs, but none of them I saw had complaints that were specific enough to even remotely point to being OP's FDIL.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I think both PP and I are referring to the comment on this thread. The "baby boy" leads me to suspect it's Momma's FDIL. Especially when Momma commented on it as well.

Oh and I apologize if my assumptions are wrongs. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_dear-fmil">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_dear-fmil</a>

stantokm

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : I think both PP and I are referring to the comment on this thread. The "baby boy" leads me to suspect it's Momma's FDIL. Especially when Momma commented on it as well. Oh and I apologize if my assumptions are wrongs. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_dear-fmil">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_dear-fmil</a>
Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]

That's the one.  I already warned the bride.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : That's the one.  I already warned the bride.
Posted by stantokm[/QUOTE]
That was nice of you. I'm sure she appreciates it. I think the other post about her being sick before confirms Momma is her FMIL. Ugh. Crazy B.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Well I am showing my son what she wrote about me on the May 2013 board. <strong>About how I drive her insane.</strong> We will see what he has to say about all of this then!
Posted by Momma71511[/QUOTE]
He probably already knows. And if he doesn't he's certainly going to agree with her when he sees you were looking her up on an online wedding site and figuring out which posts are hers.

There is also a chance he won't even believe it's her. I mean, half the people on this thread thinks this is all made up.

On what planet does showing your son a post about yourself on an anonymous wedding online forum sound like a good idea?

This has got to be fake. And if it's not, this is one drama filled momma.

Calypso1977

11 close friends?
that's high to me.

i have probably 5 people that i consider close friends.  and even then, if i had a child, i doubt id invite my friends to their wedding.

venue is probably $100 a plate - so 22 people is ALOT of money.  i can undrestand you not having it, but not sure why you didnt do a bit of research before committing to pay for tehse people.

its rude to take back the invites.  this is why STD's are such a bad idea in the first place.  brides get so caught up in "OMG im getting married" and often these things go out before they really even know what they can afford.  and circusmtances can change, especially with teh long engagemetns most people seem to have these days.

TogetherPerfect

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[QUOTE]I thought I had FIL issues, but you are scary.  However, I am totally calling MUD because there is nothing at all on the May 2013 board like this.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]
I was thinking the same thing. Unless she is completely embarrassed by this, which is a possibility and a shame that she has a FMIL who would do this do her, I believe she would have mentioned how ridiculous her FMIL is.<div>
</div><div>And does anyone else find it odd that the only replies this "momma" can come up now with are about how real her FDIL is over on the May 2013 board? No defending herself or attempting to explain what she plans do to about all of this after reading all of the responses... Hmm...</div>

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : He probably already knows. And if he doesn't he's certainly going to agree with her when he sees you were looking her up on an online wedding site and figuring out which posts are hers. <strong>There is also a chance he won't even believe it's her.</strong> I mean, half the people on this thread thinks this is all made up. On what planet does showing your son a post about yourself on an anonymous wedding online forum sound like a good idea? This has got to be fake. And if it's not, this is one drama filled momma.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

It would be awesome if the poster that OP thinks is her FDIL isn't :)  Then she'll really look BSC when she shows her son the "proof"!  Better make sure you're certain about this, OP... a coworker of mine got married last year and I came across someone on TK from the same city as us, with the same wedding date, same centerpieces (they were her sig pic), and almost identical screen name as my coworker.  There are a lot of people on these boards, and a lot of them have crazy FMILs...

Peledreamsofrain

Heh, I can't wait for the FI to read the responses on that thread.   He's going to have a hard time keeping a straight face.  It would crack me up!

Carson386

I'm going to respond to this since everyone thinks this could be my FMIL, I'm not sure if it is.

Yes my FMIL is a tad bit crazy. But if this is her, it's been blown totally out of proportion. Yes, I was very sick and had surgery. It's nobody's business who is paying my medical bills. I would NEVER uninvite someone because of someone bailing out on a payment of something. Yes my FMIL told us she could not pay for one thing that she said she would pay for, not the end of the world, we had the funds in case it fell through however, we never told her she could invite more people if she helped pay. We told our parents the limits that they could invite, and it was stuck to. I really hope this is not my FMIL, but if it is, I'm going to have a flipping field day with this!

allychase

Man oh man I hope OP is real. If that were my FMIL, FI and I would shut her out real fast. Nut job.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]I'm going to respond to this since everyone thinks this could be my FMIL, I'm not sure if it is. Yes my FMIL is a tad bit crazy. But if this is her, it's been blown totally out of proportion. Yes, I was very sick and had surgery. It's nobody's business who is paying my medical bills. I would NEVER uninvite someone because of someone bailing out on a payment of something. Yes my FMIL told us she could not pay for one thing that she said she would pay for, not the end of the world, we had the funds in case it fell through however, we never told her she could invite more people if she helped pay. We told our parents the limits that they could invite, and it was stuck to. I really hope this is not my FMIL, but if it is, I'm going to have a flipping field day with this!
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]
Carson I'm sorry if I made wrongful assumptions but if Momma isn't your FMIL, your's is still insane.

I'm sorry you have to deal with a loon.

Simply Fated

The stories are crazy similar. This is fairly creepy.



Also, i just want to say... even if it costs $50 per person. Let's just say it does... That's still over a thousand dollars, which is still more money than anyone would like to spend on someone else's friends.  I think some brides on here had that money as their entire budget.

Barbiiieee

Also, I would just like to ask, Momma, if you thought or knew that your FDIL posted on here, why would you not post this question oh, on one of the other 4 million wedding websites on the internet, or something like Yahoo answers?

Oh, because you want to stir up trouble with your family. That's freakin' obnoxious.

Dreamergirl8812

This thread makes me want to call my FMIL and tell her how lucky I am

GoofyAssChick

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[QUOTE]This thread makes me want to call my FMIL and tell her how lucky I am
Posted by Dreamergirl8812[/QUOTE]

Same here.  In fact, I posted on the Sept. 2013 board to count our blessings with the link.  I'm more of a lurker on the Ettiquette Board but this is just crazy town crazy.  If my FMIL posted something like this I'm not sure it's something I could get over. Thankfully my FMIL is wonderful and loves me like the daughter she never had already. 

unclaimedpants

Crazy cakes is all I can say.

Carson, if this is your FMIL, I will contribute $50 to help pay for 1/22nd of the extra guests. I will then pay $150 for a bouncer to walk her out of your wedding.

Love,

another May 2013 knottie

Carson386

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[QUOTE]Crazy cakes is all I can say. Carson, if this is your FMIL, I will contribute $50 to help pay for 1/22nd of the extra guests. I will then pay $150 for a bouncer to walk her out of your wedding. Love, another May 2013 knottie
Posted by carpenters3[/QUOTE]

LOL I love the May Knotties!

melb2013

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[QUOTE]Crazy cakes is all I can say. Carson, if this is your FMIL, I will contribute $50 to help pay for 1/22nd of the extra guests. I will then pay $150 for a bouncer to walk her out of your wedding. Love, another May 2013 knottie
Posted by carpenters3[/QUOTE]

<div>I'll contribute too!  This woman is nuts!</div>

RebCappon

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[QUOTE]Crazy cakes is all I can say. Carson, if this is your FMIL, I will contribute $50 to help pay for 1/22nd of the extra guests. I will then pay $150 for a bouncer to walk her out of your wedding. Love, another May 2013 knottie
Posted by carpenters3[/QUOTE]

<div>Same here! Heck we can get all the May 2013 girls to come bounce her for you, might be more fun then a bouncer.</div>

mandi195

Curious why Momma hasn't responded to confirm or deny if Carson is her FDIL...

Carson386

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[QUOTE]Curious why Momma hasn't responded to confirm or deny if Carson is her FDIL...
Posted by mandi195[/QUOTE]

I'm patiently waiting. FI saw everything last night when I showed him. I asked if he thought it was his mom, and he said he didn't know but it was too close to the crap we have dealt with just on a whole new level.

mandi195

Well, Carson, either way, I wish you the best with you FMIL drama... whether OP is your FMIL or not, that kind of nonsense is never easy to deal with! Keep us posted!

Momma71511

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[QUOTE]Curious why Momma hasn't responded to confirm or deny if Carson is her FDIL...
Posted by mandi195[/QUOTE]

I don't have to confirm anything for you. You all know who it is. And if you really knew her you would change your mind about her being so nice. She has publicly called me crazy, she doesn't want a thing to do with my family, she has taken my son and turned him against me. How fair is it to only have her side of the story?

orangehills

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : I don't have to confirm anything for you. You all know who it is. And if you really knew her you would change your mind about her being so nice. She has publicly called me crazy, she doesn't want a thing to do with my family, she has taken my son and turned him against me. How fair is it to only have her side of the story?
Posted by Momma71511[/QUOTE]

You are such a hypocrite. How can you be upset at her calling you crazy after this post that you started? You are crazy, so really, she is just telling a fact. I hope you are ready to have practically no part in your son's life, because if you were my MIL there is no way in heck you'd be coming around, and certainly no way you'd ever see grandkids. And if Carson is your FDIL she seems strong and secure enough in her relationship that she won't put up with you and your crapp for long, so, go her, sucks for you.

Edit: Also- if you think she turned your son against you, take a long hard look in the mirror honey, by you starting this post, you did that all on your own.

APherber418

If you were my FMIL I'd call you crazy too!!  Seems you just might be!!

OliveOilsMom

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Issues : I don't have to confirm anything for you. You all know who it is. And if you really knew her you would change your mind about her being so nice. She has publicly called me crazy, she doesn't want a thing to do with my family, she has taken my son and turned him against me. How fair is it to only have her side of the story?
Posted by Momma71511[/QUOTE]

So what if she called you crazy.  You said many not so nice things about her, publically too.  You need to turn off the crazy if you expect to have any sort of relationship with your son and FDIL.  And, this has already been said multiple times in this thread, but are you sure you are not the one who has turned your son against you.  I'm sure it shows that you never got along with your FDIL and your son has decided to side with his future wife because they are forming a new family unit.