Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!!

LovinLife11

Okay, So I have been engaged for just about a year now, but I created a new account today because my old account had my full name.

So I chose my bridesmaids a while back and they all said yes!!!  I asked them all for $350 and for their sizes. I think I am being nice by doing all the hard work of getting their dresses, shoes and hair stuff. But they all are being so rude... Advice?

banana468

This isn't even good MUD.

Ghoti

zzzzzzzzzzzzz

em01092

Oh boy. 

renjon7798

$350?  For what?  I'm assuming their dresses?  I'm sorry if this is rude, but I couldn't afford that and even if my best friend in the whole world asked me for that for her wedding, I'd have to say no.

ggirl2001

who spends $350 on a bm dress? I'd laugh in the brides face..

futurepivko

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[QUOTE]Okay, So I have been engaged for just about a year now, but I created a new account today because my old account had my full name. :( So I chose my bridesmaids a while back and they all said yes!!!  <strong>I asked them all for $350 and for their sizes. I think I am being nice by doing all the hard work of getting their dresses, shoes and hair stuff. But they all are being so rude... Advice?</strong>
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]

i had to read this about 10 times to make sure i read that correctly.

you ASKED them for $350? yes, you ARE being rude. if you require certain shoes or hair pieces, those you must pay yourself.

you should have asked each girl in PRIVATE what their budget is, then picked a dress that was fine for the lowest. you don't get I'M THE BRIDE GIVE ME MONEY!

first off, i would be nervous that you would buy everything and pocket what was left over. also, just 'giving you a size' does not mean that when it comes to the dress thats what size they are. different styles can affect sizing.

i would be very angry if i was a bridesmaid and this happened. i am a bridesmaid in a wedding october 15, and if this was done i'd be out

millkn2

I asked my bridesmaids to go shopping with me and it did not cost close to that much money... I think you are being the rude one!

Milsey32

please delete your account again but don't bother creating a new one...

karissakyle2011

If i were a bridesmaid, i'd be offended.  I asked each of my bridesmaids privately what their budget for a dress was, and selected dress options within that range.  Also, i let them go shopping with me so they could feel involved in the selection of something they are forking over money for. Other than the dress, i'm not making them pay anything. I couldn't afford to pay for everyone's hair, so I'm not making them get it done.  If I had required them to have hair and makeup done professionaly, I would be paying for it.  I can understand why they would be upset just having to fork over money and not get to be involved in anything.

LovinLife11

OMG you ladies are NO help!

Yes, I am real! Geez... Thought I was being nice and helping them. I know the are busy.

Ghoti

Can we get more information on your bridesmaids? Are they millionaires? Paris Hilton, perhaps?

ggirl2001

You never explained how they are being rude? what did they do that is rude?

laurenpm

Are you having a dollar dance and a money tree at your reception?

LovinLife11

Um they are rude because they keep saying they won't due it and they want me to buy it.

ggirl2001

I'm totes going to have Paris Hilton as a bridesmaid. She would bring some real klass to my wedding.

LovinLife11

I dont know what a dollar dance is and a money tree?

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I dont know what a dollar dance is and a money tree?
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]

<div>And that just solidified your trollness.  Anyone who has been around these boards knows at least what a dollar dance is.  Sorry, you lose.  Go away now.</div>

banana468

I like some of the intentional spelling errors to. Those are nice touches.

em01092

It is not rude of them to say no to your ridiculous requests, if you are for real that is. 

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Um they are rude because they keep saying they won't due it and they want me to buy it.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]

<div>You need to ask what each individual budget is.</div>

Ghoti

Lets make guesses as to who this person is. 

LovinLife11

Okay, so I looked up a money dance and a dollar tree. I am not doing that. We are not having dancing. And I am not asking guests to give me money.

I do not feel like I am rude to ask for money from the bridesmaids. And sorry if I spelled something wrong, my bad.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Okay, so I looked up a <strong>money dance and a dollar tree</strong>. I am not doing that. We are not having dancing. And I am not asking guests to give me money. I do not feel like I am rude to ask for money from the bridesmaids. And sorry if I spelled something wrong, my bad.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]

<div>You're just pathetic.  </div>

LovinLife11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!! : You need to ask what each individual budget is.
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]



Okay thanks. I will ask how much they can afford to give me.

Ghoti

Ooh "my bad" sounds totally familiar.... 

em01092

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[QUOTE]Okay, so I looked up a money dance and a dollar tree. I am not doing that. We are not having dancing. And I am not asking guests to give me money. I do not feel like I am rude to ask for money from the bridesmaids. And sorry if I spelled something wrong, my bad.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Yes, its expected that BMs need to pay for a dress, but you don't set an amount without asking, ESPECIALLY that high. Obviously they can't afford that since they are not complying, so either lower your standards or pay for the $350 dresses yourself. 

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ootmother2

That's not too bad if they are REAL friends.

M's BM gowns were $350 but I picked up the cost after $200

You should offer that at least

ggirl2001

I still want to know who would ask their friends to shell out $350 for a bridesmaid dress?  I don't care if your friends are loaded or not, I  still can't fathom it.

LovinLife11

Well for the dresses, the shoes and everything it is over $350, so I thought I was being nice!

jenajjthr

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ughhh so mad at my bridesmaids!!!!!! : Okay thanks. I will ask how much they can afford to give me.
Posted by LovinLife11[/QUOTE]

They don't "give" you anything.  You go shopping together, they pay for the dress, not you.