So I have a question and I really hope someone (or many!) can help me!
I have a friend who is planning her wedding. She's having a desination wedding AND a destination bachelor/bachelorette parties. My husband is a groomsman and I am not in the wedding party nor invited to the bachelorette party. I have been told that being the wife of a groomsman should get me and invitation to the bachelorette party, however, it does not. I have also been told that having a destination wedding and destination bachelorette party is in poor taste as well. Now I'm incredibly happy for my friends and their new journey, however, they're lacking in being respectful to others' money situations. It's looking like my husband and I will be spending around $3k for their wedding, and that's him not even being the best man.
I don't know what to do! But it seems so ridiculous to me. Feedback please!
Thank you!
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Re: Destination Wedding & Desination Bachelorette Party
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ETA: he's not obligated to attend the b-party. He can decline
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I am a close personal friend to the bride, which I think answers a couple of the questions. Not going to the b-party for me, saves the money, yes, but it also feels more like a slap in the face since I'm hearing that it's rude to not invite the wife of a groomsman.
I guess the feedback I'm looking for is, is what I'm hearing, what brides are really going by? That it's in poor taste to have a destination b-party and destination wedding?
Thanks!
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No, the groomsmen's wives/gfs don't have to be invited to the b-party. Perhaps the b-party is just her bridesmaids; especially with it being a destination party it's much easier to plan that with a smaller guest list. It's not rude of her to exclude you unless every single other female guest is invited and you're the only exception.
As for the cost; yeah it kinda sucks, and I feel you on that - H is the BM in a wedding this coming weekend and it's costing us quite the chunk of change between the b-party, travel, etc. But it's a choice. Your H doesn't have to go to the b-party. You don't even have to go to the wedding, technically (H could have, and still could decline). But it sounds like that was a decision you made, perhaps you should re-evaluate it, but that's between you and your H.
[QUOTE]I'm really glad there isn't a rule that you have to invite WP's SOs to the bachelorette party. Oi vay.
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This. I don't really care for FI's brother's current GF and have no intention of inviting her to the bachelorette party (should I have one). And FI has never met the (will-be) H of my MOH, so I certainly wouldn't expect him to be invited to the Bach party either.