Hi! I'm here for a bit. H and I are going to make dinner shortly - burgers, corn on the cob, and backed french fried potatoes. I'm waiting for the ground beef to thaw so I can mix up burgers.
I have a fairly good idea what we spent on the wedding. I never added it all up, but I know the "big ticket" items and I probably spent a little more than I think on little stuff I picked up, but not enough to make a significant difference as compared to the venue/alcohol/photog/etc costs.
I personally think I got a great deal for the wedding. We spent about $8,800 for 68 people and everyone keeps telling me how great they thought it was. That includes absolutely everything too, so yeah. Not too shabby!
Hey all. I just finished getting myself moved in. Threw a load in the laundry, set up the internet...you know, all the really serious stuff. Gotta make sure I'm still connected to the outside world. And just realized I don't have shampoo or conditioner. My priorities are in order, seriously.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:a2fa71d2-1e5e-4d45-a53a-71994086ef54">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]Eh, shampoo and conditioner is overrated. Internet is waaay more important. But anyways - I'm glad you're in your new place Bay : ) Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE] I'm...working on being glad I'm here. This has been a really rough weekend. And I miss my kitties :(
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:fce0e946-d77c-46fd-bfc6-28e2d3234637">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : I'm...working on being glad I'm here. This has been a really rough weekend. And I miss my kitties :( Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm sure it's hard. But it's better for you to be somewhere without all the tension and negativity. </div>
Bay hopefully you can get settled soon. I know it must be tough....
H just called...he is out of work and said today was the worst day he had in the 4+ years he worked there. Looks like I better suck it up and start making dinner.
My parents paid for our wedding, which I greatly appreciate. We kept very careful track of expenses along the way, so we've got a total number now. I don't know if I'd feel comfortable sharing it with H's family. I broke down once about feeling bad about how much my dress cost (even though my parents were fine with the cost) and H ended up telling his mom about it and told her how much the dress was. I felt kind of uncomfortable having her know that, but she's not the judgmental type. It's just not their business, ya know?
Bay, are your kitties going to be joining you at the new place?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:3edf883c-9402-44f6-82b7-be533dc2209c">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : I'm sure it's hard. But it's better for you to be somewhere without all the tension and negativity. Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:3edf883c-9402-44f6-82b7-be533dc2209c">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : I'm sure it's hard. But it's better for you to be somewhere without all the tension and negativity. Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE] This is very true. We're still hashing out what we're going to do with the cats. And it's better to not have them here when I'm still moving stuff in (plus there's a pile of crap in the living room that still needs to be taken to GW). I'm just so glad somebody left two fans in here. It's stifling outside.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:9e1a8b39-ea2a-43f6-8ea0-9d7b95f18975">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : Wow, that is horrible for all of you. The whole illness is bad enough but then to have that sort of an emotional rollercoaster along with it is just hideous. Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>It really is. Her mother died from the same cancer (colorectal), she has had a full colostomy (cancer was at stage 3 even then), and it's obviously genetic. So, one day, H will have to endure yearly colonoscopys just to get rid of any polyps because I REFUSE to go through with him what his father is going through with his mother. I also do not want our potential children going through what he is going through. A day of uncomfortableness is much better than leaving your children parent-less because of something that could have easily been prevented.</div><div> </div><div>When H gets home I'm bringing up the topic of asking her to go to a different doctor this time around. This is getting too ridiculous. They knew five months after her diagnosis what stage the cancer was (stage 3, which means it was found in lymph nodes which means it can spread to the rest of your body and organs), yet they are treating it like it's stage 1. Completely baffles me.</div><div> </div><div>I don't want to talk about it too much because there's nothing any of us can really do at this point except be there for her and my FIL, BIL, and H. And pray. There's no point in dwelling on it.</div><div> </div>
We will NEVER tell MIL how much our wedding was. It's killing her not to know, but she mentioned a few times "being sad she couldn't help us b/c she knew it was expensive and it made her feel bad that she couldn't afford to contribute.". And she kept trying to talk us into a cheaper per person venue because she felt bad she couldn't help. (not that we ever asked...)
I agree on the takeout, Hockey. It sounds like you both don't need to be stressing about dinner right now. I hope that this is all just temporary and that tomorrow is a MUCH better day for you both.
Becca - I'm not looking forward to starting colonoscopies. They want me to start at 35 due to my family history through my paternal grandmother. I totally agree that it's awful for anyone to suffer from that cancer when such a simple screening procedure can catch it early enough for it to be minimally dealt with.
Loopy, I would never tell MIL how much we spent on ours either. We used to have a great relationship until a few months prior to the wedding when she was seemingly very unnerved at some decisions we made based on a health crisis that H had. She had previously offered us a generous contribution to our wedding and then she stopped communicating. We never asked for the money and accepted that it wasn't coming (which was fine) and paid for the wedding ourselves. She asked H after the wedding was over if we still had anything else to pay off and if so, all we had to do was just ask her for the money. H told her we had already paid for the wedding in full and that we weren't going to ask them for money. It was originally offered as a gift, and if its a gift they would like to give us, that's great; if not, that was perfectly fine too, but that was their decision to make and not ours. So yeah, we don't talk about the wedding monies, lol.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:9b9023b2-fb58-46df-add7-e126b674ad85">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]We will NEVER tell MIL how much our wedding was. It's killing her not to know, but she mentioned a few times "being sad she couldn't help us b/c she knew it was expensive and it made her feel bad that she couldn't afford to contribute.". And she kept trying to talk us into a cheaper per person venue because she felt bad she couldn't help. (not that we ever asked...) Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]
<div>My dad kept telling us to elope because he felt terrible about not being able to contribute towards our wedding. I finally got really upset with him and told him I didn't give a shiiit about the money, but it felt like he wasn't being supportive because he kept making those comments. So he stopped. And he had a big goofy grin the entire time at the wedding - so I know he enjoyed himself haha. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:471b49c4-2be4-4d3d-9da6-2fb57f9bebd9">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]Becca - I'm not looking forward to starting colonoscopies. They want me to start at 35 due to my family history through my paternal grandmother. I totally agree that it's awful for anyone to suffer from that cancer when such a simple screening procedure can catch it early enough for it to be minimally dealt with. Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>:-( </div><div> </div><div>H is the same way. He doesn't want them. He knows that I will stand behind him no matter what but that I am adament about him getting them. None of his mother's doctors have told them when he and his brother need to start being checked. We're both 30 next year. Based on what I've read, I bet it's within five to 10 years. Really not all that long considering.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:05201452-6951-4759-8576-03e76ce402a5">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]I am so proud of you Bay. I made gnocchi with sage butter and I ate so much I think I may keel over or vomit. But it was soooooo worth it. Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lazy-sunday-afternoon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:606323f0-b3da-4c21-92c5-f2f71a09880cPost:38153f4e-7485-4f4a-ae80-9a4b951d95e9">Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : Recipe? Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>This for the butter: <a href="http://silkandwhiskey.blogspot.de/2012/04/pasta-sage-butter.html" rel="nofollow">http://silkandwhiskey.blogspot.de/2012/04/pasta-sage-butter.html</a></div><div> </div><div>And this is my favorite gnocchi recipe. I make it all of the time: <a href="http://budgetbytes.blogspot.com/2011/08/easy-ricotta-gnocchi-258-recipe-065.html" rel="nofollow">http://budgetbytes.blogspot.com/2011/08/easy-ricotta-gnocchi-258-recipe-065.html</a></div>
Becca - have your H talk to HIS doctor about the family history. It helps if he knows about how old the family members were when they were diagnosed. My dad and my uncle had their first polyps found (and removed) at like 40 - which is why my doctor wants me to start having them every 5 years at 35. I think they usually start at 50 if there's no family history. My grandmother survived her cancer in her 60's, and her sister in her 60's also.
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[QUOTE]Eh, shampoo and conditioner is overrated. Internet is waaay more important. But anyways - I'm glad you're in your new place Bay : )
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
I'm...working on being glad I'm here. This has been a really rough weekend. And I miss my kitties :(
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : I'm...working on being glad I'm here. This has been a really rough weekend. And I miss my kitties :(
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm sure it's hard. But it's better for you to be somewhere without all the tension and negativity. </div>
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H just called...he is out of work and said today was the worst day he had in the 4+ years he worked there. Looks like I better suck it up and start making dinner.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : I'm sure it's hard. But it's better for you to be somewhere without all the tension and negativity.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto this - and you have PM </div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : I'm sure it's hard. But it's better for you to be somewhere without all the tension and negativity.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
This is very true. We're still hashing out what we're going to do with the cats. And it's better to not have them here when I'm still moving stuff in (plus there's a pile of crap in the living room that still needs to be taken to GW). I'm just so glad somebody left two fans in here. It's stifling outside.
Books read in 2012: 21/50
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lazy Sunday Afternoon : Wow, that is horrible for all of you. The whole illness is bad enough but then to have that sort of an emotional rollercoaster along with it is just hideous.
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It really is. Her mother died from the same cancer (colorectal), she has had a full colostomy (cancer was at stage 3 even then), and it's obviously genetic. So, one day, H will have to endure yearly colonoscopys just to get rid of any polyps because I REFUSE to go through with him what his father is going through with his mother. I also do not want our potential children going through what he is going through. A day of uncomfortableness is much better than leaving your children parent-less because of something that could have easily been prevented.</div><div>
</div><div>When H gets home I'm bringing up the topic of asking her to go to a different doctor this time around. This is getting too ridiculous. They knew five months after her diagnosis what stage the cancer was (stage 3, which means it was found in lymph nodes which means it can spread to the rest of your body and organs), yet they are treating it like it's stage 1. Completely baffles me.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't want to talk about it too much because there's nothing any of us can really do at this point except be there for her and my FIL, BIL, and H. And pray. There's no point in dwelling on it.</div><div>
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[QUOTE]We will NEVER tell MIL how much our wedding was. It's killing her not to know, but she mentioned a few times "being sad she couldn't help us b/c she knew it was expensive and it made her feel bad that she couldn't afford to contribute.". And she kept trying to talk us into a cheaper per person venue because she felt bad she couldn't help. (not that we ever asked...)
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]
<div>My dad kept telling us to elope because he felt terrible about not being able to contribute towards our wedding. I finally got really upset with him and told him I didn't give a shiiit about the money, but it felt like he wasn't being supportive because he kept making those comments. So he stopped. And he had a big goofy grin the entire time at the wedding - so I know he enjoyed himself haha. </div>
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[QUOTE]Becca - I'm not looking forward to starting colonoscopies. They want me to start at 35 due to my family history through my paternal grandmother. I totally agree that it's awful for anyone to suffer from that cancer when such a simple screening procedure can catch it early enough for it to be minimally dealt with.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>:-( </div><div>
</div><div>H is the same way. He doesn't want them. He knows that I will stand behind him no matter what but that I am adament about him getting them. None of his mother's doctors have told them when he and his brother need to start being checked. We're both 30 next year. Based on what I've read, I bet it's within five to 10 years. Really not all that long considering.
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[QUOTE]I am so proud of you Bay. I made gnocchi with sage butter and I ate so much I think I may keel over or vomit. But it was soooooo worth it.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]
<div>Recipe?</div>
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Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>This for the butter: <a href="http://silkandwhiskey.blogspot.de/2012/04/pasta-sage-butter.html" rel="nofollow">http://silkandwhiskey.blogspot.de/2012/04/pasta-sage-butter.html</a></div><div>
</div><div>And this is my favorite gnocchi recipe. I make it all of the time: <a href="http://budgetbytes.blogspot.com/2011/08/easy-ricotta-gnocchi-258-recipe-065.html" rel="nofollow">http://budgetbytes.blogspot.com/2011/08/easy-ricotta-gnocchi-258-recipe-065.html</a></div>
And those recipes look bangin'.
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