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K27Lynn
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Asking guests to not take pictures during the ceremony
I always find it annoying when guests take pictures during ceremonys, usuallly because they are blocking anothers view & it's distracting. How can I politely let guests know to keep their cameras away until the reception? And even then just to take pictures with me & FI or other guests?
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Re: Asking guests to not take pictures during the ceremony
First of all, how would you enforce that? Secondly, you can't expect guests not to take pictures at a wedding, nor can you limit them to which pictures they can take.
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Even if you did, people will still take pictures and everyone will think you are a witch for suggesting them not to.
If it is venue policy, then I would have the venue make an announcement right before the ceremony starts, not you.
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[QUOTE]Short answer: You can't.
Posted by eirwyn[/QUOTE]
Yes you can. Our officiant states no pictures during the ceremony; the marriage is a religious and sacred event, and therefore must be treated as such. Therefore, no pictures during the ceremony.
Is your ceremony is a place of worship?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking guests to not take pictures during the ceremony : eirwyn said that right after she gave the short answer.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
She states ceremony site. I answered regarding the requirements of the officiant.
If it's just a whim of yours,get over it
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking guests to not take pictures during the ceremony : Yes you can. Our officiant states no pictures during the ceremony; the marriage is a religious and sacred event, and therefore must be treated as such. Therefore, no pictures during the ceremony. Is your ceremony is a place of worship?
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]
No. I just think it's rude when guests are in aisle taking pictures as the bride is walking down (I've seen guests do it). That's what the photographer is for. It also makes it harder for other guests to see if everyone in front of them are holding up cameras.
Also, can you please explain why you also want to restrict the reception photos? That just makes absolutely no sense at all.
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[QUOTE]I also want to know more about the reception photos.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
As for the reception I meant like during "events" such as first dance, speechs. I will have the rights to my photos so I can share them later. I don't want anyones view blocked because Uncle Danny decided to play photographer when I already have one.
I try to stay out of others peoples ways at events so everyone can see. Maybe it's just because I'm short and always seem to get pushed to the back.
Let it go.
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One of my favorite photos from our first dance is from DH's cousin.
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Beat me to it, crfb:)
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[QUOTE]Also, some of my best photos came from my guests.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm really looking forward to seeing photos that my guests take. I've created a photo share site with shutterfly and will have a bunch of business cards with that info on it so people can upload their pictures and see the ones that other people have taken. Not that I expect a ton of people to do this, but a few might. </div><div>
</div><div>OP - you do know that a wedding reception is supposed to be FUN right? Micro-managing everyone is not fun.</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Asking guests to not take pictures during the ceremony : She states ceremony site. I answered regarding the requirements of the officiant.
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]
Clearly, I meant ceremony site or officiant. My point was that unless it's mandated by someone at the venue/church/ceremony site/officiant's house/park/backyard/etc, she'll have a hard time enforcing this.
it won't guarantee that there won't be pictures on facebook 5 minutes after I walk down the aisle, but we are hoping it will help.
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[QUOTE]I'll be the voice of partial dissent here-There was a really lovely blog post about this on Offbeat Bride, <a href="http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/unplugged-wedding" rel="nofollow">http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/unplugged-wedding</a> , with most of the couples basically asking guests to participate with full presence of mind and heart during the brief ceremony...It can be done delicately, not in a demanding, bridezilla way, but I'd definitely put the emphasis on the focused sanctity of your ceremony and not that you don't want people standing in the aisles or whatnot.
Posted by hollyweenOR[/QUOTE]
<div>We've heard this argument before. In my mind, it's condescending to tell adults where their minds and hearts should be during the ceremony. If you've invited someone that you don't think will care enough about seeing you get married to behave appropriately, then perhaps they should not be on the guest list at all. </div><div>
</div><div>I'd give a major eye roll to any "instructions" in the program that focus on the sanctity of the ceremony and not a practical consideration. "Please keep the aisle clear so that all may see" comes off a lot better than "Please stay in your chair and put your camera down to ensure your entire focus is on me" (which is exactly how "sanctity of the ceremony" requests sound no matter how they're phrased). </div>
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This might get photos posted out of spite.
[QUOTE]I think I have the only differing opinion here... but, after everyone is seated, one of our groomsmen is going to make a quick announcement to the guest about photos. We don't mind people taking photos (we actually want to encourage it), but what we DON'T want is a bunch of pictures posted to facebook before the ceremony is even over. So, before I get there/walk down the aisle, the groomsman is going to ask everyone to take their seats and say something like "we encourage you to take photos during the ceremony, but please refrain from posting any photos to social networking sites". it won't guarantee that there won't be pictures on facebook 5 minutes after I walk down the aisle, but we are hoping it will help.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
This is rude. Way to treat your guests like the adults that they are. Who cares if someone posts a photo of you before the cermeony is over? Most people won't. You're going to make the 99% of your guests that won't do this feel like a bunch of children. You cannot control what your guests do. Sorry.
And to piggy back off the person who's parents house burned down, I knew of a photographer who's equipment was stolen at the end of the night (out of her car) and lost ALL of the pictures. So guest photos of the ceremony/reception may be all you have. Those can't be staged at a later date.
[QUOTE]I tend to be easily annoyed by a lot of things, but I got to say that people taking photos and even putting them on fb immediately wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I certainly wouldn't be telling guests what they could and couldn't do. To me, this sounds like another thing where some brides have their wedding day confused with control-the-universe day.
Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]
<div>This is exactly what I was thinking actually. </div><div>
</div><div>I mean, the only thing I would have against pics of my ceremony/reception going up on facebook while the wedding is going on is that it would make me feel kind of bad for the few people that didn't get an invite that might see it. I have been VERY careful to avoid talking about my wedding around these people, and don't post much about my wedding to FB. But, really, on my wedding day thats so not something I'm going to be thinking about.</div>
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