Irks up in here!

MattsPenguin

I love my new last name.  It's so easy.  Much more so when compared to my maiden name.   Everyone knows how to spell it and pronounce it. 

Sigh . . .

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I have the opposite problem.  It's impossible to pronounce my maiden name wrong.  My married name... it's kinda fun.  Like a Russian roulette of how this person will butcher the pronunciation.  My married names rhymes with taco, but people always want to say CHOW. 
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I saw your name on the SS thing - and I was totally saying "chow" lol

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I've actually heard people do this irl. My name isn't Danielle but it still drives me nuts. 
Posted by eorea[/QUOTE]

I could understand when it happened in college - in my big lecture hall classes, the prof would call your name to come down and get your scantron back after you took an exam.  Danielle wouldn't fit on the scantron sheet, but Daniel did.  So that's no big.

But people call me Daniel to my face, and will even reply <em>in emails, </em>where my name is spelled correctly in my signature - by calling me Daniel.  Well.  Alright then.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : My aunt spend ten minutes trying to convince my mom that I was my younger sister once.  She was all "Look, I know your daughters.  That one is Christina (my sister)." My mom was all "Um...I'm pretty sure I can tell my own children apart.  And that's Megan."
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

My other two sisters are Dana and Deanna.  When Deanna was born, my mom told great-grandma what she named the baby.  G-grandma got all pissy and said "Didn't you name your last baby that?!"  Haha, ah, grandmother.

froggatt.clare

My first AND last name were spelled incorrectly in different places in my HS yearbook.

Granted, I was only in that HS for a year, but come ON ppl.  Its my SENIOR yearbook.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : That's because it's "i before e".  DUH. =P
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

That's EXACTLY what my mom's friend said! Ha.

andrea2473

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : It really upset FI, because neither of us actually thought his sisters would want to be in the wedding party.  And the reality is, we had trouble picking as it was, and I was bummed to leave out other people anyway.  He wrote back 'Give me on reason why they should be in.  We've had to make some difficult choices, but we're asking that you respect our wishes.  I do not want to discuss this again."  I was really impressed.
Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]

Good job FI!  There are VERY few people that would offend me if they didn't ask me to be in their WP, and my SIL isn't one of them.  And we are actually pretty close, but I understand that she has her own family and sisters.  It's just a weird thing to get all pissy about.  I think it's just an AWing thing for some. 

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]I love my new last name.  It's so easy.  Much more so when compared to my maiden name.   Everyone knows how to spell it and pronounce it.  Sigh . . .
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

It's pronounced "Smith" right? lol

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]I'm super irked. Yesterday a man came into my work to drop off a resume. He asked to speak to a manager, but Wednesday is a schedule full of meetings and they were not able to see him. I told him I would gladly pass his resume on if all of his contact information was listed, and he got friggin' pissed. He told me that he had dropped one off with me once already and didn't get a call back. He said "I think you're a racist." First of all, I'd never seen this man in my life. Even if I had, I would NEVER purposely prevent someone from becoming employed. I told him that he was giving me way too much credit and that I had nothing to do with the hiring process. He kept accusing me of being a racist who threw out his resume, and said this was why he couldn't trust it in my care. I finally called down a manager who escorted him out of the building. I know it's not a huge deal, but it stung. I'm still feeling that today. I would never want to be perceived that way. I realize he was just pulling a cheap card to get what he wanted, but it bothers me that it was said. Ugh,
Posted by KarleeKrause35[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>When I was waiting tables i forgot to get a guy a coke refill (twice.. I had another table that flew in from hell for the night) and he told me (and my manager) it was cause I was racist.  Sometimes you just can't win.

</div>

amys325

My (soon to be maiden name cause I'm lazy and haven't officially changed it) is a difficult Polish last name.....I won't put it out there for everyone, but I've had the mispronunciation of Suck-c0ck-ee.  Yes, you read it right there. 

But my soon to be married name is a pretty easy Italian name and people manage to butcher it.   I don't know if I can handle another 30+ years of having to correct people on how to spell/pronounce my new last name! 

Oh and my first name is Amy.  3 letters, 2 syllables, easy right?  Why do people feel the need to shorten it?  WHY?!?!  I hate Ames and Ame.  Just call me Amy.  It's simple enough.

Nickivegan

I get irked when people write Nichole. I am not a Ni-ch-hole. Nicole. And I never go by that EVER. Nicki. Nick with an i. Or Nick. Not Nikki, not Nicky not Nikky. It's spelled there in my email address, and FB page.

I also really can't stand it when people assume I am all judgy-pantsy when you eat meat in front of me. No, I don't care what you eat. And no, I won't preach my views to you (well, unless you ask, then we can discuss it. But never over meal/eating time). My husband eats meat. I used to go to game dinners until I went veggie. So take your pre-conceived notion of what vegans are, toss that, and then have a conversation with me.

KarleeKrause35

People never spell my name right. Ever. Because my parents made it that way. I think they were trying to be unique, but it ended up being more irritating for them than anything.

My best friend and MOH has the exact same name and spelling. We were 13 when we met, and we were fascinated by it. It was tough for everyone else though. Called out to one, got the other.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : It's pronounced "Smith" right? lol
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

That's how Uncle Ted pronounces it.

baystateapple

I love my married last name, but it is REALLY common.  My maiden name was less common (except for in southern MA/Northern RI -- huge Portuguese communities), but it drove me crazy because it was also the name of a pop singer and people would ALWAYS ask if we were related.

Yes.  We are the only two people in the world with that last name.  *rolls eyes*

sparent2010

My bangs irk me I told the girl side bands she gave me the typical asian bowl hair cut- with chopped straight bangs. Ihate them a little more everyday.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]People never spell my name right. Ever. Because my parents made it that way. I think they were trying to be unique, but it ended up being more irritating for them than anything. My best friend and MOH has the exact same name and spelling. We were 13 when we met, and we were fascinated by it. It was tough for everyone else though. Called out to one, got the other.
Posted by KarleeKrause35[/QUOTE]

My husband's best friend from growing up and roommate from college have the exact first and last name, minus one letter: "s".

It took a lot of explaining to my family so they could figure out which one was which.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]My (soon to be maiden name cause I'm lazy and haven't officially changed it) is a difficult Polish last name.....I won't put it out there for everyone, but I've had the mispronunciation of Suck-c0ck-ee.  Yes, you read it right there.  But my soon to be married name is a pretty easy Italian name and people manage to butcher it.   I don't know if I can handle another 30+ years of having to correct people on how to spell/pronounce my new last name!  Oh and my first name is Amy.  3 letters, 2 syllables, easy right?  Why do people feel the need to shorten it?  WHY?!?!  I hate Ames and Ame.  Just call me Amy.  It's simple enough.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

I know a girl with this last name, if it's the one I'm thinking of.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : It's pronounced "Smith" right? lol
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

<div>"That's Smythe, not Smith dear"</div>

Anysunrise

I never had any problems with my first name (Stephanie is pretty easy, even though there are a billion ways to spell it, mine's pretty much the most common way) or my maiden name, but people seem to have trouble with my married name. I get that the a is actually pronouced like an i, and that might be confusing, but it's really pretty simple.

MyUserName1

My FI's last name is a completely phonetic Italian name.  But it has a Z in it, so it freaks people out.  They always butcher it. Can't wait for that one.

My current last name is phoenetic and of English origin and people can't handle it either because it has one "a" where you might expect an "e"

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : "That's Smythe, not Smith dear"
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

GAH!! What's that from?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I love my married last name, but it is REALLY common.  My maiden name was less common (except for in southern MA/Northern RI -- huge Portuguese communities), but it drove me crazy because it was also the name of a pop singer and people would ALWAYS ask if we were related. Yes.  We are the only two people in the world with that last name.  *rolls eyes*
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

My married name is pretty unique.  I've googled it and I always come up with me. 

When I google my maiden name, I get TONS of other people.

eorea

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[QUOTE]<strong>I get irked when people write Nichole. I am not a Ni-ch-hole. Nicole. And I never go by that EVER. Nicki. Nick with an i. Or Nick. Not Nikki, not Nicky not Nikky. It's spelled there in my email address, and FB page.</strong> I also really can't stand it when people assume I am all judgy-pantsy when you eat meat in front of me. No, I don't care what you eat. And no, I won't preach my views to you (well, unless you ask, then we can discuss it. But never over meal/eating time). My husband eats meat. I used to go to game dinners until I went veggie. So take your pre-conceived notion of what vegans are, toss that, and then have a conversation with me.
Posted by Nickivegan[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm so guilty of this. For the longest time I would call you "Nickie". I knew your name was Nicki Vegan but when I looked fast I thought the "v" was an "e". </div><div>
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KarleeKrause35

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : When I was waiting tables i forgot to get a guy a coke refill (twice.. I had another table that flew in from hell for the night) and he told me (and my manager) it was cause I was racist.  Sometimes you just can't win.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

You're right. I cant fvcking believe people pull that card when there's no reason.

ggirl2001

I have a lot of vowels and r's between my first name and married name. It gets butchered a lot. It also sounds funny with my first name. Oh well.

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : This.<strong> My full name is Kathleen</strong>, which I use at work, and everyone thinks it's ok to abbreviate this to Kathy or Kathie. And honestly, outside of work everyone calls me Katie, not Kathy anyway. Also, I once had someone look at my name and say "oh, that's an interesting spelling of Caitlin". Yeah....
Posted by krizzo17[/QUOTE]

<div>Me too! </div><div>But I don't abbriviate to anything. I get annoyed when people just do it because they can. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, Kathleen is my middle name and I hate when people call me by my legal name because they can. Even after I've told them...that's not my name.</div>

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : My married name is pretty unique.  I've googled it and I always come up with me.  When I google my married name, I get TONS of other people.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

When I googled my name prior to marriage, it always came up with me.  Or this woman whose first name was "Gay", but her middle and last name were the same as mine.  She was the president of her sorority in  New Hampshire.

Now I find lots of people with my new name.  It's kind of sad.

baystateapple

My father was furious when an employee of his pulled the "racist" card when he was berating her.  She screwed something up, and he was chastising her in private when she told him that obviously he has a problem with black people.  My dad is one of the least-racist people ever, and I know that seriously pissed him off.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : Me too!  But I don't abbriviate to anything. I get annoyed when people just do it because they can.  Also, Kathleen is my middle name and I hate when people call me by my legal name because they can. Even after I've told them...that's not my name.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>My BFF goes by her middle name too. Her first name is Gloria, and she'd always have to explain to her teachers that she doesn't go by that, lol.</div>

Nickivegan

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Irks up in here! : I had a friend in middle school and college who was a vegetarian.  I couldn't eat meat in front of her without her having a disgusted look on her face.  So I just avoided doing it on front of her after that.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
I get why it bothers some people, but if you didn't grow up being a vegetarian, get off of your high-horse, because you were apart of the meat industry.<div>Now, if you were to throw meat at me, or wave steak in my face, etc, then there would be problems. </div><div>Sitting down with each other at a table, I don't care what's on your plate.</div>