F/U: The IOU

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: F/U: The IOU : As I recall, her H isn't fond of Christmas and isn't "into giving presents" or some such nonsense because his childhood Christmases sucked due to multiple divorces and whatnot.  I was under the impression that's what caused his lackluster Christmas attempt.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Yup.
And we set a $100 limit, so money WAS an issue, but it didn't call for regifted, half eaten candy bags and a big ole IOU for a dog he didn't think about the reality of.

But I agree with you, LVB - he probably is thinking I'm being a jerkface.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]I can make grits. But I always mess up rice. Which is odd, considering it's basically the same preparation of the same thing (almost).
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

I absolutely 100% can not make rice. I even mess up minute rice. True story. BITCH COULDA GOTTEN ME A RICE COOKER! He's always making fun of me for my lack of rice skillz.

louisvillebride21

I'm NOT calling you a jerkface at all. I think maybe both of you were a little thoughtless. He for doing shitty gifts (which I totally agree, are). And maybe you for not thinking about how he was feeling about everything. First, he has bad associations with Christmas and then you making a big deal about how small everything was compared to how great it has always been with your parents.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]Yeah, she did say that. I guess I'm just inferring that because she didn't get him much either, that she contributed to the small Christmas. Whatever, I don't know. I was just giving my opinion, just like everyone else. But I'm the only one with this opinion, and I'm ok with that. I still love her like woah, so it's all good in my book.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I spent about $200 on him...keyboard and mouse, harddrive, and an awesome as hell stocking complete with flaming cheetos, deodorant, reeses cups and a kitkat bar. Oh and a card. He didn't even get me a card.

OH...and I thought I was the only one who said "love her like whoah"...I like you more and more each day, Mrs. Tebow.

ricksang

You should always be honest in a relationship. I mean you don't have to be a b!tch about it (which you were not) but how will he know you don't like something if you don't tell him?

Mrs.B6302007

On top of all that you told us yesterday, he also ATE THE CANDY?  He gave you not only a regift bag of candy but LEFTOVERS?

Honey, YOU don't suck - he does.

georgia_bride09

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[QUOTE]Wherever Nuggs goes, I go. Simple as that. (or dat in ebonics)
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

True dat.

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louisvillebride21

Haha, I put H's card in his stocking and stuffed it 2 days before Christmas. That night, when he ran out to get something for my cooking, he got me a card. He had totally forgot. And thought I wouldn't notice when he slipped it in. Nice.

LDYGTR13

I totally smell what you're steppin' in, LVB.

pinkpinot

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[QUOTE]You've said that twice now, Pink. What are you like 10 pds? Geeze. I hate you.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I wish I could post my highschool prom picture right now.  I was 40lbs heavier.  I've always been the girl who would lose a bunch of weight but gain a bunch more back. 

louisvillebride21

::sniff sniif:: Aww Damnit! Not again!!

Ok, I'm out. Hope I didn't hurt your feelers. That wasn't my intention.

Have a good night all!

salt78

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[QUOTE]I totally smell what you're steppin' in, LVB.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

<div>Gross.</div>

cengle

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[QUOTE]I haven't given anyone a Christmas card since high school.  I don't give birthday cards either.  I think that cards are a rip-off.
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]

I only give cards (for birthdays) when I don't give someone a gift. So it's one of those "I wanted to acknowledge your birth but didn't think enough to buy you something" type of deals. I haven't sent out Christmas cards in a long time either.

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]I haven't given anyone a Christmas card since high school.  I don't give birthday cards either.  I think that cards are a rip-off.
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]

I like to give people funny ones.  I especially like the ones on someecards.  I like to give them to Noodle for no reason.

leah2b

I hear you on this.  I go through this same thing with my husband.  He is a terrible gift giver and I feel like he doesn't put much effort into it. I've definitely had some tears and fights similar to yours over it in the past. He tells me he feels very overhwelmed by shopping.  I tell him I feel taken for granted...yaddayaddayadda....

My solution?  Make up an amazon.com "wishlist" - put a bunch of things on there that you  like in a variety of price ranges (put lots of small and big things) and tell him that whenever he needs to find a gift for you, he can simply choose one off of it. Keep that baby updated.  That way, you get what you want, you are still a bit surprised, and he he has no excuse for not getting you a gift you will like.   Or, make a list of things you want and where to buy it and keep it in a drawer and give him the same instructions.