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After reading the KPS, I'm surprised at the number of affairs.

So, totally anon, don't have to say a word at all, how many of you have cheated on your current FI/DH?
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    I've cheated on a previous boyfriend because I was too chickenshit to just end it, but I can't imagine ever cheating on FI.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_affairs-anonymous-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7bf6d772-a54a-4fd8-9997-84453e064515Post:64fd1b55-7233-47c5-b167-44727300b1e9">Re: Affairs anonymous Poll</a>:
    [QUOTE]I fell for one of them.. and you know the rest. I
    Posted by kkchisholm[/QUOTE]

    Is he your FI now?
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    [QUOTE]How crazy was the car sex one?  I'm not judging, just saying it made me think of Sex and the City.
    Posted by ZRex[/QUOTE]

    This is why I posted!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_affairs-anonymous-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7bf6d772-a54a-4fd8-9997-84453e064515Post:47474c54-9f6b-4899-afac-060c0b9d078c">Re: Affairs anonymous Poll</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am totally addicted to the KPS and the Niner one! I have never cheated on my H or any boyfriend. <strong>I'm think it's interesting how many secret submitters want to be with women. 
    </strong>Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

    This was the least surprising thing in there to me.  I think a lot of the ladies here are only half-joking when they say 'we should make out!'.  Haha
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    Making out with a chick for the first time is hot, thats why they want to do it.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Affairs anonymous Poll : Is he your FI now?
    Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

    No. We dated for three weeks and that's about it.
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    [QUOTE]I am totally addicted to the KPS and the Niner one! I have never cheated on my H or any boyfriend. <strong>I'm think it's interesting how many secret submitters want to be with women</strong>. 
    Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

    Especially with how much joking around we do about who's bisexual.
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    [QUOTE]Making out with a chick for the first time is hot, thats why they want to do it.
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, I'm not really questioning why they want to do it.  Just found it interesting that SO many do!
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    I've honestly never had any interest in making out with another girl.  I feel like I missed out on part of the college experience.
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    I think the best part of KPS is you may find your own secrets in other knotties submissions.  Although many of them are sad, I think it's comforting for other people to know, hey you're not alone in feeling that way. 
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    I could have easily cheated on EX with J. I'm so glad we came to our senses and cut all contact so many years ago. Because it SUCKS when you're on the other side and you're the one being cheated on, and I think I'd expect J to think I'd cheat if I had cheated on EX with him, even all those years ago. If someone else's husband cheated on her with me, then left her to be with me, I'd wonder who he'd leave me for for the rest of our relationship.
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    [QUOTE]I think the best part of KPS is you may find your own secrets in other knotties submissions.  Although many of them are sad, I think it's comforting for other people to know, hey you're not alone in feeling that way. 
    Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

    Thats true, quite a few of the secrets are totally relatable to me. WAY more so than normal PS.
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    [QUOTE] Has anyone noticed that KPS is being talked about all over the nest? I lurk on a few boards over there and its been brought up a few times.
    Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]

    The AFSB girls on the Caribbean Nest board posted the link and were kind of making fun of it.  So yeah, I think the link is getting around.
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    Ooh, which boards ltb?
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    I have never cheated on FI, and I am confident that I never will.  I am so confident because I cheated on two boyfriends in the past, and the guilt that came afterwards (and even during) was so overwhelming that it makes me sick just to think about it.  So in a way, it might have been a good thing that I cheated back then because now I know that no matter what ups and downs I go through with FI, cheating will never be an option for me.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Affairs anonymous Poll : The AFSB girls on the Caribbean Nest board posted the link and were kind of making fun of it.  So yeah, I think the link is getting around.
    Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

    They make fun of pretty much everything.
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    [QUOTE]I've honestly never had any interest in making out with another girl.  I feel like I missed out on part of the college experience.
    Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

    The thought of being with a woman actually terrifies me because I think a woman would notice my body flaws more than a man.  I just feel like girls are more judgmental and see every flaw & stretch mark.  I hate when I have to undress in front of other woman because of that.  I'm sure it's all in my head....
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    I tried posting on KPS last night but I was confused on how to do it.  Like put your secret in a word doc. and then attach it to tinypic?  how does the wording get put on pictures? 

    I felt really dumb last night because I couldn't figure it out.
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    I have never cheated. I never will. I couldn't imagine putting anyone through that.
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    [QUOTE]I tried posting on KPS last night but I was confused on how to do it.  Like put your secret in a word doc. and then attach it to tinypic?  how does the wording get put on pictures?  I felt really dumb last night because I couldn't figure it out.
    Posted by *BeachBride0410*[/QUOTE]


    I think they are using Picnik or another photo editor to place the words on the photo first and then sending it in. 
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    edited April 2010
    That's especially funny if TIP-ers are talking about how f-ed up the knotties are.

    Edit: Okay, I actually just went and found the threads where they are talking about it, and it's really not that bad.  Most of them have had the same reactions as people here, that a lot of them are really sad.  And how much more crazy there would be if people did one for TheBump, lol
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    [QUOTE]I tried posting on KPS last night but I was confused on how to do it.  Like put your secret in a word doc. and then attach it to tinypic?  how does the wording get put on pictures?  I felt really dumb last night because I couldn't figure it out.
    Posted by *BeachBride0410*[/QUOTE]

    You have to open a picture in something like PowerPoint or Paint or picnik.com and then type your words onto it. Then I think you need to upload it to a picture hosting site (shutterfly, photobucket, whatever) and get a link for it.  Then you put the link in tinypic.com and send it anonymously to the Knot PS e-mail address.  I haven't actually done one yet but I'm pretty sure that's how you do it.
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    Am I missing something? What is KPS and where do I find it?

    And I've never cheated and never will. DH is lucky in that men, for the most part, disgust me. The thought of being touched by anyone, let alone another guy, makes me cringe. He's the only one I don't mind cuddling up to.
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    That's funny to me that the ladies on TIP or ML would make fun of knotties being "f'ed up".  I lurk there sometimes, and some of those people are scarily messed up.
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    Oooh!  There are new ones up!

    To the woman who's afraid to tell her fi that she likes some of the kinky stuff:  DO IT.  Trust me on this one. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Affairs anonymous Poll : You have to open a picture in something like PowerPoint or Paint or picnik.com and then type your words onto it. Then I think you need to upload it to a picture hosting site (shutterfly, photobucket, whatever) and get a link for it.  Then you put the link in tinypic.com and send it anonymously to the Knot PS e-mail address.  I haven't actually done one yet but I'm pretty sure that's how you do it.
    Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

    Oh ok...it seems way to time consuming for me...
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    I broke off a 5 year affair right before FI and I got back together (after splitting up for 6 years)...he was married and, obviously, not leaving her. Judge me or whatever, yes, I shouldn't have done it, but when I'm honest, I can't regret it, he was my best friend and it happened...That being said, no way I would cheat on FI now, but I've grown up a lot since it first started. I do understand how it happens, but it took me a long time to realize the risk isn't worth it in the end.

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    [QUOTE]I broke off a 5 year affair right before FI and I got back together (after splitting up for 6 years)...he was married and, obviously, not leaving her. Judge me or whatever, yes, I shouldn't have done it, but when I'm honest, I can't regret it, he was my best friend and it happened...That being said, no way I would cheat on FI now, but I've grown up a lot since it first started. I do understand how it happens, but it took me a long time to realize the risk isn't worth it in the end.
    Posted by angela72023[/QUOTE]

    I once was the "other women" too....so I can't judge you.  Ironically it was the relationship before I met my hubby.  He knows about it, I came clean 100% with him & he didn't judge me and stayed with me.  One of the reasons I fell in love with him.   But I have never and will never be the cheater.  Sometimes its hard for people to understand how you can be the other women but say you couldn't be the cheater &  I get that....I can't explain it myself.  I was much younger then him, which I know isn't an excuse.  But like you said you I have grown up a lot since then.
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    My FI and I cheated on each other almost 5 years ago.  It wasn't at the exact same time but that's a good estimate.  We were young, reckless, and selfish.  For him, he did it because he could.  I did it because I was away at college and I like attention.  Both are horrible and I obviously wouldn't be admitting it if we were still the same way.  He came clean first (almost a year later) and then I came clean (same day).  His was "worse" but we don't think about it 99.9% of the time. 

    In a way, I'm glad it happened.  It made us aware of each other's needs and weaknesses.  I cheated on a bf before Andy and I was also THAT girl who people cheated on their girlfriends with.  I had to learn to stop needing attention from men. 
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    I've never cheated on DH, but I was tempted several times with my ex. The temptation was part of what made me realize that something was wrong with the marriage, and the fact that I could be so un-self-aware (is that a word?) as to nearly cheat before realizing we needed counseling is terrifying to me. DH and I have talked about this issue a lot as a result, and I think the discussions are good.

     I'm *very* tempted to flame the Ivy league PS. But that's probably doing it wrong.
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