In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-hi-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:926751b1-ed70-4069-831e-31e776a52242Post:1937ce97-a2e3-4786-8611-9fb9137d444a">Re: Oh, hi.</a>: [QUOTE]My H is thinking about canceling our Ky derby trip because his relatives want us to host a pig roast instead. :( Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
That would be a big fat HELL TO THE NO if it were me. Or at the very least I would tell DH to have a good time with his relatives I'm going with or without you.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-hi-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:926751b1-ed70-4069-831e-31e776a52242Post:1937ce97-a2e3-4786-8611-9fb9137d444a">Re: Oh, hi.</a>: [QUOTE]My H is thinking about canceling our Ky derby trip because his relatives want us to host a pig roast instead. :( Posted by mica178[/QUOTE] Really? Don't you guys already have tickets?
I keep getting distracted. I will have to look into those dates! It stinks because H will be leaving sometime around then for a workup, so I'll want to be here for when he leaves. Which stinks because we won't know the dates until much closer. But my birthday is the 13!
We do, but we can probably sell them. And we'll lose money cancelling the plane tickets. I'm bummed. I had a big, wide-brimmed red and purple hat, and a sundress with red, purple and orange (although I was thinking about changing dresses). But we were going to stay with his friends, so I don't really want to go there and be like "Hey, I've never met you, but please host me alone." Grr.
I'm briefly here. Right now I'm in a food coma. Had an amazing meal at a chefs table here in Dallas. Wow. I think we had 5 courses. I don't know. It was just a lot of food. We have to go back home tomorrow. Boo. I could use a few more days off with my DH. One of the girls with us is so insure it drove me nuts. (GF of our guy friend's friend) She is young and all upset she is not married yet. She has been dating her BF for just over year. She is so jealous of my friend who is getting married next month. She even said my friends dress is like the one she picked out for herself. Umm you are not even engaged and one is not in the future yet either. She also decided that her future kids with this guy wil not look like her and she is upset about that. I just want to shake her and say "you are thinking way too much about marriage and kids So slow and enjoy the here and now" She will be in STT next month for the wedding. Not looking forward to that. She is coming on the b-party boat trip which the bride and I are not thrilled at. But we will be nice because she is the GF of the officiant/Friend of the groom. Got to love inherited friends.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
Mica, that is ridiculous that your H wants to cancel a trip that's already paid for because of a pig roast. Can't they do it another weekend? Or just do it without you guys there? Sorry, but I would definitely be refusing to cancel for that.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-hi-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:926751b1-ed70-4069-831e-31e776a52242Post:23d553a7-1b25-443f-959b-cb94f6d2e058">Re: Oh, hi.</a>: [QUOTE]Mica, that is ridiculous that your H wants to cancel a trip that's already paid for because of a pig roast. Can't they do it another weekend? Or just do it without you guys there? Sorry, but I wouldn't definitely be refusing to cancel for that. Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE] ::yeahthat:: Please come anyway? I'll put you up! We have a really pretty recently remodeled guest room and guest bath and my H will be out of town!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-hi-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:926751b1-ed70-4069-831e-31e776a52242Post:daf610d0-10e7-42f8-86ef-396304b8c9db">Re: Oh, hi.</a>: [QUOTE]I'm briefly here. Right now I'm in a food coma. Had an amazing meal at a chefs table here in Dallas. Wow. I think we had 5 courses. I don't know. It was just a lot of food. We have to go back home tomorrow. Boo. I could use a few more days off with my DH. One of the girls with us is so insure it drove me nuts. (GF of our guy friend's friend) She is young and all upset she is not married yet. She has been dating her BF for just over year. She is so jealous of my friend who is getting married next month. She even said my friends dress is like the one she picked out for herself. Umm you are not even engaged and one is not in the future yet either. She also decided that her future kids with this guy wil not look like her and she is upset about that. I just want to shake her and say "you are thinking way too much about marriage and kids So slow and enjoy the here and now" She will be in STT next month for the wedding. Not looking forward to that. She is coming on the b-party boat trip which the bride and I are not thrilled at. But we will be nice because she is the GF of the officiant/Friend of the groom. Got to love inherited friends. Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE] How old is this person? She sounds either really young or really old and ready to nail it down. I had a friend like that and it was irritating to no end. All she talked about was wanting to get engaged (and they had been together less than a year), then all she talked about was her wedding, even to the cashier at the bookstore or the server at the restaurant, and now she has a baby and all she talks about is the kid's excrement.
Just to let you know what you most likely have in store....
I know. But BIL/SIL and one of SIL's brother's are all coming into town, so the BIL who lives here wants a big pig roast to celebrate our nephew's 3 month birthday, his departure from his company and our upcoming move to FL. There's a lot of guilt going on. Everyone is only going to be around for that one weekend.
That stinks Lynda. One of my good friend's GF's is like that, but not as bad. I know she was pissed when we got engaged and married because they were together about 9 months before H and I met. She is about to turn 30 next week, and has said many, many times how she wants to be engaged by her 30th birthday. She used to insist on being married by 30, but clearly my friend wasn't having that. Not gonna lie, I was pretty happy to find out that he isn't caving, and he says he is waiting until the fall probably. I like her, and they are good together, but it's just so ridiculous to me to put an age on when you need to get married.
Not gonna lie, I'm pretty impressed with my friend too. She has said countless times that she wants a Fall wedding. He knows that if they get engaged now, she can pull of a wedding for this fall. And she is DYING to start having kids, so I bet she would be TTC before Christmas of this year. He's smart by waiting.
Next year. But by then we might be TTC and have a mortgage. I agree, now's the best time. If only everyone didn't make their plans without consulting with our plans.
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[QUOTE]My H is thinking about canceling our Ky derby trip because his relatives want us to host a pig roast instead. :(
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
That would be a big fat HELL TO THE NO if it were me. Or at the very least I would tell DH to have a good time with his relatives I'm going with or without you.
[QUOTE]My H is thinking about canceling our Ky derby trip because his relatives want us to host a pig roast instead. :(
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
Really? Don't you guys already have tickets?
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[QUOTE]Mica, that is ridiculous that your H wants to cancel a trip that's already paid for because of a pig roast. Can't they do it another weekend? Or just do it without you guys there? Sorry, but I wouldn't definitely be refusing to cancel for that.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
::yeahthat::
Please come anyway? I'll put you up! We have a really pretty recently remodeled guest room and guest bath and my H will be out of town!
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[QUOTE]I'm briefly here. Right now I'm in a food coma. Had an amazing meal at a chefs table here in Dallas. Wow. I think we had 5 courses. I don't know. It was just a lot of food. We have to go back home tomorrow. Boo. I could use a few more days off with my DH. One of the girls with us is so insure it drove me nuts. (GF of our guy friend's friend) She is young and all upset she is not married yet. She has been dating her BF for just over year. She is so jealous of my friend who is getting married next month. She even said my friends dress is like the one she picked out for herself. Umm you are not even engaged and one is not in the future yet either. She also decided that her future kids with this guy wil not look like her and she is upset about that. I just want to shake her and say "you are thinking way too much about marriage and kids So slow and enjoy the here and now" She will be in STT next month for the wedding. Not looking forward to that. She is coming on the b-party boat trip which the bride and I are not thrilled at. But we will be nice because she is the GF of the officiant/Friend of the groom. Got to love inherited friends.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]
How old is this person? She sounds either really young or really old and ready to nail it down. I had a friend like that and it was irritating to no end. All she talked about was wanting to get engaged (and they had been together less than a year), then all she talked about was her wedding, even to the cashier at the bookstore or the server at the restaurant, and now she has a baby and all she talks about is the kid's excrement.
Just to let you know what you most likely have in store....
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