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Febechick

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[QUOTE]Regarding sentimentality about rings, I think my H might be worse than me. He lost his ring in the pool on our HM and I tried to calm him down saying, "If worse comes to worst, we'll get a new one. Don't worry." And he looked scandalized and said, 'That's the ring I wore on OUR WEDDING DAY." We eventually found it before hissypants could freak out more :P I did like his sentimentality, though.
Posted by ZombieNates[/QUOTE]

My H lost his ring on our HM snorkeling. He was way more upset about it than I was. I said "It's no big deal we'll get a new one". He still gets upset with himself whenever he thinks of it or it comes up.

As for lurkers - I think I "lurk" more than I post because I often find that I'm too late for certain chit chat threads. I try to participate if I'm around, but more often than not, I'm reading the morning thread at 3 pm. I know that's not the exact scenario people are talking about, however.

specialk84

My H wishes I wore the ring more often.

As for the customers saying stuff like that, that's ridiculous. It's none of their damned business where you got your ring. Besides, what if you had it before you started working there? Were you supposed to make your H buy you a newer, fancier one?

calixtine

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : H is like this too. He didn't lose it, but he sounds horrified by the idea of ever replacing what we have. He also wants to be buried with his ring, so there's that.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

That is really sweet.  This is probably a justification on my part but I see the actual band as the sentimental part; the diamond is just decoration and that is why I think it's fine to upgrade.  Like I said, I'm probably totally justifying my own desire for a bigger diamond.

adamar15

My e-ring stayed safely at home when we went on our cruise.  My band is replaceable, Grandma's diamonds are not.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]My H wishes I wore the ring more often. As for the customers saying stuff like that, that's ridiculous. It's none of their damned business where you got your ring. Besides, what if you had it before you started working there? Were you supposed to make your H buy you a newer, fancier one?
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

It just makes sense to me - as per the shoes example from earlier.  Normally when I go shopping, employees will wear clothes from that store, etc.

Megbo2012

Veggie went a little nuts, for sure.

brandichamberlain

My Dad lost his ring on the beach and they paid someone several hundred dollars to find it (someone has a company that does that).  He looked horrified when I asked why he spent more to do that then just get a new one. 

MyUserName1

Here's the thing though, some fields require a certain personal presentation.  If I'm working somewhere that requires that I dress in a manner that is stylish and expensive looking, and my ring doesn't reflect the image that I am required to present, then I shouldn't wear it.  It's not a personal indictment, it's just the breaks. 

Natrasha

My e-ring is teeny tiny. I think it was appraised at like, .14 of a carat. But it's a family heirloom and the story behind it is touching. The band is super intricate and I love it. My wedding band is a simple gold band. I lvoe both pieces, but I have told H that for our 5 or 10 year anniversary I want something big and sparkly. I don't know what I'll wear on my finger because I am sentimental over the original rings, but I'll figure that out when I see the new shiny ring.

PetalPockets2012

When I worked retail they strongly suggested we wear the clothing from the store. If we chose not to, we had to wear similiar type of clothing. 

I get what Muni is saying but I would probably be hurt too if I was her exH. 

aragx6

I know what my ring is worth because it was my grandmother's and it had to be appraised because it'd been sitting uninsured in my mom's drawer for 20+ years. I honestly felt stupid that I didn't realize how much it was worth until then. It's a lot more than we would have spent on our own and I love that people look at it and comment on it. I don't think that makes me a bad person, but I don't go around shouting out its worth either.

Also, I kinda get why your exH would be a little hurt MUNI. I don't think that means you did the wrong thing for your job however.

specialk84

Muni, I'm not calling you a fuckwad. I just understand why your xH was upset.

MyUserName1

What if I was a nurse, and didn't wear the ring to work because it snagged my gloves and he was upset about that?  Would you think that was understandable, or would he be being overly sensitive?

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]Muni, I'm not calling you a fuckwad. I just understand why your xH was upset.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, i understand that.  I'm not upset or anything.  just having a debate, not an argument.</div>

ErinG93

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[QUOTE]Muni, I'm not calling you a fuckwad. I just understand why your xH was upset.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm on the exact same page as you Special. I don't think women should wear their rings ALL THE TIME. I don't think it was wrong or bad of Muni to take off the ring for work. That being said, I can still see why her X's feelings were hurt and I don't think that it's stupid of him to feel that way.</div><div>
</div><div>It was mostly the tone of her post that rubbed me the wrong way, like you said.</div>

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It just makes sense to me - as per the shoes example from earlier.  Normally when I go shopping, employees will wear clothes from that store, etc.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I get this, but at the same time, shoes are interchangeable accessories. Your engagement ring/wedding band usually aren't something you change more than MAYBE once in your life.  Shoes don't have the sentimental value for people that rings do. Well, unelss you name is Nates ;)

specialk84

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[QUOTE]What if I was a nurse, and didn't wear the ring to work because it snagged my gloves and he was upset about that?  Would you think that was understandable, or would he be being overly sensitive?
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>I would still understand him being upset, but I would hope he wasn't a big enough jerkface to actually get mad at you. </div>

specialk84

What happened between Veggie and SF?

ErinG93

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I would still understand him being upset, but I would hope he wasn't a big enough jerkface to actually get mad at you. 
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, <em>that </em>would be too much. </div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I would still understand him being upset, but I would hope he wasn't a big enough jerkface to actually get mad at you. 
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>It was a fun combo of straight mad and whiney two-year old pouty. </div>

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]What if I was a nurse, and didn't wear the ring to work because it snagged my gloves and he was upset about that?  Would you think that was understandable, or would he be being overly sensitive?
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

Did I read correctly that you put a different ring on when you were at worK? That's probably why.  Even if that wasn't the case, you weren't removing it for safety/logistical purposes, you were removing it because it more or less didn't look good enough.

ErinG93

Why can't I quote Chels? FFS, TK.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Did I read correctly that you put a different ring on when you were at worK? That's probably why.  Even if that wasn't the case, you weren't removing it for safety/logistical purposes, you were removing it because it more or less didn't look good enough.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

<div>I wore only my wedding band, no e-ring.</div>

aragx6

I think the nurse example is different because it's the fact that you can't wear a ring while doing your job whereas at the jewelry store it's that your ring wasn't good enough.

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I get this, but at the same time, shoes are interchangeable accessories. Your engagement ring/wedding band usually aren't something you change more than MAYBE once in your life.  Shoes don't have the sentimental value for people that rings do. <strong>Well, unelss you name is Nates ;)</strong>
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
I was just going to say, EXCUSE ME.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]I think the nurse example is different because it's the fact that you can't wear a ring while doing your job whereas at the jewelry store it's that your ring wasn't good enough .
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think it's a matter of can't wear the ring as the nurse.  It interferes with job performance.  And not having the right image in fashion sales also interferes with job performance.  People go to a store like that and spend their money because they want to be like the hip girls in the cool clothes and the funky accessories.  And I had to protray the correct image.</div>

specialk84

What else can we talk about that isn't related to shiny objects on our fingers?

aragx6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I don't think it's a matter of can't wear the ring as the nurse.  It interferes with job performance.  And not having the right image in fashion sales also interferes with job performance.  People go to a store like that and spend their money because they want to be like the hip girls in the cool clothes and the funky accessories.  And I had to protray the correct image.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

I never said it wasn't the right decision career wise, I'm just saying that it can't feel nice to know that the ring you gave someone isn't good enough for their fancy workplace.

I know exH was a douche so I'm sure you have a million other reasons to feel as though him being hurt wasn't valid, but I do see where he was, on this issue, coming from.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]What else can we talk about that isn't related to shiny objects on our fingers?
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, bear mace and AEs have already been covered.</div>

VeggieLove1022

Musu- (Now that I've typed this out I wanted to add that my tone isn't mean to be aggressive at all in this post) I was pissed about the whole SF thing. At the begining of this thread you said that you think I was lying when I said that I didn't care about it. I don't remember ever saying that I didn't care during the whole conversation because honestly, it did bother me. She was the one claiming none of this bother her.

I contacted her because IIRC she called someone's bluff on being able to be found. I sent her a message saying that it could be done and she should change her sn. I would have NEVER put that old sn together with this new SF sn if she hadn't said something. I've seen what she posts on the other boards and how holier than thou she seemed while always bashing people. It always pissed me off, but I wasn't apart of the conversation so I didn't feel like it was right for me to chime in.

When she called me out and I realized she was the girl from Feb that was being so vile and hateful to her own sister and best friends- I was livid. She's always tries to come across as better than everyone, especially on the gay shiiit, and it drove me nuts. I admit, I think I took it a bit to personal.