Who normally pays for the Grooms wedding band?
He wants me to buy him his wedding band although he knows I am the one who stays at home with the baby full time and he's the one that works. I have no income ... where does he expect me to get the $ for his ring? FYI- he's a groomzilla! TIA
Re: Grooms Ring
If he wants you to buy the ring, you can find an inexpensive one on overstock.com . If he's insisting on an expensive ring that you cannot afford, then he can buy his own ring.
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I'm just curious: if you stay at home and he works, you guys must share finances right? Otherwise how does he expect you to buy his ring? I feel an important discussion about money coming up. Afterall, you shouldn't feel like you have no money of your own just because you aren't working outside the home. When my mom stayed home with the kids, she got a paycheck from my dad to run the household and also give her some of her own money.
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It would be much easier for me to come up with the money, but he wants a ring full of diamonds..
[QUOTE]We don't have a joint checking account. It would be much easier for me to come up with the money, but he wants a ring full of diamonds..
Posted by lovepink679[/QUOTE]
I answered on the other thread that you deleted. My answer was about getting him a tungsten ring that is much cheaper. But now I see he wants a ring full of diamonds.
Honestly, your FI sounds like an ass right now. If he knows you aren't working and is insisting on you paying for a diamond wedding band for him, then he needs to be willing to help. Offer to buy him a tungsten ring for now and upgrade maybe on your 5 year anniversary or something.
[QUOTE]We don't have a joint checking account. It would be much easier for me to come up with the money, but he wants a ring full of diamonds..
Posted by lovepink679[/QUOTE]
...wow, he sounds like a peach...
I would flat out ask him where he expects you to come up with that money, since you don't have an income.
Fi paid for both of our wedding bands because we bought them at the same time. I've paid for a lot of other wedding-related things with money from my accounts, though, so it's kind of a wash in the end. If you have no separate income, though, then... well, you'll need to pay for everything out of whatever account you both use and he'll need to set the budget. So he must realize that.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Grooms Ring : ...wow, he sounds like a peach... I would flat out ask him where he expects you to come up with that money, since you don't have an income.
Posted by sclams[/QUOTE]
So you stay at home with the baby and you dont have a joint checking account and he expects you to pay for things this baby needs AND get him a ring full of diamonds? (which IMHO are HIDEOUS)...tell him his expectations are a little high taking your situation into consideration.
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(I'm being serious, because that's what my parents' lives were like when I was a kid and I swore that would never happen to me.)
You need to sit down and set a wedding budget, complete with a plan for how things will be paid. He can base it off savings and predicted future income from now until the wedding. It sounds like you also need to have a bigger talk about finances in general, though.
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Theres many reasons why we don't have a joint checking account yet, but we'll get there. He'll just have to pay for it out of his savings or when taxes come in.
I think it is time for a serious talk..
[QUOTE]Thanks Ladies Theres many reasons why we don't have a joint checking account yet, but we'll get there. He'll just have to pay for it out of his savings<strong> or when taxes come in.</strong>
Posted by lovepink679[/QUOTE]
Huh? Does his tax refund go to you as a bonus for not working or something?
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Traditionally, the groom pays for both rings and the marriage license.
Something doesn't smell right about this whole situation . . .
[QUOTE]So . . . if you don't work, how would you come up with any money of your own? I am asking because you said that if he didn't want a diamond studded ring, it would be much easier for you to come up with that money. How?<strong>Something doesn't smell right about this whole situation . . .</strong>
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]
I was thinking the same thing.
As for tradition, I think that the woman is suppose to buy it. But honestly, I have heard of people doing it all diiferent kind of ways. I think that it is personally up to the couple.
In your situation, he is wanting you to buy. You are a stay at home mom, with no income. ( I know how that feels) I would sit down and have a talk with him. I would tell him that he said that he wanted you to buy the ring, and that you were wondering how you were suppose to do that. Maybe look into getting a part-time job, if that's what you want. That way you can still spend time with your child, and also have an income. I liked being a stay at home mom, except the money part. I hope this helped. Keep us updated. Good Luck!!
[QUOTE]I guess some of it will go to me since I have Attorney fees to pay Someone hold me. I'm having reverse flashbacks to my life in 2000. Lovepink, it IS time for a LONG talk - before any more planning.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]
She's setting up a savings account for the divorce.
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Disclaimer: I wouldn't actually word it to him like that, because you will likely start a fight. But I agree with PP's that you guys sound like you need to have a serious talk about finances, including how money is spent, who gets control of what, etc. BEFORE the wedding.
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u pay. use the same money you use when u buy groceries... joint acct, weekly budget etc...