Have you seen this dad?

FutureMrsTR

I missed you LVB.  Even only in my lurking.

I have no idea what party lines thread y'all are talking about, but now I want to go find it.

FutureMrsTR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_have-you-seen-this-dad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b156b234-d9e2-4ff1-b52f-429e73e9a869Post:8ec0504b-03bc-403e-a0a6-fc5ce31e7cd4">Re: Have you seen this dad?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I saw that habs and answered the question. But thanks.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Well, in Habs' defense, it's hard to follow because you are a quote hater :)

mkrupar

It was yesterday TR. I think Special started it. It's only the last page where it seems Fishy is talking to herself that has everyone confused.

midgetthemighty

Dang. Read the whole thread. That dad is a moron, end of story. Violence is not the answer.

FutureMrsTR

Yeah, well, color me confused too because it didn't seem like IRL people but whatever.  Things get insinuated all the time around here without names being named, haha.

jemmini6

I see both sides to this.  While I think the dad is hipocritical and went way overboard with everything (the making of the video, posting it online, and shooting the laptop), I can kind of understand his frustration with it.  It appears he's tried several other methods, and she's still acting like a spoiled brat, and he was looking for a way to really get through to her.  Granted, he severely misjudged the situation and was incredibly inapporpriate for doing what he did, but I can imagine how difficult it is to punish kids effectively these days when they have access to so much social media that they really don't fully understand the consequences of what they put online (or what gets put online about them, which is clearly a lesson the dad needs to learn as well).

Was there a better way he could have handled this?  Absolutely, but I don't necessarily jump to the fact that he's a terrible or lazy parent, just overwhelmed.  This does not in any way excuse what he did, I'm just saying you can't necessarily take one bad judgement call out of context with everything he's done as a parent (which we do not know) and make an immediate assumption that he's an awful parent.

I can see where people thought this was a good thing though because I'd be willing to bet he absolutely did get through to her on this issue and I highly doubt she'll ever post anything like that on FB again.  But at what cost?  I don't think this action changed how she felt, just how she tells it.  I also think it might have caused more fear of humiliation from her dad then respect, which are very different things. 

I think someone needs to come out with a parenting book or something to help deal with social media and technology when raising kids.  This is something that occurred so quickly that I don't think parenting has quite caught up to it and just leads to people making these kind of mistakes.  Like I said, I don't think the dad is necessarily a bad guy, I just think he didn't know what else to do.

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I'm curious as to why he left his parents' house at 16 and was working two jobs while attending college as a volunteer fireman, and if he had anything bad to say about his parents at the time.

mica178

Late to this, but in my opinion, the dad looks like a moron.  I get that he's frustrated, but he's not behaving like an adult.  Way to be an excellent role model to your daughter, ahole.

divinemsbee

Yeah, I'm late to this, but this is ridiculous. I'm not a parent (yet) but the one thing my Mom has said to me over and over is that she and my Dad tried their very hardest to not discipline from a place of personal hurt. Of course parents get their feelings hurt by their children. Children can be nasty beings that lash out at those closest to them. It's a parent's job to discipline without coming from that place of so much hurt that it turns into rage and bad decisions.

Also, I'd be worried about something like 4chan or Anonymous or /b/ coming after her. There's a lot of people on the internet who like to take their aggression out on teenage girls, especially the ones they consider b-tches or spoiled. For an IT guy who must know something about the internet and how it works, this was a very poorly thought out move.

xyrius

My first thought when I saw the video, was that it was staged.  And where did I read that he would sell the bullets on Ebay?  Sounds pretty phoney to me.  I don't know, I feel a bit skeptical when anything like this goes viral, tbh.

AND... if it is actually real, I agree that she's a brat, and publicly ranting about your parents is a shiity thing to do, but, on a scale of 1 - 10, it wasn't that bad.  The punishment did not fit the crime in my opinion.  Maybe because I was a mouthy teenager, I can sort of relate I guess.

And --- unrelated, but someone else mentioned it in this thread -  about the parents who were shot because they defriended someone, that story is so tragic.  They shot the mother in the head, and their 8 month old was found in her arms, alive.  They shot her while she was holding her baby.  I just.... I can't even fathom.... It brings tears to my eyes:

The couple’s 8-month-old baby was in the mother’s arms, unharmed, when the bodies were found.  http://www.thestar.com/news/world/article/1129126--facebook-defriending-led-to-double-murder-police-say?bn=1

LittleMissCutiePie

*slow claps*

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Have you seen this dad? : Yes, of course. But you're HURTING PEOPLE. Why do you want to do that? This is so unlike you. 
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

So, I typically hate the whole "pot meet kettle" phrase, but it really does apply here.