Destination Wedding Gift Registry

eorea

Well this got interesting. 

I'm not the AE but I agree about MUNI. Good lord, woman. I like you but be your own person. Stop trying to fit in so much. 

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Well, the AE agrees with Sharp, so I'm going to guess Sharp thinks the AE is a-ok.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

I'm going to guess that Sharp and the AE are the same person.

adamar15

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Until the insults were directed at me, I didn't say anyone was being rude to me, I stated that there was rudeness towards OP.  And it's not about being "holier-than-thou", it's just about being polite and nice.  People come to these boards seeking advice, not be mistreated.
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

We don't come here to be hall-monitored by random people, either. 

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]I feel like sharp has come into threads before telling everyone they are rude and have no manners.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

Yes, I have pointed this out before since it happens often...

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Until the insults were directed at me, I didn't say anyone was being rude to me, I stated that there was rudeness towards OP.  And it's not about being "holier-than-thou", it's just about being polite and nice.  People come to these boards seeking advice, not be mistreated.
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

If you want to be a part of a board where everyone asks the same 15 questions every single day, and all the girls trip over themselves to validate each others' rude choices and just generally blow sunshine up each others' azzes, try Weddingbee.  Seriously.  It's like the puppy-rainbow-princess show over there.  I bet you'd be a great fit.

ETA: And telling someone to <em>read a different thread where their question was already answered</em> is not "mistreating" them.  Cheezus.

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Yes, I have pointed this out before since it happens often...
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]


So you designated yourself the rude police? Because that changes people's behaviors so well.

baystateapple

Sharp, you don't need to act like a hall monitor.  Nobody broke any rules in speaking to the OP, and she replied graciously.

AE, you're verging into skinsuit territory. 

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : This made me laugh way to hard, and this thread got alot more interesting. AE apparently your not so hard since you had to create and AE to call people out.
Posted by sparent2010[/QUOTE]

Wow, you're too kind as well, laughing because someone is being insulted for calling out rude behavior.

whonamesthemselvessnippybetches

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[QUOTE]Well this got interesting.  I'm not the AE but I agree about MUNI. Good lord, woman. I like you but be your own person. Stop trying to fit in so much. 
Posted by eorea[/QUOTE]

Seriously

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Wow, you're too kind as well, laughing because someone is being insulted for calling out rude behavior.
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

Dude - the AE you are sticking up for has <em>created an entire persona</em> out of mocking one of the "regs."  Her very name is a dig at Snippy - how is it that you can be so offended by rudeness but find this perfectly okay? 

eorea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Seriously
Posted by whonamesthemselvessnippybetches[/QUOTE]

<div>And see? </div><div>
</div><div>I didn't need an AE to do that. Seriously. </div>

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : That is not at all what I meant. You just seem very unhappy with advice given, as well as the manner in which it is given.  I just don't see the point in spending time on a board you don't like. I'm not trying to run you off, as I do like some of your posts, but I legitimately do not understand the concept of "everyone here is mean, so I'll keep posting about how mean they are."
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

I seem unhappy with advice given? No, I'm unhappy about people being rude, insulting others, etc. when they are just asking a question. Of course I won't always agree with some advice given, but that doesn't make either of us wrong or right, it's just our (experienced) opinion...

whonamesthemselvessnippybetches

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[QUOTE]Sharp -- Again, do you find AE/NotSnippy rude? Because she called Eagles stupid and is not getting a little stalker-y. At least be consistent with your <strong>pearl-clutchiness</strong>.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

Jesus can people quit using the same freaking terms all the freaking time!? You all copy eachother it's lame. Like MUNI and *headdesk* her head must really hurt after all the times she's used that. Oh and the skin suit thing. Yeah it gets lame after the 5,000 time it's used.

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : I'm going to guess that Sharp and the AE are the same person.
Posted by daveANDkristen[/QUOTE]

Wrong.

froggatt.clare

Wow, I leave for lunch and this thread turns from etiquette of hm registries to AE wars.  What a dramatic wednesday.

adamar15

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Jesus can people quit using the same freaking terms all the freaking time!? You all copy eachother it's lame. Like MUNI and *headdesk* her head must really hurt after all the times she's used that. Oh and the skin suit thing. <strong>Yeah it gets lame after the 5,000 time it's used.
</strong>Posted by whonamesthemselvessnippybetches[/QUOTE]

Interesting. 

ETA: Damnit I mixed you and Sharp up.  NEVERMIND.

whonamesthemselvessnippybetches

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Alright, all joking aside... what really is your problem? If you hate how the girls on E act, if you think we are all just robots who parrot each other, <strong>if you think we like to be brats just to get invited to GTGs</strong> ... then why are you here? Do you think that by telling us all how stupid/lame/redundant we are, that we will change? Cos it won't happen. Though, I'm guessing that you'll vent in this thread, give yourself a pat on the back by telling those E-bitches off, then be on your merry way. Never to return again. Which is fine, I just don't see the point in the first place.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

This is my point. I want to be invited to a GTG and I haven't been under my normal name so I figured I'd make a new one and come in guns blazing so I might get an invite next time.

froggatt.clare

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : This is my point. I want to be invited to a GTG and I haven't been under my normal name so I figured I'd make a new one and come in guns blazing so I might get an invite next time.
Posted by whonamesthemselvessnippybetches[/QUOTE]

Insulting the e-board isn't the best way to get invited to a GTG.

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : We don't come here to be hall-monitored by random people, either. 
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

<span style="font-size:11pt;line-height:115%;font-family:'Calibri','sans-serif';">Funny you mention hall-monitors, because some people on the board behave like high school mean girls.  Aren't we ladies?  What's the point of being rude or insulting to a stranger who's just asking a question?  If they knew the answer, they wouldn't be asking....</span>

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Wrong.
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I know.  Forgot to turn on sarcasm font...

specialk84

Sometimes I think people confuse "blunt" with "rude." If I asked my mom or my best friend whether I should have a B-list, either of them would probably try to sugarcoat things to the point where I might still do it.

If I came here and said, "Can I do a B-list?" the answers would be much more helpful. Can some people cross the line from "blunt-but-helpful" to "rude"? Absolutely. Does that mean everyone who posts here is a big meanie? No.

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : If you want to be a part of a board where everyone asks the same 15 questions every single day, and all the girls trip over themselves to validate each others' rude choices and just generally blow sunshine up each others' azzes, try Weddingbee.  Seriously.  It's like the puppy-rainbow-princess show over there.  I bet you'd be a great fit. <strong>ETA: And telling someone to read a different thread where their question was already answered is not "mistreating" them.  Cheezus.</strong>
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

Uhmm, who said anything about validating rude choices, etc.?  There's a way to speak (write) to respond to people letting them know it's not a good choice or idea, or that their question has been asked recently.  If you don't want to answer the questions that are asked a lot, why not just say nothing?

PS Maybe the knot needs diversity....

sparent2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Wow, you're too kind as well, laughing because someone is being insulted for calling out rude behavior.
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

In general I would say I am facetious not kind. I have never claimed to be kind. Adamar is witty and I enjoy that way more than your popsicle attitude.

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : So you designated yourself the rude police? Because that changes people's behaviors so well.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

<p class="MsoNormal">I'm bringing awareness to the evident rudeness … One can only change themselves, not others... </p>

hoffse

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : I agree.  Also, why do people always assume their friends will want to buy them a gift?  I'll be honest, I don't usually think about gifts unless I'm invited to the wedding.  My first thought is to congratulate the couple, but not necessarily to run out and buy something for them.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

<div>Honestly, I send wedding gifts to friends who elope.  Just like I send baby gifts to people who have a new baby even if I don't go to their shower or graduation gifts to cousins who graduate.  It's just something that I think is thoughtful and I was raised to do.  I don't know that it's rude to have a registry when eloping, but I think having a big one sends the wrong message.  Clearly not everybody sends gifts no matter what, but if you have a small physical registry for people like me it provides some guideance.  OP, like you've read countless times on here HM registries and travel registries are a no-no.</div>

sharp0099

I'm not defending any unwarranted insults. I'm saying that there was rude comment(s) made to OP.... Why respond by making someone feel stupid?  Why not just not respond if you've nothing nice or helpful to say?

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : <strong>Honestly, I send wedding gifts to friends who elope.  Just like I send baby gifts to people who have a new baby even if I don't go to their shower or graduation gifts to cousins who graduate.  It's just something that I think is thoughtful and I was raised to do.  I don't know that it's rude to have a registry when eloping, but I think having a big one sends the wrong message.  Clearly not everybody sends gifts no matter what, but if you have a small physical registry for people like me it provides some guideance.</strong>  OP, like you've read countless times on here HM registries and travel registries are a no-no.
Posted by hoffse[/QUOTE]

I'm totally with you on this.

adamar15

The OP reacted calmly and sanely to our advice.  I'm not sure why you're still harping on this. 

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : In general I would say I am facetious not kind. I have never claimed to be kind. Adamar is witty and I enjoy that way more than your <strong>popsicle attitude</strong>.
Posted by sparent2010[/QUOTE]

I'm happy for you, but what does that even mean?

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]I'm not defending any unwarranted insults. I'm saying that there was rude comment(s) made to OP.... Why respond by making someone feel stupid?  Why not just not respond if you've nothing nice or helpful to say?
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

But we DO have helpful things to say... telling someone to read the 75 million other posts on this topic is helpful.  Telling someone that what they want to do is rude and they shouldn't do it is helpful.  I guess that doesn't meet your definition of "nice" though, huh?