Destination Wedding Gift Registry

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]Ugh.  Okay.  Two things: 1. Poor OP.  She asked a question, got her answer, and now everyone else has blown up her thread fighting. <strong> While I agree that there was a lot of bluntness in the beginning of the thread, Sharp, you are hardly doing the OP any favors by continuing an argument here.</strong> 2. Re: HMR.  The problems I have with them is that they are false advertising.  They promise gift givers that they are buying beachfront massages or dolphin swims, but really they give cash to the couple.  And the registry takes a cut of the cash.  Why not just bypass the middle man?  Don't have a registry, and if anyone asks, say that you don't really need household items, but you and FI are saving up for XYZ?  Most people will get the hint and give you cash.  The ones who weren't comfortable giving cash as a gift will give you some sort of boxed present.  Also, I'm not a fan of asking guests to fund a completely voluntary vacation.  Plan the HM you can afford.  If your guests give you a bunch of cash, you can use it for a fancy night out or an extra excursion during the HM. 
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

LOL, I know they are your knot buddies, but take your blinders off.  And guess what?  I'm not the only one continuing to post, but thanks for singling me out.  Reminds me of the type of teacher who sides with the mean kids.... LOL What a joke....

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]Hi, I'm the one who posted the question 2 threads down about honeymoon registry. I am not a regular on here, and was just seeking advice or opinions about the topic. This whole wedding thing is new to me just like it is to everyone else to asks questions on here. <strong>While I appreciate your blunt suggestions and comments, I do not appreciate some of the "belittleing" & snide remarks about simple questions being asked. This is an etiquette board and I believe there is an etiquette to advice and opinions as well.</strong> I can understand where some people would think the HR is completely outside of the "etiquette" box, however I do not necessarily think it's wrong. It's a registry..just like a registry for Bed Bath & Beyond or Pottery Barn. Granted, the items purchased are not tangible, but the entire point remains the same...your basically asking people to spend money on you either way. <strong>Whatever, I think that I made a huge mistake even coming to these boards to ask a questions because my question turned into someone buying me a monogram water hose...classy!  Basically, all this is is a matter of opinion in the first place. </strong>When it all comes down to the nitty gritty, your guests are going to do what they want to do for you whether you register at Bed Bath & Beyond or Honeyfund...your family and close friends aren't going to judge you for trying to keep them from wasting their money. When all is said and done, I could care less if anyone bought me anything...I just want the people that mean the most to me with me on my special day. It is totally OK to say NO, don't do the HR and explain why...but when people start being sarcastic about what they would buy me if they were invited to my wedding is just ridiculous and too immature for my taste. I'm actually quite disappointed in myself for even caring what anyone thought of our idea in the first place. So, to whoever wrote this thread...you do what ever you want to do. Some people may say negative things about it (there will always be a few)..but It's YOUR day, it's YOUR wedding..Happy Planning!
Posted by boo his[/QUOTE]

Agreed.  And that has been my point all along... 

sparent2010

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[QUOTE]Sparent makes a monthly trip to Weddingbee for sunshine enemas. Without them, she's quite insufferable. ;)
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

You made my afternoon Special.

mica178

Etiquette isn't opinion.

And, Sharp, you remind me of another poster who loved continuing arguments for no good reason.

Ladies, I'll remind you not to feed trolls.  And to take arguments to PMs or NWR threads.

baystateapple

Ha ha haha, Mica, I think you might be right.

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]Etiquette isn't opinion. And, Sharp, you remind me of another poster who loved continuing arguments for no good reason. Ladies, I'll remind you not to feed trolls.  And to take arguments to PMs or NWR threads.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

<p class="MsoNormal">"Etiquette isn't opinion", Uhmm, yes it can be, depending on the topic. There are books that have contradicting rules... <span> </span>And, there are still some topics up for debate... <span> </span>

"And, Sharp, you remind me of another poster who loved continuing arguments for no good reason.", A good friend of yours? <span> </span>LOL  What’s continuing the argument is there was no apology for the rudeness, and some people condone it.<span>  I'm not going to back down from my opinion, </span>especially when they're insulting me.<span>  </span>You’re being extremely subjective, a moderator should be objective…</p><p class="MsoNormal"> </p>"Ladies, I'll remind you not to feed trolls." You're so right... they definitely behave like trolls when they're rude and insulting to people for no reason....  LOL

Rosie109

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : And see?  I didn't need an AE to do that. Seriously. 
Posted by eorea[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree. And I agree with your sentiments towards username. </div>

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : You are insufferable. 
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

Nope, I'm just someone who doesn't tolerate people talking down to others, unwarranted rudeness, name calling, etc...  So I think you picked the wrong adjective. ;)

sharp0099

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Seriously, we get this often.  People try to tell us we're wrong and mean.  Well you know what, none of them have changed us.  And none of them ever will. People can get a bit snarky but that is becuase it is really hard to believe that it is easier for people to start a new thread than open up the one that says "Read before posting". If you want to be somewhere that everyone is nice and validates other's poor decisions, then seriously weddingbee or weddingwire might be more your style.  People here give you BLACK AND WHITE etiquette as well as what they would do in a gray situation, if etiquette isn't always the answer. Please stop trying to change people, it is obnoxious.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

You know what's obnoxious? The extremely unpleasant rude comments by some people...  I don't think people want others to validate their ideas that aren't good, they're looking for guidance, BUT not to be mocked.  I have an adjective for you, hypocrite, since you're suggesting that I should change what I do, like in going to another board.  Maybe if people are saying some of you are mean and wrong sometimes, maybe it's the truth.  A lot of polite, easy going people don't stick around because you make them feel unwelcome, and all that's left is so many who have a negative attitude. 

Hilraythebride

I just don't understand how or when you would get or give this information to people. I just can't se the conversation going anything other than like this

Bride:  Im so excited to be getting married, we are just eloping at a vacation spot we love

Friend: That sounds beautiful, wish I could come but I understand the want to elope

Bride: Yea no one is going to be coming this time, but you can get me a gift though im registered at blah blah or I will just take money!!

HAHA!

But no really the answer is a honeymoon or vacation registry is highly innapropriate.  My mom and grandmother as well as other people in my family haven;t been on vacation since I was a child so I would think it wildly rude to ask them to foot the bill for us to enjoy swimming with the dolphins or a night out on the town.  A trip is a luxury you enjoy when you have the money!!!!  Also I don't really understand because you just said you two are well established?

RegallyBlonde

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Destination Wedding Gift Registry : Yes, I made a typo; you're right.
Posted by sharp0099[/QUOTE]

<div>Firstly can I say, you're beating a dead horse with your arguments. As you can quite plainly see, none of the ladies on this board really care what your opinion of them is because they are being real. I have lurked on here for over a year, I decided to create a username so that I could post, I like that the ladies here never feel the need to pander to peoples opinions or change the way they feel because popular opinion states other wise (that includes HMR being normal 'these' days). If you do not like their opinions or if you think they are being rude, then go away, clearly you would do better finding a board that suits you than trying to dictate/lecture people on here.</div><div>
</div><div>Secondly, confusing a noun and an adjective is not a typo, it is a grammar error.</div><div>
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