TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!!

laladypoet

I think having kids or not not having them is a personal choice. Just like everyone has a different vision for their colors or food or wedding dress, people can have great weddings with and without kids.

I feel the same way. but it seemed there was a lot of judgment in this thread. maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I read it.

mica178

Lala, you should hang out with us on the late-night drinking thread where we all relish not being pregnant or having kids (other than the pregnant ones, but they don't get indignant about the drinking part).

Snippylynn

Emily, I think it's pretty obvious in all the "When I was at THIS wedding, the FG/RB/RANDOM BABY did this and it was SOOOOO CUUUUUTE.  Is really annoying.

I don't want kids.  I didn't want them at my wedding, and I don't want to be at a wedding where they are either.

MattsPenguin

My friend and I were just talking about how chocolate fountains and children shouldn't mix, especially at weddings!

Reminds me of that early Jerseylicious episode (yeah for trashy tv) where they do a TTD shoot with a chocolate fountain.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : I really don't get why you're getting so annoyed about what I'm saying.  I already said I have no problem with people who want to have a no-kids wedding.  I just think there are a ton of things that could ruin a wedding, and trying to plan around them is ridiculous.  It's different for each person though, and for what kids you have that would or wouldn't be invited.  For me, the risk of something happened wasn't enough for me not to have my little cousins there.  But we didn't extend the kids invite to all of our friends kids because I didn't want 30 kids at our wedding.  
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
I'm not so "annoyed," I'm just debating. you were saying that a bride thinking kids would ruin a wedding is a "lame excuse." for some brides (ahem, me) it wasn't an excuse. I don't like most kids.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]Lala, you should hang out with us on the late-night drinking thread where we all relish not being pregnant or having kids (other than the pregnant ones, but they don't get indignant about the drinking part).
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
that sounds fun :)

musicalsunlight

I'm in the same camp w/ Emily in that my wedding "vibe", if you will, has more of an adult tone and feeling to it, and was kind of relieved that my guests wouldn't be having any kid problems---not because they were gonna ruin the day, but more just that our wedding has more of an adult only feeling to it. I love kids, if I was having the wedding at a different venue or a different time, I would probably feel differently.

laladypoet

and honestly, if everyone had brought their child, it would've doubled my wedding budget and made me annoyed on my wedding day. and potentially super ninja pissed. no one likes a super ninja pissed off bride.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]and honestly, if everyone had brought their child, it would've doubled my wedding budget and made me annoyed on my wedding day. and potentially super ninja pissed. no one likes a super ninja pissed off bride.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]


Can you imagine how many people would have been called c*nt that day?  Epic.  ;)

cengle

I will say that I think parents who get all up in arms about their kids not being invited to weddings (or anywhere, for that matter) are obnoxious.

I like kids, and I want several, but I'm very well aware that not everyone does, and there are some places that aren't kid-friendly, and that's fine. When I do have kids and we're invited to a wedding, we probably won't take them unless lots of other kids will be there. We actually only had 3 kids at our wedding, because that's just the way it worked out.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Emily, I think it's pretty obvious in all the "When I was at THIS wedding, the FG/RB/RANDOM BABY did this and it was SOOOOO CUUUUUTE.  Is really annoying. I don't want kids.  I didn't want them at my wedding, and I don't want to be at a wedding where they are either.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

I don't take it that way. I just take it as people went to weddings where kids did cute things - that doesn't mean to me that it's the only way.

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : Can you imagine how many people would have been called c*nt that day?  Epic.  ;)
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

I would love to be a fly on the wall in such a lala/too many kids situation.

MattsPenguin

So Lala, what you're saying is that the mere presence of children would have ruined your day, not the potential bad situations that could be caused by children.  Thus you opted for an adult only reception.

That is fair.  (I hope this doesn't come off as sounding mean, I was trying to put it into different words is all). 

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : I'm not so "annoyed," I'm just debating. you were saying that a bride thinking kids would ruin a wedding is a "lame excuse." for some brides (ahem, me) it wasn't an excuse. I don't like most kids.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

<div>The difference between you and a lot of the other brides posting is that you are flat out admitting you don't like most kids.  So I doubt you ever tried justifying why you weren't having them there.  And that is exactly what I meant by saying man up and say you don't want them there.  A lot of the brides in posts say "I love kids, but don't want them at my wedding because there is a pool they could fall into" or something like that.  To me, that's a lame excuse, and I would much prefer someone say I just don't like kids, or I don't want them there.  </div><div>
</div><div>I don't think it's really knew that people say people might not like your no-kids rule.  At least for me, I've seen and answered the question so many times that I've just condensed it into a short answer, like "you don't need to invite them, just understand that some people might choose not to come because of it."  I for one will not be the parent who gets upset that my kids aren't invited places (at least I hope not), but there are many people who apparently do get upset.  </div>

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : Can you imagine how many people would have been called c*nt that day?  Epic.  ;)
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

*high five*

crfische

Is this the point in the thread where we do dead baby jokes?

mica178

My dead baby jokes are too dirty for me to type without feeling super dirty.

Stackeye210

Where's the baby kicker video?

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]I think having kids or not not having them is a personal choice. Just like everyone has a different vision for their colors or food or wedding dress, people can have great weddings with and without kids. I feel the same way. but it seemed there was a lot of judgment in this thread. maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I read it.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

I posted after I only read half the thread. It just seemed to me like people took stacks sarcasm in the OP and ran with it. It was over the top, so people responded over the top.

But I do think saying kids are going to ruin everything is a little bit much. Yes, kids get out of hand and those parents should know to watch their little ones. If they don't want to, they shouldn't bring them. If you don't want kids there, just don't invite kids.

ETA: Oh, I see we've moved on.

Stackeye210

This was way more entertaining then any FFF in the past month.  So there's that. 

Snippylynn

Well, Lala IS here Fishy.  She's the queen of dead baby jokes.

MattsPenguin

I only have two dead baby jokes and I said them on here already.

How about my favorite lame joke?  What did the zero say to the eight? Nice belt!

laladypoet

The difference between you and a lot of the other brides posting is that you are flat out admitting you don't like most kids.  So I doubt you ever tried justifying why you weren't having them there.  And that is exactly what I meant by saying man up and say you don't want them there.  A lot of the brides in posts say "I love kids, but don't want them at my wedding because there is a pool they could fall into" or something like that.  To me, that's a lame excuse, and I would much prefer someone say I just don't like kids, or I don't want them there. 

ah, gotcha. see, I agree with that. although I'm sure a few of the brides really do like kids but are worried for their safety. or like kids but don't want them at their wedding. (that last part isn't just to you)

cengle

I have a friend who always says "I'm going to shake you like a baby!" when he gets annoyed with them.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]So Lala, what you're saying is that the mere presence of children would have ruined your day, not the potential bad situations that could be caused by children.  Thus you opted for an adult only reception. That is fair.  (I hope this doesn't come off as sounding mean, I was trying to put it into different words is all). 
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

basically, yeah. trust me, I know a lot of these kids. they're terrors.

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]I think having kids or not not having them is a personal choice. Just like everyone has a different vision for their colors or food or wedding dress, people can have great weddings with and without kids. I feel the same way. but it seemed there was a lot of judgment in this thread. maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I read it.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

<div>I didn't see judgment of folks who don't want kids at weddings, I see judgment of the overdramatic "OMG I will die a thousand deaths if my sister brings her brats!!!!1!!" attitude to so many of the posts on the topic. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm personally used to weddings being family affairs, but I wouldn't judge someone for wanting an adult-only wedding. I judge the drama. And I judge just as hard people who think they HAVE to include kids as RB or FG or their marriage will be invalid. </div>

Stackeye210

lala - here's an example of a bride reaching for reasons not to have kids. 

"OMG my wedding is so formal, there's an awesome pool that's so spectacular and it's going to be so great and expensive and it's at a mansion and zomg kids so can't be there to ruin it"

Then you follow her posts over to the DIY board where she talks about the fact that it's a pigs roast potluck dinner. 

It's just annoying to keep hearing over and over when half the brides are just lying to themselves. 

I find the blunt honesty regarding no kids very refreshing. 

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: TELL ME ABOUT A TIME A CHILD RUINED YOUR WEDDING!!! : I posted after I only read half the thread. It just seemed to me like people took stacks sarcasm in the OP and ran with it. It was over the top, so people responded over the top. But I do think saying kids are going to ruin everything is a little bit much. Yes, kids get out of hand and those parents should know to watch their little ones. If they don't want to, they shouldn't bring them. If you don't want kids there, just don't invite kids. <strong>ETA: Oh, I see we've moved on</strong>.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]
gigglesnort.

MattsPenguin

Wow, because "formal" and "pig roast potluck dinner" go together!

Kind of like in "Father of the Bride" when they said that you can't put the word "pit" on a wedding invitation.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]Well, Lala IS here Fishy.  She's the queen of dead baby jokes.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]
I haven't heard a good dead baby joke in awhile.

stacks, that particular bride  sounds...special.