Post your whines/gripes/vents here

mandysmear

yeah me too.  i'm not convinced she leave this guy.  and he's a loser in every other department too.  it's not like he's a prize to be won. 

andij1616

We're supposed to leave for our honeymoon in two weeks, and I still don't have my passport.  I provided them with my expired passport as ID when I applied, and four weeks later they sent me a letter in the mail saying that they also needed my birth certificate.  Apparently, they had given me my previous passport without "sufficient proof of citizenship."  Well to get the previous passport, I gave them my birth certificate.  WTF?  If they weren't sure about my citizenship, why did they give me a passport in the first place?

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]I hate friends that drop you like a hot potato immediately after starting to date someone new. It's called balancing friends and men. Lets learn how to do it ladies.
Posted by L-Bride[/QUOTE]

Going through this right now with one of my BMs.  She met a guy three months ago, practically moved in with him, and hasn't seen or spoken to any of us willingly since then.  We've made plans to hang out three times, she's blown me off all three times to hang out with him.

Don't like it, but what can you do?  I figure I'll just ride it out until the newness of the relationship wears off, and hopefully things will go back to normal.

FutureMrsTR

My MIL forwarded me the shuttle confirmation today.  The shuttle that I told her my dad was taking care of.  So she either a) didn't believe me, b) didn't think he'd follow through, c) didn't trust that he'd get a nice enough one or d) blue moon.

mandysmear

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post your whines/gripes/vents here : Oh that bites.  Mandy wins.  I hope you have a bottle of wine chilled for afterwards.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

always!  haha.  i'm taking her for dinner, then back to my place.

(that sounds like a date.  hahahah)

vallyhoo

haha TR! The answer is always D.

mwhitson14

dani, I'd so hire someone. I'd screw that up royally

Ha, feel better Jess?

andy, coat those babies in neosporin and wear gauze on it, it might still be ok!

Also, Matt, let her do the mock up and smile and nod. . .and then buy your linens (MOM! I found the best deal EVAR on these and just had to buy them!).

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]My MIL forwarded me the shuttle confirmation today.  The shuttle that I told her my dad was taking care of.  So she either a) didn't believe me, b) didn't think he'd follow through, c) didn't trust that he'd get a nice enough one or d) blue moon.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Did your dad already do it? (So she'd be stuck with a deposit or anything?)

Definitely blue moon!  Go knock back a glass!

mwhitson14

ugggh l-bride, I have a friend like that. A year later, it is still really sucky. I don't know what to do. She gets pretty defensive when I say anything about it.

L-Bride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post your whines/gripes/vents here : Going through this right now with one of my BMs.  She met a guy three months ago, practically moved in with him, and hasn't seen or spoken to any of us willingly since then.  We've made plans to hang out three times, she's blown me off all three times to hang out with him. Don't like it, but what can you do?  I figure I'll just ride it out until the newness of the relationship wears off, and hopefully things will go back to normal.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

It's one of my BMs too. It wouldn't bother me so much if she wasn't so up my ass all the time (which is fine) but then just disappears when she gets a boyfriend. She did this with her last boyfriend and apologized about especially when I was there to pick up all the pieces and nurse her back to sanity. I understand that people spend less time with their friends especially at the beginning of a relationship but she takes it to one extreme to another. It's insulting and hard to respect.

andy71781

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post your whines/gripes/vents here : Was it the cat in your signature that is licking his chops?  He looks guilty.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

Yes it is!!!!  He is so so so guilty.

MattsPenguin

Thanks, Whit.  I'm hoping it turns out better than in my head.  CRAZY QUILTER WOMAN! *shakes head*

[Deleted User]

Re: Going to the movies. 
Haha, well I think the weird thing is that I've heard that saying about 5 times today alone.  It was strange enough hearing that many different people mention it in my department. 

mwhitson14

Matts, I'm not holding out hope for that one I'd say no matter what, it's gonna look a little Little House on the Prairie.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post your whines/gripes/vents here : Did your dad already do it? (So she'd be stuck with a deposit or anything?) Definitely blue moon!  Go knock back a glass!
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

Luckily he hadn't given anyone any money yet.  But that was an awkward phone call.  "Hey Dad, remember the <em>only</em> thing you were helping out with?  Yeah, well we don't need your help anymore.  FIL's just went ahead and did whatever they wanted just like always!"  When they first mentioned it, I told them at least three times to give my dad a call and see what he'd done because this was something I didn't want to add to my planning so I was staying out of it.  Of course they never called him.

parker624

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[QUOTE]Was it at least worth it parker? WHY IS IT SO SLOW TODAY!
Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]

Oops. i did get busy at work for a minute!  YES it was amazing.  My sisters had everyone write in toasts and they put it in this scrapbook with pictures of me and the toaster from when we were little.  My oldest friends and my cousins all came and at each drink they'd read me their toast.  I got wasted (11 toasts!) but I had the best time ever.  if the bachelorette was this fun, i can't wait for the wedding!

louisvillebride21

I'm super angsty today. Prepare thyself.

I didn't get the job I was too ambitious and they were looking for someone who wanted to be an admin assistant forever and ever and ever. Which is cool.  But that's just not me. However, I'm interviewing tomorrow for a temp admin position. Could turn into a permanent one?

My reception venue pissed me the eff off. The contract said that gratuity would be a percentage of final bill. Cool. I paid final bill the day before the wedding. I assumed (I know, I know) that the gratuity was a part of that total. We get a bill at MIL house last week saying we owe X amount in gratuity and we're 60 DAYS LATE. This was our very first bill. If she was going to mail a bill out after the wedding for tips, that's totally cool. Dont send me the first bill and say I'm late on it. I double checked the contract and no where does it say that we will be mailed a bill. I paid it of course because I did owe it and the servers were fantastic. But Mary will be getting a call about how much she sucks.

I had some medical bills a few months ago and insurance screwed everything up. I don't owe anything, but the billing companies keep saying I do. Right now, I'm fighting the last bill. $28.00. It's not much, but I'll be damned if I'm goign to pay $28.00 when I've fought over 3k in bills that were supposed to be covered by ins.

MattsPenguin

Parker, did you go out in the 'Nati?  Where did you go?

Whit, ha! 

mwhitson14

Sounds good parker

I hate when my phone rings with a local number I don't recognize and it's NOT someone offering me a job.

jenlahlstrom

BRIDESMAID-ZILLAS

just to vent - is it too much to ask that your bridesmaid actually WEAR YOUR WEDDING COLORS?!?

(my colors are chocolate brown with accents of pastels - pink, baby blue, sage green)

apparently one of mine thinks that it is.  I didn't even pick out a style of dress since everyone has such different body types, just a color and provided color samples.

so she wants to sew her own dress - okay, but she didn't buy fabric until this weekend, spent more on fabric alone than my WEDDING DRESS COST, not in the colors I picked out - AND IT'S A PATTERN!!!

she seriously thinks she'll look better standing in a dress in a pattern that looks like one of those new 1950 retro-throw-back kitchy patterns you see on aprons.

I had her roommate ( a lovely gay man) my fiance (a friend of hers first) and myself sit down last night and thought we'd worked it out only to have her email me this morning from her iphone:

"I'll check out my other dress options today. I still think the pale print will blend into the garden more than how your perceiving it as a chunk of fabric. The lining color washes or out.:"

AND IT GETS BETTER - my wedding is THIS FRIDAY!!!!!  That print I hate is still just a chunk of fabric.

my back up plan is to make her sewing machine disapear.

L-Bride

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[QUOTE]ugggh l-bride, I have a friend like that. A year later, it is still really sucky. I don't know what to do. She gets pretty defensive when I say anything about it.
Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]

She gets defensive because she knows she's being sh!tty. It's also a tricky subject because it can easily turn into them calling us "needy" or "crazy" because we're bitching about not seeing/hearing from them enough which is not the case at all. At this point I don't want to hang out with my friend.

MissLeahM

I have no motivation to work at the moment.. Coming back from a two-week vacation kind of sucks.

But on the other hand I am super excited to go back to school.. BUT.. and dreading telling my boss.. I'm not sure if I want to just give my two weeks notice in, or be nice and give them atleast a month to replace me.. I should probably do the 'right thing' .. Augh.

mwhitson14

Awww LVB I'm so sorry to hear that. I will console you with drinks Saturday

salt78

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[QUOTE]BRIDESMAID-ZILLAS just to vent - is it too much to ask that your bridesmaid actually WEAR YOUR WEDDING COLORS?!? (my colors are chocolate brown with accents of pastels - pink, baby blue, sage green) apparently one of mine thinks that it is.  I didn't even pick out a style of dress since everyone has such different body types, just a color and provided color samples. so she wants to sew her own dress - okay, but she didn't buy fabric until this weekend, spent more on fabric alone than my WEDDING DRESS COST, not in the colors I picked out - AND IT'S A PATTERN!!! she seriously thinks she'll look better standing in a dress in a pattern that looks like one of those new 1950 retro-throw-back kitchy patterns you see on aprons. I had her roommate ( a lovely gay man) my fiance (a friend of hers first) and myself sit down last night and thought we'd worked it out only to have her email me this morning from her iphone: "I'll check out my other dress options today. I still think the pale print will blend into the garden more than how your perceiving it as a chunk of fabric. The lining color washes or out.:" AND IT GETS BETTER - my wedding is THIS FRIDAY!!!!!  That print I hate is still just a chunk of fabric. my back up plan is to make her sewing machine disapear.
Posted by jenlahlstrom[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow that is actually REALLY obnoxious of her. </div>

mwhitson14

Oh ouch jen, that's really tricky. Why the heck would she do that?

MissLeah, I always give as much notice as I can. In most cases, I train my replacement.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]BRIDESMAID-ZILLAS just to vent - is it too much to ask that your bridesmaid actually WEAR YOUR WEDDING COLORS?!? (my colors are chocolate brown with accents of pastels - pink, baby blue, sage green) apparently one of mine thinks that it is.  I didn't even pick out a style of dress since everyone has such different body types, just a color and provided color samples. so she wants to sew her own dress - okay, but she didn't buy fabric until this weekend, spent more on fabric alone than my WEDDING DRESS COST, not in the colors I picked out - AND IT'S A PATTERN!!! she seriously thinks she'll look better standing in a dress in a pattern that looks like one of those new 1950 retro-throw-back kitchy patterns you see on aprons. I had her roommate ( a lovely gay man) my fiance (a friend of hers first) and myself sit down last night and thought we'd worked it out only to have her email me this morning from her iphone: "I'll check out my other dress options today. I still think the pale print will blend into the garden more than how your perceiving it as a chunk of fabric. The lining color washes or out.:" AND IT GETS BETTER - my wedding is THIS FRIDAY!!!!!  That print I hate is still just a chunk of fabric. my back up plan is to make her sewing machine disapear.
Posted by jenlahlstrom[/QUOTE]

My backup plan would be making her disappear, if only from the wedding party.  That's awful.

parker624

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[QUOTE]Parker, did you go out in the 'Nati?  Where did you go? Whit, ha! 
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

Nada and then The Syndicate in Newport for dueling pianos.  We were totally out of place there, but in a good way.

LVB, that SUCKS.  but at least you're putting yourself out there and trying again.  You will find something.

Jenlahstrom:  that is BS.  I would be so furious right now, too. 

mwhitson14

L bride, I'm sure you're right. It's so very frustrating.

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Post your whines/gripes/vents here : My backup plan would be making her disappear, if only from the wedding party.  That's awful.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I'm not usually one to vote for demoting a BM, but THAT is ridiculous.

FutureMrsTR

Jenlahlstom - Yeah, she's probably not going to be standing up with you.  What a pain in the ass!