My sister got a HORRIFIC tattoo, and may not want her to be a maid!

StephBeanWed61502

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sister-got-horrific-tattoo-may-not-want-her-maid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ce566155-ae55-4a1c-b851-0a59b4dbe672Post:5aaf6284-340c-472d-bf08-fee4dd4a850e">Re: My sister got a HORRIFIC tattoo, and may not want her to be a maid!</a>:
[QUOTE]Just dont ask her. People may think I am a horriable person for saying this but I accutually kicked my sis and my moh at the time out of the wedding party. Only you know the full story of what is going on and thanks to that my sis and me have a better relationship yea it sucked at first then it got better <strong>and she is happy she doesnt have to deal with it now. </strong>
Posted by JGreenfan2000[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm under the impression, from this post, that <em>lots</em> of people would be happy to not have to deal with you.</div><div>
</div><div>Wow.</div>

Kreskin79

I concur with previous posters wholeheartedly. Whether by default or not, you've asked her to be your MOH; unless you wish to terminate the relationship, keep your mouth closed. Since you feel the tat is hideous, choose a flattering high-necked dress for her to wear and be done with it.

(FWIW, I think everyone realizes this is deeper than "It's a fugly tattoo that'll ruin the aesthetic of my photos!". I suspect this is, at the heart of it, about what the tattoo's content/placement say to the OP about Sis' lifestyle & personality, and her response. But that's just me.).

LucyBlue11

ok, but if she isnt in the wedding, wouldnt she show up as a guest? id think she would at least wear a dress to show off her new tattoo - a tattoo that SHE thinks is beautiful. so, you can't hide her from everyone. 

or...maybe she would think its appropriate to have it covered at an event like your wedding. why dont you ask her what style dress she likes. if she comes back with something with a high neckline, you're all set. if she comes back with something that reveals it, let her. im sure youre mortified with her ruining your pictures, but she will be in them if she is a guest or in the party. 

erinhepinstall

"Taste" is subjective. I am sure that some people look at your tattoos as "horrific".

Sounds like your finding excuses not to have her in the wedding.

PhoneCardLady

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sister-got-horrific-tattoo-may-not-want-her-maid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ce566155-ae55-4a1c-b851-0a59b4dbe672Post:d9c15d5f-fff7-4acf-8580-273aded7ab96">Re: My sister got a HORRIFIC tattoo, and may not want her to be a maid!</a>:
[QUOTE]If you don't want her for a BM, just don't ask her. You're not a horrible person, unless the tattoo is the only reason. i just pray to god you don't ask her and then ask her to cover it up with make-up or something. That's even worse.
Posted by LittleMissCutiePie[/QUOTE]

I think covering it up with make-up is just fine or find a BM dress that would cover it up.  Otherwise don't ask her.