Guest List Issues: I did a bad thing! Help!

Habs2Hart

This is an etiquette board.

OP - I know you are doing the right thing, but honestly?  The only person you think told you good advise was the ONE PERSON (okay, 2 since someone else seems to think in these "economic times" that it's okay to uninvite) who validated that it is okay to ignore etiquette and disinvite?  Seriously? 

And further to the economic debate.  The economy crashed a few years ago.  How long ago did you invite these people?  Before the economy crashed?  If not, then using the bad economy as an excuse just doesn't cut it. 

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest List Issues: I did a bad thing! Help! : except i was quoting you, which is why i put it in quotes.  and i meant it is nice because i never see anyone on these boards who work in finance.  genuinely sorry if i offended you.
Posted by erinmikewed[/QUOTE]

I appreciate the clarification.

tuckhm

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[QUOTE]This is an etiquette board. OP - I know you are doing the right thing, but honestly?  The only person you think told you good advise was the ONE PERSON (okay, 2 since someone else seems to think in these "economic times" that it's okay to uninvite) who validated that it is okay to ignore etiquette and disinvite?  Seriously?  And further to the economic debate.  The economy crashed a few years ago.  How long ago did you invite these people?  Before the economy crashed?  If not, then using the bad economy as an excuse just doesn't cut it. 
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

Yes this is the ettiquette board.  But all I am saying is that those who choose to give advice against the rules of ettiquette shouldn't be chased out with torches.  I feel like it would be wrong for people to refrain from giving advice that breaks the rules of ettiquette just because "it's the ettiquette board".  At the end of the day, people post on these boards for advice.  They are allowed to receive more than one type of advice, and they should receive more than one type of advice since they are dealing with real live situations that may warrant it.  Based on the wide range of advice the OP received, she is making the decision to stick to the rules of ettiquette, which is awesome.  All I am saying is some people may not be as lucky and breaking ettiquette may be the better choice for them.

Yes the economy crashed a couple of years ago, but it's not like it happened at one moment in time and now it's over.  New people are gradually being affected by it, or people are being more affected by it as time goes on.  I know I wasn't really affected by it until this year as it took a while to affect my company.  And did you not hear about the recent threat of a government shut down?  New repercussions of the initial crash are coming up all of the time.

ndjd4ever

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[QUOTE]This is an etiquette board. OP - I know you are doing the right thing, but honestly?  The only person you think told you good advise was the ONE PERSON (okay, 2 since someone else seems to think in these "economic times" that it's okay to uninvite) who validated that it is okay to ignore etiquette and disinvite?  Seriously?  And further to the economic debate.  The economy crashed a few years ago.  How long ago did you invite these people?  Before the economy crashed?  If not, then using the bad economy as an excuse just doesn't cut it. 
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

I commented on Tuckhm's post because I felt like she got me and what I was going through. I appreciated the fact that she was thinking outside of the 'black and white' etiquette box, as were a few others. Obviously, I didn't think she was the ONLY person who gave me good advice, otherwise I would not have chosen to just take the proper route and invite the guests while bearing the bump in the budget (thanks to my Mother's generosity and belief in proper etiquette). I also posted a sincere thank you directed to EVERYONE for their advice because I can now stop stressing about it thanks to all the replies that pointed me in the direction to make the right decision for ME and my situation.

As for the economy, I was by no means trying to blame it as the excuse for not inviting the extra guests. I was merely pointing out that people are STILL most definitely having hard times, especially where I live, and would probably be more understanding as a whole because of how things are today. With any tragedy, we seem to become a more sympathetic nation. Somehow, in today's society, being practical trumps being socially acceptable in my honest opinion.

Irishcurls

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest List Issues: I did a bad thing! Help! : Yes this is the ettiquette board.  But all I am saying is that those who choose to give advice against the rules of ettiquette shouldn't be chased out with torches. <strong> I feel like it would be wrong for people to refrain from giving advice that breaks the rules of ettiquette just because "it's the ettiquette board". </strong> At the end of the day, people post on these boards for advice.  They are allowed to receive more than one type of advice, and they should receive more than one type of advice since they are dealing with real live situations that may warrant it.  Based on the wide range of advice the OP received, she is making the decision to stick to the rules of ettiquette, which is awesome.  All I am saying is some people may not be as lucky and breaking ettiquette may be the better choice for them. Yes the economy crashed a couple of years ago, but it's not like it happened at one moment in time and now it's over.  New people are gradually being affected by it, or people are being more affected by it as time goes on.  I know I wasn't really affected by it until this year as it took a while to affect my company.  And did you not hear about the recent threat of a government shut down?  New repercussions of the initial crash are coming up all of the time.
Posted by tuckhm[/QUOTE]<div>This is what your month/local board is for. </div><div>

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