You stayed friends with a friend's ex, so you are not getting invited to social events? That's stupid. I'm sorry. Unfortunately, middle school drama doesn't end in middle school.
Exactly. And she won't talk to me about certain things because she doesn't trust that I won't go tell her ex what she said. I have not once told him anything that came out of her mouth that was about him.
That's so silly. I don't know what I would do in a situation like that except keep trying to connect with your friend and let her know how important your friendship is.
I'm trying. It's just hard to try knowing that there is almost half her life that she isn't comfortable talking about with me. I've confided so much in her andfor her not feeling lik she can confide in me hurts.
Ugh,.....I try not to be crazy but this drives me bonkers.....this may get long and I may ramble so I apologize in advance. I am 46 years old and sometimes feel like I am still in highschool....
FI is a 52 year old bachelor who has never been married. He said he never found the "one". So the fact that he got on one knee and asked me to marry him should say tons...anyways, he is a huge boater and has hung out in the 1000 islands since he was a young boy. I have hung out there with him for the last 3 years. Before I met him he had lived with a girl for over 10 years who while pretty and very nice had a drinking problem. Needless to say she got 3 strikes (3 DUI's) and FI kicked her out. I have talked to her many times as she lives in our city and has had a hard time walking away from FI and her life with him. She lived in the 1000 islands when FI met her so most of FI's friends in the islands are her friends too. Anyways, to make a long story short, we got a christmas card today from a Canadian couple who FI has known forever. We have hung out with them together in both the USA and Canada with them over the last several years. They seemed thrilled at our engagement. Back to the Christmas card, the card contained about 10 photos of a boat that my FI restored and sold prior to me meeting him (Miami Vice Boat, second season). Most of the pictures were of FI and his ex on the boat! Ugh, I wanted to throw them out, but I did not. Why would they do this? Why when then know that the ex has had trouble stepping back from FI life would they stir the pot with sending us pictures of that? I want to send them back to them in our xmas card with a note......talk me down off this branch please....
Ugh, that is frustrating! That would piss me off too.
That being said, they probably didn't mean anything by it. They probably (hopefully) found the photos and thought "Oh, he loved that boat! Bet he'd love to see these pictures of it!"
Either that or the female half of the couple is a jealous hoar.
Thanks Mun1....I know it is irrational to be upset, but the female half of that couple is wacked. I would only invite the male half to the wedding if it didn't mean breaking up a social unit! tee hee....FI is working a 16 hour shift today so I left the mail on the kitchen table for him in the usual spot....it just seems that every time I get super comfortable the ex rears her presence and I end up feeling stupid.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_this-thing-working-testing-testing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d18b8694-0153-40f3-bccb-33e1d8cb86c7Post:2cab7603-ee31-4869-847b-ccef60956daf">Re: Is this thing working? Testing.. testing..</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is this thing working? Testing.. testing.. : I have not noticed this. Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]
<div>Ha, well I can't tell if you bolded the part you did because you're cleverly saying I write long posts or if you're genuinely saying you haven't noticed me being snappier with people. If the latter, I guess not as much or as noticeably as someone who's like that all the time. I've noticed it though that lately I've been going off on a few people whose posts annoy me. Again, to me it may seem like I'm "going off" and to someone else it seems like a puppy barked. Meh, I'm just ready for a break from work I think and some time with FI not working, too.</div><div> </div><div>ETA: That is annoying, Ski. Hopefully they didn't mean anything by it.</div><div> </div><div>Night, all.</div>
Hey Mun1, you get married just prior to us....coming up quick once we get through the holidays. What is your date? I know I could calculate it but make it easy for me and just tell me.
Thanks ladies, I feel better that you let me vent. Maybe I will be able to not be snotty to FI when he gets home, especially since he didn't do anything! I know I would never, ever, do that to anyone.
Ski I would be pissed too. I woul also want to send them back, but I'm in a bad mood because middle schoolers can be douches- especially one o the ones in one o my after school programs. Now I'm off to bed. I've had a long week and tomorrow I get to have a meeting with theater people and discuss grad school! Horray! GN
Very cool Mun1....May 13 is my daughters 21st birthday. It is a good day indeed! And yes, after New Years we will both be of the mindset HOLYSHIITCLOSE, you moreso than I.
Have a good one. I am off to bed too! Again, thanks for letting me vent. You ladies totally ROCK!
that sucks MUN. I have a coupon from Target that they sent me because they effed up the registries for a while. But every time I try to use it online, it never works. WTF is that.
Oh, the usual discussions about economy, foreign policy, etc. But I just really liked how Newt got cornered and Michele had to basically tell people to stop calling her an idiot. Good times.
Re: Is this thing working? Testing.. testing..
FI is a 52 year old bachelor who has never been married. He said he never found the "one". So the fact that he got on one knee and asked me to marry him should say tons...anyways, he is a huge boater and has hung out in the 1000 islands since he was a young boy. I have hung out there with him for the last 3 years. Before I met him he had lived with a girl for over 10 years who while pretty and very nice had a drinking problem. Needless to say she got 3 strikes (3 DUI's) and FI kicked her out. I have talked to her many times as she lives in our city and has had a hard time walking away from FI and her life with him. She lived in the 1000 islands when FI met her so most of FI's friends in the islands are her friends too. Anyways, to make a long story short, we got a christmas card today from a Canadian couple who FI has known forever. We have hung out with them together in both the USA and Canada with them over the last several years. They seemed thrilled at our engagement. Back to the Christmas card, the card contained about 10 photos of a boat that my FI restored and sold prior to me meeting him (Miami Vice Boat, second season). Most of the pictures were of FI and his ex on the boat! Ugh, I wanted to throw them out, but I did not. Why would they do this? Why when then know that the ex has had trouble stepping back from FI life would they stir the pot with sending us pictures of that? I want to send them back to them in our xmas card with a note......talk me down off this branch please....
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is this thing working? Testing.. testing.. : I have not noticed this.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]
<div>Ha, well I can't tell if you bolded the part you did because you're cleverly saying I write long posts or if you're genuinely saying you haven't noticed me being snappier with people. If the latter, I guess not as much or as noticeably as someone who's like that all the time. I've noticed it though that lately I've been going off on a few people whose posts annoy me. Again, to me it may seem like I'm "going off" and to someone else it seems like a puppy barked. Meh, I'm just ready for a break from work I think and some time with FI not working, too.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: That is annoying, Ski. Hopefully they didn't mean anything by it.</div><div>
</div><div>Night, all.</div>
Have a good one. I am off to bed too! Again, thanks for letting me vent. You ladies totally ROCK!