telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding

laladypoet

I'm slow. I was dropped on my head by my sister-in-law's baby cousin tracy who wouldn't let me come to my mom's wedding because of my kindergarten boyfriend cheated on me with a poster of rainbow brite.

wadingmoose

Rainbow brite was a tart.

Strawberry Shortcake.  Now that's a girl you can TRUST.

smokeybailey

::runs in thread::

You're all cvnts!

::runs back out::

wadingmoose

Don't mind Smokey.  She's got Tourettes.










Boardwar!

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]Don't mind Smokey.  She's got Tourettes. Boardwar!
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I think I would like to put this in my signature.

Moose?

flyjawn

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[QUOTE]If somebody yelled the c-word at me, I wouldn't have to worry about them attending the wedding unless it was going to be held in the hospital they would shortly be at.  But I'm just klassy like that.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

<div>this.</div><div>
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tortis

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[QUOTE]once again, my point was to find out what other BRIDES would have done in this situation.  and she isnt over it bc people have told me she is running around trying to get our friends to boycott our wedding.  luckily we have sensible friends who know better than to listen to her. 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

<div>You're irritating.</div><div>
</div><div>Hi, this happened to my fiance and I. Fi's friend asked Fi to be a groomsman, but flat out said that his fiance said I wasn't allowed to come to the wedding. I did not call her a cvnt. Whatever drama there was between us was all invented by her, I got over it a long time ago.</div><div>Fi decided he didn't want to be in a wedding that his fiance wasn't invited to and declined to attend. </div><div>When we were creating our guestlist, I left it up to him whether or not to invite them (BOTH of them). He decided not to</div><div>
</div><div>So, that's what I would have done. Let my fi figure it out with his friend and act like an adult.</div>

Theresa626

Wow. I don't blame the friend for dropping out of the wedding.  I don't blame you for not wanting her to be there after she called you a c-nt.  That is beyond disrespectful and inappropriate.  Honestly, your friendship with this guy is probably over.  But, it would be just about impossible to be friends with him while cutting off his wife so perhaps that is in your best interest.  Cut your losses and move on.  Perhaps this wasn't the best friendship for you after all.  

aral2003

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[QUOTE]Wow. I don't blame the friend for dropping out of the wedding.  I don't blame you for not wanting her to be there after she called you a c-nt.  That is beyond disrespectful and inappropriate.  Honestly, your friendship with this guy is probably over.  But, it would be just about impossible to be friends with him while cutting off his wife so perhaps that is in your best interest.  Cut your losses and move on.  Perhaps this wasn't the best friendship for you after all.  
Posted by Theresa626[/QUOTE]

amen to that....  this is a blessing in disguise.  had she not acted like an immature, classless child, who knows what she would have done at my wedding. 

quotequeen

Etiquette is not always black and white. Yes, it's true that it is horrible etiquette, 99.9% of the time, to uninvite someone who already knows that they are coming.

No, it's horrible etiquette 100% of the time.  Breaching etiquette might be justified on rare occasions, but it's still breaching etiquette.

honeybunches101

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : I would normally say this exact same thing, but given this woman's lack of restraint and apparently psychopathic behavior, I would say that the OP isn't necessarily wrong in uninviting the woman.  It is completely inappropriate and abnormal to yell that kind of obscenity at another person in any public arena, let alone somebody's wedding.  I can't blame OP for being nervous about what this person might do at HER wedding, given she's made known that she hates her and isn't afraid to show it.  Her husband will no longer be a groomsman, which is sad and sucky, but that's just how it will have to be, I think. It may not have been the best etiquette to uninvite her, but I probably would have done the same thing.  You have to do what 's in your best interest.  Good luck OP.. that situation is really crap.
Posted by ARod22[/QUOTE]

This. It sounds to me like the wife needs medical attention. You shouldn't feel bad at all about uninviting her to your wedding.

artbyallie

Oh, and yes, it is in fact vastly immature to use multiple exclamation points or question marks. Ditto the lack of capitals and normal punctuation. Ditto poor typing and/or spelling. Ditto 'altercation,' because while it is a $5 word, it's a $5 word that 'trashy' people know. Seriously, I can't watch a single episode of one of the many judge shows without hearing somebody on there refer to an 'altercation'. Take your $150/plate wedding and shove it.

Belle2Be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding :<strong> Maybe you should have apologized for telling someone it was wrong for them to be a wh*re</strong>.  That's their business, not yours.  If you wanna keep things classy and elegant in Saratoga, NY then worry about yourself and let wh*res be wh*res on their own.  I figured out life is much better when I stop worrying about who's getting a$$.
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]
Still catching up but I love this

Belle2Be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : HEY HEY NOW.........Once again, even classy people fist pump - I'll post again to prove it.  (and to make this thread a little bit happier)
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

LOL He've even wearing a shirt that says Fist Pump like a Champ??

Best Thread Yet.

Belle2Be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : amen to that....  this is a blessing in disguise.  <strong>had she not acted like an immature, classless child, who knows what she would have done at my wedding.</strong> 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

had<strong> I </strong>not acted like an immature, classless child, who knows what she would have done at my wedding.

aral2003

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[QUOTE]Oh, and yes, it is in fact vastly immature to use multiple exclamation points or question marks. Ditto the lack of capitals and normal punctuation. Ditto poor typing and/or spelling. Ditto 'altercation,' because while it is a $5 word, it's a $5 word that 'trashy' people know. Seriously, I can't watch a single episode of one of the many judge shows without hearing somebody on there refer to an 'altercation'. Take your $150/plate wedding and shove it.
Posted by artbyallie[/QUOTE]

settle down there hater!

aral2003

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : had I not acted like an immature, classless child, who knows what she would have done at my wedding.
Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]

actually, <strong>SHE</strong> was the one who acted immature and classless...  only pieces of trash use the C-word!  come on people!!!!!

aral2003

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : This. It sounds to me like the wife needs medical attention. You shouldn't feel bad at all about uninviting her to your wedding.
Posted by honeybunches101[/QUOTE]

Thank you!  At least some people see that what this woman did was beyond crazy!

superjules916

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[QUOTE]Oh, and yes, it is in fact vastly immature to use multiple exclamation points or question marks. Ditto the lack of capitals and normal punctuation. Ditto poor typing and/or spelling. Ditto 'altercation,' because while it is a $5 word, it's a $5 word that 'trashy' people know. Seriously, I can't watch a single episode of one of the many judge shows without hearing somebody on there refer to an 'altercation'. Take your $150/plate wedding and shove it.
Posted by artbyallie[/QUOTE]

This. Love this. I wish the knot had a "like" button like facebook. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />

jenellsrevenge

I would be afraid of the chick actually showing up to the wedding with the purpose of ruining it...I mean come on... anyone who yells c*nt at someone is obviously a real class act who cares what others think.

aral2003

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[QUOTE]I would be afraid of the chick actually showing up to the wedding with the purpose of ruining it...I mean come on... anyone who yells c*nt at someone is obviously a real class act who cares what others think.
Posted by jenellsrevenge[/

that is why there will be security... i have already thought about what crazy sh*t she will pull as a result of this nonsense. 

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : [QUOTE]I would be afraid of the chick actually showing up to the wedding with the purpose of ruining it...I mean come on... anyone who yells c*nt at someone is obviously a real class act who cares what others think. Posted by jenellsrevenge[/ that is why there will be security... i have already thought about what crazy sh*t she will pull as a result of this nonsense. 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

You are a nutjob.  You are not Chelsea Clinton, or Megan Fox.  You are not that important that you need security at your wedding, and I highly doubt the woman is going to show up and create such a scene that it would require a bunch of big guys in suits dragging her out.  And regardless of how crazysauce she is, you need to stop acting like the victim and all "ZOMG poor meeeeeeeeee" because she might be trashy but you're not exactly sterling Tiffany yourself, my dear.

aral2003

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : You are a nutjob.  You are not Chelsea Clinton, or Megan Fox.  You are not that important that you need security at your wedding, and I highly doubt the woman is going to show up and create such a scene that it would require a bunch of big guys in suits dragging her out.  And regardless of how crazysauce she is, you need to stop acting like the victim and all "ZOMG poor meeeeeeeeee" because she might be trashy but you're not exactly sterling Tiffany yourself, my dear.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

actually, my venue provides security and i have been to many weddings where there has been security.  people sometimes get drunk and get out of hand, or people try to crash it.  and it is funny you mention Tiffany b/c that is the theme of my wedding  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : actually, my venue provides security and i have been to many weddings where there has been security.  people sometimes get drunk and get out of hand, or people try to crash it.  and it is funny you mention Tiffany b/c that is the theme of my wedding 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]


colour me "not surprised" pink

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : actually, my venue provides security and i have been to many weddings where there has been security.  people sometimes get drunk and get out of hand, or people try to crash it. <strong> and it is funny you mention Tiffany b/c that is the theme of my wedding 
</strong>Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

Of <em>course</em> it is.

aral2003

and why am i not surprised people are hating on the theme of my wedding. 

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : actually, my venue provides security and i have been to many weddings where there has been security.  people sometimes get drunk and get out of hand, or people try to crash it.  and it is funny you mention Tiffany b/c that is the theme of my wedding 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

I bet your color is Tiffany blue?  LAME.

smokeybailey

All you cvnts are still here?

Stackeye210

Actually - I think there's only 1 left Bailey

NuggetBrain

Because it's not a theme.  It's a company.  That's like saying "my wedding theme is McDonald's" or "my wedding theme is Home Depot".