telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]Actually - I think there's only 1 left Bailey
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

You are correct, ma'am.

::Looks at ol' Tiffany-themed wedding sitting in the corner with her bottom lip stuck out.::

Don't feed her, maybe she'll run back to whatever hole she came up out of.

Stackeye210

I give her credit - she lasted this whole thread and only called us hags once!  I'd almost like her to stick around for more crazy. 

aral2003

actually most of you make me laugh.  i do not understand why brides hate on the brides who are fortunate enough to be able to have their dream wedding.  the Tiffany's colors are classy and beautiful.  sorry i am not having a backyard BBQ with a pig roast, or that I am not having my reception at a dated reception hall with banquet chairs from 1972. 

Stackeye210

Tiffany blue is NOT a color in the color wheel.  Andplusalso - that theme is so overdone.  Way to be original with your "klassiness"

smokeybailey

Save a little money from your big classy wedding and put it towards a grammar check on your computer.  It will certainly help me take you more seriously.

By the way, who says that a BBQ with a pig roast is NOT someone's dream wedding?

aral2003

just like navy clue dresses are so overdone now!

aral2003

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[QUOTE]Save a little money from your big classy wedding and put it towards a grammar check on your computer.  It will certainly help me take you more seriously. By the way, who says that a BBQ with a pig roast is NOT someone's dream wedding?
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Once again, what does it matter if I am having a big classy wedding?  This is becoming very entertaining!

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]Because it's not a theme.  It's a company.  That's like saying "my wedding theme is McDonald's" or "my wedding theme is Home Depot". 
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]


IMAGINE THE HATS  (mcdonalds)  OR THE PRETTY ORANGE APRONS!

Swoon.

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : Once again, what does it matter if I am having a big classy wedding?  This is becoming very entertaining!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

It doesn't matter to ME.  My friend, YOU are the one who keeps throwing that adjective out there. Quite honeslty, I could give a flying fvck what your wedding is like. 

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]actually most of you make me laugh.  i do not understand why brides hate on the brides who are fortunate enough to be able to have their dream wedding.  the Tiffany's colors are classy and beautiful.  sorry i am not having a backyard BBQ with a pig roast, or that I am not having my reception at a dated reception hall with banquet chairs from 1972. 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]


I had the wedding I wanted, don't you worry your pretty little head about me.  No pigs were roasted and my venue didn't exist in 1972.  And I've never once had to defend myself using my wedding.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]just like navy clue dresses are so overdone now!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]


yeah.  Get a clue.

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : I had the wedding I wanted, don't you worry your pretty little head about me.  No pigs were roasted and my venue didn't exist in 1972.  <strong>And I've never once had to defend myself using my wedding.</strong>
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

You would be much better off using a big stick or a shank for defense.  That is my humble opinion but then again, you know that I'll totally cuttabitch.

NuggetBrain

I had my dream wedding.  And it didn't involve Tiffany, or a BBQ pig roast, or chairs for 1972.  But apparently, in your world, unless it involves being overly and obviously snobbish and attention-whorish, it's trashtastic 'yall!!!!111

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : You would be much better off using a big stick or a shank for defense.  That is my humble opinion but then again, you know that I'll totally cuttabitch.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]


My wedding had grizzly bear centerpieces!  (Had to go with the theme you know).  If that isn't defense, I don't know what is.

Edit.  I'm a moron.  Tree != wedding in any language that I know of.

wadingmoose

I've also never, ever been called the c-word so maybe I just can't relate to the OP.

I think I'm doing something wro...I mean right.

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : yeah.  Get a clue.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Haha.  I missed this.  Now if we were talking navy BLUE, I wore a navy dress when I was a BM in 1998.  I haven't seen that color in a wedding since then but what do I know.

emilyinchile

Do you really not get why people don't like you constantly talking about the classiness/cost of your wedding? You are not the only one here who had a formal, expensive wedding in a nice venue. So you're able to pay for exactly what you want, and that happens to be something expensive - good for you! It's the fact that you harp on about it that makes you sound spoiled and as though you care more about appearances than the whole bit where you marry that guy you like.

NuggetBrain

We have no issue with you having your "dream wedding".  It's the fact that you feel the need to rub everybody's face in it, along with throwing out dollar amounts and continuously mentioning how "classy" and "elegant" it is, while being a condencending heifer in regards to weddings that aren't up to your oh-so-lofty standards.

aral2003

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[QUOTE]I had my dream wedding.  And it didn't involve Tiffany, or a BBQ pig roast, or chairs for 1972.  But apparently, in your world, unless it involves being overly and obviously snobbish and attention-whorish, it's trashtastic 'yall!!!!111
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

The standards in New York, for the most part, are very high.  Sorry!

emilyinchile

Please ignore my response and read Nugget's instead - she said it better

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : The standards in New York, for the most part, are very high.  Sorry!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

Oh, do tell. 

NuggetBrain

You really don't get it, do you.

Nobody cares about your wedding.  Nobody cares how expensive it is.  Or how fancy it is.  Or if it's meeting some standard in your city.  The only thing we care about, is the fact that you can't stop bragging on it like we're supposed to be impressed. 

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : The standards in New York, for the most part, are very high.  Sorry!
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

You really don't get it, do you? Some people, with all the money in the world to host a $150/plate dinner for 400 at a country club, would actually genuinely rather do a low-key backyard wedding for 100 or get married in an informal beach setting with 25 guests. More money and status =/= dream wedding for everyone.

aral2003

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[QUOTE]Do you really not get why people don't like you constantly talking about the classiness/cost of your wedding? You are not the only one here who had a formal, expensive wedding in a nice venue. So you're able to pay for exactly what you want, and that happens to be something expensive - good for you! It's the fact that you harp on about it that makes you sound spoiled and as though you care more about appearances than the whole bit where you marry that guy you like.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

You are forgetting the context in which I stated the fact that my wedding is going to be very classy and the cost per person.  I kept stating how classy it is going to be as a means to further support my decision to not invite a piece of trash who throws C-Bombs at other people's weddings.  That is beyond classless.  And I mentioned the cost because I refuse to allow my parents to spend $150.00 for this woman to attend my wedding when she has ill will towards me.  Now if I entered into this dropping prices for the hell of it, obviously that is wrong.  But you guys make it seems like I am listing off my venders and the prices I am paying for invitations, flowers, my dress, photographer, etc. 

emilyinchile

Nugget, get out of my head!

NuggetBrain

ZOMG EMILY GET OUT OF MY HEAD.

danieliza1127

I can't believe 1) this post is still going on and 2) you guys haven't realized yet that she is a troll.  Did anyone click her magnifying glass and find it typical that she started out on her local board answering random posts so as not to arouse suspicion and then decided one day to post something so flameworthy on a national board, totally out of the blue?  No? 

wadingmoose

Money = class.  Got it.

You aren't exhibiting that, but I get it.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : You are forgetting the context in which I stated the fact that my wedding is going to be very classy and the cost per person.  I kept stating how classy it is going to be as a means to further support my decision to not invite a piece of trash who throws C-Bombs at other people's weddings.  That is beyond classless.  And I mentioned the cost because I refuse to allow my parents to spend $150.00 for this woman to attend my wedding when she has ill will towards me.  Now if I entered into this dropping prices for the hell of it, obviously that is wrong.  But you guys make it seems like I am listing off my venders and the prices I am paying for invitations, flowers, my dress, photographer, etc. 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

But money =/= class. I've been to low-cost, backyard weddings where people still behaved classily and didn't wander around screaming swear words at each other. THAT is the point - the fact that you don't want "trashy" behavior doesn't have to be linked to money and setting, it can just be linked to the fact that it's a wedding, an even where people are usually a bit more polite. But instead, you chose to link it to how much you're paying and where your wedding is being held, and now you're making a connection between price and dream wedding.

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: telling a groomsman his wife is not invited to the wedding : <strong>You are forgetting the context in which I stated the fact that my wedding is going to be very classy and the cost per person.  I kept stating how classy it is going to be as a means to further support my decision to not invite a piece of trash who throws C-Bombs at other people's weddings.</strong>  That is beyond classless.  And I mentioned the cost because I refuse to allow my parents to spend $150.00 for this woman to attend my wedding when she has ill will towards me.  Now if I entered into this dropping prices for the hell of it, obviously that is wrong.  But you guys make it seems like I am listing off my venders and the prices I am paying for invitations, flowers, my dress, photographer, etc. 
Posted by aral2003[/QUOTE]

There.  Right there is the problem.  You seem to think that the sole reason why it's inappropriate for her to be at your wedding due to her dropping C-bombs on you is because it's going to be super fancy and super expensive and super ZOMG LOOK AT WHAT I BOUGHT YALL, and not because somebody who likes dropping C-bombs on people is just inappropriate overall.  What, do you think it would be okay for her to come to someone else's wedding because they aren't having a big ol' shindig, so they just aren't classy enough to warrant not having somebody like that there?  You keep tying in money with class.  The two are not mutually exclusive.  You can have class without money and, as you've proven, money without class.