Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]MY friend has been married and and divorced then they workded things out and are getting remarried.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

And that's relevant to what, exactly?  That's not remotely the same thing as you treating your vow renewal as a wedding.

Habs2Hart

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[QUOTE]MY friend has been married and and divorced then they workded things out and are getting remarried.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

that's the only time it's appropriate to have a second wedding to the same person.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]MY friend has been married and and divorced then they workded things out and are getting remarried.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yes, but see, they got divorced first. 

</div>

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]MY friend has been married and and divorced then they workded things out and are getting remarried.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

So? What does that have to do with anything?

overloaded

We have went wedding dress shopping together just the 2 of us and I loved it and would love to do it again  I was just feeling overwelmed with everything else that was going on. I dont mind one or two children there, but not 5.

I love the idea of taking your boys shopping with you. I never thought about that.

Bubbalub

Jeebus, so your OP says one thing and now you say another.

hlq2011

This is taking more brain power than I have on a Friday afternoon.

overloaded

I am treating my vow renewal as a wedding. I am walking down the isle with my huge wedding dress and flowers with my moh,  bm and flower girl. We will have a ceremony and a reception for all of our friends and family to celebrate.

Ghoti

OP, you're not Nivia by chance?

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I am treating my vow renewal as a wedding. I am walking down the isle with my huge wedding dress and flowers with my moh,  bm and flower girl. We will have a ceremony and a reception for all of our friends and family to celebrate.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

<div>Well then clearly this board is not the right place for you, because there isn't a single thing you're doing that is right by etiquette standards.  </div>

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]I am treating my vow renewal as a wedding. I am walking down the isle with my huge wedding dress and flowers with my moh,  bm and flower girl. We will have a ceremony and a reception for all of our friends and family to celebrate.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]


Isle?  So your fake wedding is on an isle?  cool.  Is it a long isle?  Which isle is it?  Is your HM going to be at the isle? 

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]I am treating my vow renewal as a wedding. I am walking down the isle with my huge wedding dress and flowers with my moh,  bm and flower girl. We will have a ceremony and a reception for all of our friends and family to celebrate.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

I am treating my Friday as a weekend day, not doing any work, staying at home in my PJs, and going shopping with a friend later.

Except not, because then I would get fired. And also because I stopped playing pretend about 20 years ago.

Moneypenny424

That's too many people coming.  If BMs are just inviting random people along to go shopping, I'd love to see how many random people they are going to bring to the vow renewal.

Honestly, I'd expect a salon to make them wait outside or something.  It is a wedding shop, not a tent at Bryant Park for Fashion Week.

Stackeye210

Carla where are you?

CARLA come here!!!

CARLA she needs you!!!

LDYGTR13

Aisle, not isle

ETA: Visuals can be helpful:

Aisle:


Isle:

overloaded

So its ok to have the big wedding if you get divoreced from your husband and then decided to get remarried.  You cant a re create your wedding and make it just a little better if your already married.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Carla where are you? CARLA come here!!! CARLA she needs you!!!
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh don't worry, she'll just start a new thread for it tomorrow.</div>

Stackeye210

Here's another point of view.  If I were trying on wedding dresses and the chick next to me had that many people with her it would probably ruin my wedding dress shopping experience.  Just sayin.  Think about the other people in the salon this will annoy. 

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]I am treating my vow renewal as a wedding. I am walking down the isle with my huge wedding dress and flowers with my moh,  bm and flower girl. We will have a ceremony and a reception for all of our friends and family to celebrate.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

So we've gathered.  That's still not right. 

Weddings are for when you MARRY someone.

Your friend is having a wedding when she marries her ex-husband.  She gets the bells and whistles if she wants them, because it's a wedding.

You had your wedding.  Sorry it wasn't the PPD you wanted, but you had it. It's done.

If you want to renew your vows, that doesn't bother me, and it wouldn't bother me as a guest.  Seeing you play Wedding Day Barbie with all the trimmings when it's not your damn wedding day does.

overloaded

No I am not planning on having any partys.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]So its ok to have the big wedding if you get divoreced from your husband and then decided to get remarried.  You cant a re create your wedding and make it just a little better if your already married.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

<div>It's okay to have a wedding if you aren't already married. That's the point we're trying to make. You can't get married if you're already married. You can have a vow renewal.</div><div>
</div><div>And she's not here for us to dissect her plans either, so stop trying to deflect. </div>

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]So its ok to have the big wedding if you get divoreced from your husband and then decided to get remarried.  You cant a re create your wedding and make it just a little better if <strong>your already married</strong>.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

No, you can't.  Because <strong>you're</strong> already married.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]So its ok to have the big wedding if you get divoreced from your husband and then decided to get remarried.  You cant a re create your wedding and make it just a little better if your already married.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

<div>Absolutely it's okay, and it's not at all a double standard.  They got divorced, so they are actually able to remarry.  I would probably judge them for having a big huge wedding if it's the 2nd time around, but at least they are actually getting married.  </div><div>
</div><div>Re-creating your wedding is BS.  You chose to have the wedding you did.  If you didn't like that choice, that's your own problem.  In 10 years I might like the new wedding trends, but that doesn't mean I'm going to "re-create" my wedding to have those.  </div>

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]No I am not planning on having any partys.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

Parties.

jrkjpf

Why would "so and so" bring her boyfriend? He really has no business  in being there.

Beachy730

So is this just a jealousy thing?  Your friend gets to have a second wedding, so now you want one too?  Because that's sure as hell how it seems with how you keep referring to her planning.  

overloaded

I forgot the friggin A. Its not the end of the world.
I guess I will divorce my husband so I can have a real wedding.

LDYGTR13

Dammit, Stacks. I can't get all snarky with that adorable J face staring at me. I wanna love on her and make her giggle. She's so effing adorable.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]No I am not planning on having any partys.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]
What do you think a wedding is? Especially a vow-renewal?

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I forgot the friggin A. Its not the end of the world. I guess I will divorce my husband so I can have a real wedding.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

<div>Well then at least you'd be referring to the right thing.  </div>