Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette

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Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]I forgot the friggin A. Its not the end of the world. I guess I will divorce my husband so I can have a real wedding.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]


And now you are acting like a petulant child. Congratulations.

LDYGTR13

But he's your husband right? So you already had a real wedding.

So Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City didn't have a real wedding? I beg to differ. She and Mr Big tooooooooootally got hitched in SATC the movie. Remember when she had the dress and the limo and all that jazz? Was that a real wedding? No it was not. No one got married.

Get it?

annakb8

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[QUOTE]So its ok to have the big wedding if you get divoreced from your husband and then decided to get remarried.  You cant a re create your wedding and make it just a little better if your already married.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

Honestly? I think it's a bit silly for your friend to have a big PPD for her second marriage to the same man. But it technically it's a wedding and whatever you have planned is not. At best it's just a little bit more silly than what she has planned.

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]I forgot the friggin A. Its not the end of the world. I guess I will divorce my husband so I can have a real wedding.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

You had a real wedding.

Church wedding = real wedding
Courthouse wedding = real wedding
JoP in someone's living room = real wedding (this was my mom's second, and very real marriage)

You had one.  You don't need, or get, another.

adamar15

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette : Honestly? I think it's a bit silly for your friend to have a big PPD for her second marriage to the same man. But it technically it's a wedding and whatever you have planned is not. At best it's just a little bit more silly than what she has planned.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

This was my thought exactly. 

LDYGTR13

OP, FWIW, I'm okay with vowel renewals, especially at a good milestone - and I think you said 10 years. That's A-OK with me. Just don't call it a wedding. Have a big puffy dress and a cake and BMs if you want, but call it a vow renewal - don't call it a wedding.

It's pretty shiitty to people to JOP'd it or eloped or whatever. What if your daughter did that? Would you say she didn't get have a real wedding? That'd be pretty effing rude.

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette : Honestly? I think it's a bit silly for your friend to have a big PPD for her second marriage to the same man. But it technically it's a wedding and whatever you have planned is not. At best it's just a little bit more silly than what she has planned.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

This, exactly.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette : <strong>You had a real wedding. Church wedding = real wedding Courthouse wedding = real wedding JoP in someone's living room = real wedding</strong> (this was my mom's second, and very real marriage) You had one.  You don't need, or get, another.
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

Ditto this.
 
It does also seem like this could be a jealousy issue between you and your friend.

Kinda sad I missed the whole chance to correct the common aisle/isle mistake that drives me crazy. LDY, I love the visual aides for that. Love it.

georgia_bride09

Overloaded, I feel a bit sorry for you that you are so stuck on having a PPD when you've been married for 10 years and have kids. It's like you're stuck in a time warp. I'd rather go on a lavish vacation with just my H, or even my H and my kids, than play dress up pretending to get married again.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]Overloaded, I feel a bit sorry for you that you are so stuck on having a PPD when you've been married for 10 years and have kids. It's like you're stuck in a time warp. I'd rather go on a lavish vacation with just my H, or even my H and my kids, than play dress up pretending to get married again.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Agreed - and I've only been married 6 months and haz no kids. GO ON VACATION!

hlq2011

Ditto Georgia.  I wouldn't dream of spending half of what I'm spending on this wedding so I could have a PPD down the road.  There're about a million other ways I'd rather spend that kind of money.

emilyinchile

Ditto Georgia. My wedding was AWESOME, but mostly it was awesome because I got married. I can't imagine spending 10 years of marriage being so unhappy with the day that my H and I got married that I would still be hung up on planning a make believe party.

I can imagine using a big anniversary as an excuse to throw another party on its own merits, but that's not the same as throwing a vow renewal and trying to pretend it's really a wedding.

jenjenaz

all i want to know is where you're going shopping so i can avoid the heck out of it....

for my first wedding, i went with my step mom and 2 friends.  this time, i went alone.  i cannot imagine what it would be like with all of those people in a bridal shop.  i walked into davids bridal on a saturday and turned around and got myself out of there in a hurry.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE] I guess I will divorce my husband so I can have a real wedding.
Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

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StacyJenniges

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[QUOTE]all i want to know is where you're going shopping so i can avoid the heck out of it.... for my first wedding, i went with my step mom and 2 friends.  this time, i went alone.  i cannot imagine what it would be like with all of those people in a bridal shop. <strong> i walked into davids bridal on a saturday and turned around and got myself out of there in a hurry</strong>.
Posted by jenjenaz[/QUOTE]


I've taken days off work to do BM dress and my wedding dress because of this comment right here.   It would not be fun being there with tons of people.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette : Wow. I can tell you have such a great marriage if you're willing to end it even temporarily for a big party!  I'm sure he's dying to "marry" you a second time if this is how you value him.
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]


That was written in sarcasm font. . . . she wasn't being serious.  Read the whole thread and understand the context of what is being said before you comment.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette : Thanks for the tip, but I have read the whole thread. <strong>My point was that it is acting like your marriage isn't important if you're willing to divorce him just so you can have your big day.  </strong> I know she wasn't really going to divorce him. (And just so you know, the "thank you" to you is in sarcasm font. I'm not really grateful to you for telling me how to post on a message board.)
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]


hardy har har - you're so funny.  Except you're not.   However, no you didn't get it or else you wouldn't have commented that she was acting like her marriage wasn't important.  All she has done this entire thread was talk about how awesome her marriage is.   If you thought the bolded was remotely true you missed the sarcasm in it.  And for the record, I'll tell you how to post if I'd like, I'll even tell you to go away if I'd like.  Doesn't mean you have to listen. 

elizabethjane25

this thread made me laugh. thanks for that  

specialk84

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[QUOTE]Here's another point of view.  If I were trying on wedding dresses and the chick next to me had that many people with her it would probably ruin my wedding dress shopping experience.  Just sayin.  Think about the other people in the salon this will annoy. 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

<div>I would hate you for bringing that many people to the salon when I was trying on dresses.  I would make the salon hate you, too, because I would pitch an absolute hissy fit.</div>

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shopping for a wedding dress etiquette : Thanks for the tip, but I have read the whole thread. My point was that it is acting like your marriage isn't important if you're willing to divorce him just so you can have your big day.   I know she wasn't really going to divorce him. (And just so you know, the "thank you" to you is in sarcasm font. I'm not really grateful to you for telling me how to post on a message board.)
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]
SMRTS. You haz 'em.

skippylouwho

You're all missing the most important question........ Are you having a dollar dance????

princess0711

I would reschedule for a time when all these extra people don't "need" to be there...

overloaded

 This is not a jealousy thing.  We  decided to renew my vows way before her ex husband asked her to marry him.

overloaded

ment our vows