An apology

midgetthemighty

Ray, I was helping my parents go through their privacy settings the other day and I seem to recall some option where others can friend you but you can send out friend requests. Maybe that's what she did?

ErinG93

I wouldn't consider it flying off the handle. I interpreted it more as, "My feelings were hurt and I'm a little riled up about it." But honestly, that shiit was like, weeks  ago. I don't remember well enough! 

specialk84

I am a self-proclaimed KPS hoar. I have lots of them.

eorea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_apology-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e048a24d-c665-4d04-8136-e07e8947cddePost:e8c39332-c217-4648-8aa5-2863d5511913">Re: An apology</a>:
[QUOTE]I thought she flew off the handle in that thread and was mean to LDY. Or maybe I've completely exaggerated the whole thing in my head.
Posted by raypoppins[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think she was mean to LDY though. She took what LDY said too seriously but she wasn't mean. </div><div>
</div><div>To me, she was mainly just butthurt. </div>

ErinG93

I unfriend people on FB all the fvcking time. It's nothing personal. I like my FB to be close friends/ family. I also don't get hurt when people unfriend me. It's just FB.

raypoppins

Alright, maybe Im confusing this situation with something else. I have no idea.

aleighk1

Ugh this brings me back to when I unfriended FMIL and FSIL. Those were dark, dark times.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]I think it's a little lame to think someone unfriending you is a little lame. Yeah, we're friends here. But lets not forget that we don't really KNOW each other. I reserve my right to unfriend anyone that I want on FB for no reason other than the fact that I wanted to. I don't think anything needs to be read into it more than that.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not reading anything into it, other than she's done with TK. It then makes sense for her to unfriend me. I don't think it's lame. I think it's understandable, but it still makes me sad, since I like Kalpi.</div><div>
</div><div>Emily, you have a point. </div>

midgetthemighty

She could have just realized that she doesn't really know us and wanted to keep her FB to people she knows IRL.

eorea

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[QUOTE]I am a self-proclaimed KPS hoar. I have lots of them.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>Now I'm curious. </div><div>
</div><div>I only have one.</div>

kinsey0628

What happened w/ Amethysist??? I thought she was cool and level headed in that plus size board thread that went on forever, but that's all I really remember her from.  What happened???  Someone fill me in!

ski2play

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: An apology : But then why add people who aren't close friends or family?  I'm honestly curious.  I know a lot of people who want their FB to be very exclusive or private, and I absolutely respect that.  <strong>Disappearing in a cloud of smoke and then stealthily unfriending everyone is a little weird to me.
</strong>Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

<3 your way with words Eagles.  Glad to have you back. 

sparent2010

Meh is my feeling on everything that has been discussed if Kalpi left whatever I will move on.

Birdie1483

I will admit that I have special security settings for TK people, even if I feel that I know them well. I love a lot of people here, but I can't trust that someone's not going to fly off the handle and use my private info against me. I'd unfriend in a heartbeat if I was in a scuffle on here with people that I felt like they could use that information against me. Especially since accusations were being made towards Kalpi and her career, I can understand why she wanted to regain some of her privacy.

ErinG93

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: An apology : But then why add people who aren't close friends or family?  I'm honestly curious.  I know a lot of people who want their FB to be very exclusive or private, and I absolutely respect that.  Disappearing in a cloud of smoke and then stealthily unfriending everyone is a little weird to me.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ok, you've got me there. I'm queen of denying friend requests. I suppose if she thought she was "getting back" at the mean E posters by unfriending them, then that is passive aggressive. (Or maybe even aggressive in her mind.) I don't know. I have online friends on my FB, but I talk to them regularly enough that I'm comfortable with them being my FB friends

</div>

ErinG93

AND I LOVE EAGLES, TOO.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: An apology : But then why add people who aren't close friends or family?  I'm honestly curious.  I know a lot of people who want their FB to be very exclusive or private, and I absolutely respect that.  Disappearing in a cloud of smoke and then stealthily unfriending everyone is a little weird to me.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

i2i.  The way I see it is this.  Maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't friend people on Facebook from here that I don't consider to be my friends or that I wouldn't want to meet IRL if the opportunity came up.  If you're "close" enough to someone to friend them, then you should a) take silly comments like that in stride and realize people are just joking with you or b) not feel the need to delete them if they are belong to the same "group" as someone who you feel offended you.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE] accusations were being made towards Kalpi and her career
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
What? Missed this.

midgetthemighty

Who doesn't love Eagles? Let's be serious.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: An apology : What? Missed this.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

It was the whole MC debacle reincarnated. Except, not really. LDY asked Kalpi and Chelsea (I believe) how they could post while being teachers and Kalpi seemed to super over react about it and got really defensive.

Birdie1483

And I will admit that I've added a couple people in FB friending sprees that I thought twice about later. For the most part I am selective with who I'm friends with, but sometimes shiit happens. No shame in the game yo.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: An apology : It was the whole MC debacle reincarnated. Except, not really. LDY asked Kalpi and Chelsea (I believe) how they could post while being teachers and Kalpi seemed to super over react about it and got really defensive.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]


Ooooh yeah I remember that!  It was an FFF from a few weeks ago.  Somewhere in December because December was that glorious month that was pre-prepped for me.  LDY didn't flame us for it at all, she was genuinely curious more than anything.  But Kalpi took huge offence to it.  Honestly, if you're not doing anything wrong, why be so offended?

ETA I"m not saying Kalpi does anything wrong by posting on here whenever she does. I just don't see the need for being so offended by it if you know that you're doing your job to your fullest extent.

J&K10910

This may have been said, but I think it's hilariously ironic that people got on someone's case for posting "personal" info from FB....and then that's what this thread turned into.

specialk84

I turn down requests all the time. They're mostly from H's extended family and their church friends, but still. I don't add you if I wouldn't feel comfortable drinking with you.

If anyone wants to delete me, or feel they added me without thinking, go ahead. You're not going to hurt my feelings. I just like Kalpi and want her to come back.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]This may have been said, but I think it's hilariously ironic that people got on someone's case for posting "personal" info from FB....and then that's what this thread turned into.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

There's no room for logic here missy!

sleblanc72

I'm all kinds of confused with what happened with Kalpi.

I am eye to eye with everything you've said about facebook Birdie.  I'm only friends with 2 people from TK and though I wouldn't ming friending others but like you Birdie I would likely have security settings in place.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]This may have been said, but I think it's hilariously ironic that people got on someone's case for posting "personal" info from FB....and then that's what this thread turned into.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, then I should just shut my mouth. I didn't realize saying someone who no longer posts here unfriended me was such a big deal. Obviously, I get it now.</div>

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: An apology : Well, then I should just shut my mouth. I didn't realize saying someone who no longer posts here unfriended me was such a big deal. Obviously, I get it now.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
Whoa, whoa.  Honestly, it doesn't bother me one bit.  But people have gotten raked over the coals for it before.   And I just thought it was funny.

Please don't unfriend me ;)

crfische

On the contrary, I have been friending people today.

Also, I'm not crazy, nor do I have the time to be crazy in such a way to use any of your personal info. SO REST ASSURED, FACEBOOK FRIENDS, your info is safe with me!

specialk84

Never, J.