Tuesday Night

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]DH isn't even working PT hours this month. It's costing us money for him to have his job. I wish he would quit and be a house husband, then I could work a little less and have someone at home when I come home. And, we could do away with the cleaning lady and I wouldn't eat out so much when he's not home. He really needs a new job or they need to give him back his hours. Or he needs to quit and not work. I don't care which.<strong> How is the job market in England Poke?</strong>
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>Absolutely terrible. I see myself being a SAHW for some time...thank every God out there that H is paying for knitting lessons.</div>

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]Ehh, I don't see a problem with him buying her something to wear for the baby shower. She's going to be getting a lot of stuff for the baby and she likely won't be able to spend any money on herself for a long time... I don't see an issue with getting her a birthday present that's for her and not the baby.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>In my experience with people that only have $40, their showers aren't overly successful.</div><div>
</div><div>And if you only have $40, you surely have greater needs. </div><div>
</div><div>That's just my opinion. As the mother, if I had a choice between a new dress or something i wanted my new baby to have, I'd pick the item for the baby.</div>

LeiselEB

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : I run happily on 3 or 4 hours of sleep a night, and usually stay up all night Wednesdays so I can sleep 7 or 8 hours with DH on Thursday. I do have anxiety issues and am medicated for them. I joke about sleep being a waste of time, but I don't require the massive amounts of sleep that my husband does. He's consistent 8 or 9 hours a night. My dad is like me and still sleeps 3 or 4 hours a night. I'm okay going 2 or 3 days with cat naps and can manage all week without a full night once in a while, but I'll crash on Friday. One of the reasons I changed migraine meds and saw the neuro today is my current medication causes some serious anxiety issues. Even without the anxiety and high pressure job, I sleep 3 or 4 hours a night, stay up all night one night a week, and am really high energy.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>What you're describing reminds me quite a bit of my sister - she has bipolar disorder and that sounds like her sleep cycle. High energy on very little sleep when she's manic. Obviously, I'm not saying that you have bipolar disorder or that you're manic - the similarities just concern me. </div>

willywally5

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[QUOTE]Wally - I'm glad to hear you made it! <strong>Was drinking involved then? </strong>I would have had drinks in your situation. A nice big flask, haha.  Jess - I also love your pretty new sig. How lovely!  And about that post - ooooh lord. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

<div>Actually, no. Amazingly. Once we got to the ceremony, it was just all of us sitting in one row. We pretty much said hi and that was it. But then after, we did some photos and I just started talking to her like any normal person. </div><div>
</div><div>At dinner, she was actually pleasant and funny. I mean, not like we are going to be BFFs or hang out or anything, but we can definitely stand to be around each other. My H was kind of fried after the ceremony (due to his TBI; WAY too much activity for him at that event) so he was pretty quiet, but it was fine. </div><div>
</div><div>Seriously, I cannot even tell you how relieved both H and I feel. And our two other kids, who'd never met this woman until tonight. </div>

angelstar975

I kind of feel bad for the girl. She doesn't sound very highly educated and I'm wondering what kind of life she'll be able to provide for her baby. I mean, she made her own choices and it's nobody's fault but her own about where she ended up, but just from the way she talks, it sounds like she just really might not be very smart at all.

LeiselEB

Angel, I feel bad for her kid. I do feel bad for people that are treated poorly by people and don't realize it. A friend of mine just had a baby and the baby's dad is incredibly unsupportive - emotionally and monetarily - and my friend just doesn't see how awful he is. 

willywally5

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[QUOTE]I kind of feel bad for the girl. <strong>She doesn't sound very highly educated and I'm wondering what kind of life she'll be able to provide for her baby. </strong>I mean, she made her own choices and it's nobody's fault but her own about where she ended up, but just from the way she talks, it sounds like she just really might not be very smart at all.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>I kind of got that vibe, too. A baby coming into a family which seems so ill-prepared makes me sad.</div>

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Thanks! I was tired of the B&W. <strong>I needed some color while I'm Bumping and Knotting.</strong>
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

<div>Tee hee : 3</div>

JessAndTrav

She said that she told him she just wants to stay home and watch movies...and get a $10 cake.

I told her that it was just my opinion, but I would be all about a quiet night at home and a cake from the box (total cost, $2ish) if he really wanted to get me a cake.

I also asked her if he realizes how expensive babies are. A big box of diapers is close to $30. 

I fear that with their young age, they have no idea what they're in for. H and I both have good jobs and make plenty, and I'm worried about the financial weight of a baby. I can't imagine being 19 (almost 20) and barely having enough without a kid.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Angel, I feel bad for her kid. I do feel bad for people that are treated poorly by people and don't realize it. A friend of mine just had a baby and the baby's dad is incredibly unsupportive - emotionally and monetarily - and my friend just doesn't see how awful he is. 
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, my friend that just had the baby has a guy like that. She was going to school and working and things were going GREAT until she got pregnant. Then, instead of HIM stepping up and saying "You know what? I'll get another job or go F/T so you can keep your job and still go to school." he thought he was the shiiit for not running for the hills. She ended up dropping out of school and was working two jobs her entire pregnancy. </div><div>
</div><div>Asshat. </div>

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : What you're describing reminds me quite a bit of my sister - she has bipolar disorder and that sounds like her sleep cycle. High energy on very little sleep when she's manic. Obviously, I'm not saying that you have bipolar disorder or that you're manic - the similarities just concern me. 
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

I'm always high energy. I believed that bipolar was the manic/depressive phases?

Despite having some anxiety issues ATM - they started last year and were compounded by the migraine medication and the job, I'm not depressed. I'm satisfied with my life and overall happy. I'm always like this and on a pretty 'even keel' so to speak.

No one has ever brought up Bipolar to me and I have seen a counselor and a psychiatrist in the not to distant past. Last summer I had some depression issues, but I lost a good friend, I grieved, and my life has moved on.

JessAndTrav

Ugh, she DD'd,and I wasn't even mean. I was hoping to actually be nice and like, help her.

Too late, I suppose.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]She said that she told him she just wants to stay home and watch movies...and get a $10 cake. I told her that it was just my opinion, but I would be all about a quiet night at home and a cake from the box (total cost, $2ish) if he really wanted to get me a cake. I also asked her if he realizes how expensive babies are. A big box of diapers is close to $30.  I fear that with their young age, they have no idea what they're in for. H and I both have good jobs and make plenty, and I'm worried about the financial weight of a baby. I can't imagine being 19 (almost 20) and barely having enough without a kid.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh yeah, I feel you there. </div>

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Absolutely terrible. I see myself being a SAHW for some time...thank every God out there that H is paying for knitting lessons.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Yarn is pricey. And, addictive.

And, the knitting needles out now, they're a work of art. I wanted to buy some at Michael's just to look at and I don't knit. They're beautiful!

You should crochet, it's more fun. LOL

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Yeah, my friend that just had the baby has a guy like that. She was going to school and working and things were going GREAT until she got pregnant. Then, instead of HIM stepping up and saying "You know what? I'll get another job or go F/T so you can keep your job and still go to school." he thought he was the shiiit for not running for the hills. She ended up dropping out of school and was working two jobs her entire pregnancy.  Asshat. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

<div>Situations like this annoy me to no end.</div><div>
</div><div>Why can't BOTH contributing parties to a baby BOTH take responsibility?</div><div>
</div><div>Not to totally overshare, but situations like that are a huge part of why I waited to have sex until I was married. I didn't want to get KU by an irresponsible boyfriend.</div>

LeiselEB

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : I'm always high energy. I believed that bipolar was the manic/depressive phases? Despite having some anxiety issues ATM - they started last year and were compounded by the migraine medication and the job, I'm not depressed. I'm satisfied with my life and overall happy. I'm always like this and on a pretty 'even keel' so to speak. No one has ever brought up Bipolar to me and I have seen a counselor and a psychiatrist in the not to distant past. Last summer I had some depression issues, but I lost a good friend, I grieved, and my life has moved on.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I never said that you had bipolar disorder. All I said was that what you described reminded me of my sister's manic phase. Some other things you've said remind me of her depressive phase. I just noticed the similarities. Your medical history is your business entirely, so I apologize if I intruded. </div>

angelstar975

I'm kinda ready to head to bed, but I feel all lonely going to bed by myself, which is strange, since I go to bed alone at home and love it. I guess it's just because I've never slept by myself down here yet... FI has always been with me, besides the time all the girls were down for the bach party and I didn't have my own room that time either.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Situations like this annoy me to no end. Why can't BOTH contributing parties to a baby BOTH take responsibility. Not to totally overshare, but situations like that are a huge part of why I waited to have sex until I was married. I didn't want to get KU by an irresponsible boyfriend.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

DH is the only man I've been with. We didn't wait until we were married, but we were engaged at the time.

I was a ripe old 24.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Yarn is pricey. And, addictive. And, the knitting needles out now, they're a work of art. I wanted to buy some at Michael's just to look at and I don't knit. They're beautiful! You should crochet, it's more fun. LOL
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I'm going tomorrow to buy materials. They offer three classes - each held over two weeks (one per week). You've got the basic class, a felted purse, and socks. Then there are other classes I could probably take. One cool thing they do is called "building blocks". Apparently you make a blanket or something, and it's made out of each of these little blocks of different knitting techniques. Each session is $10 and they give you a different pattern. I guess you just keep going until you're done or something. I'll have to look into it, it sounds neat. </div>

pokepoke27

Eh, I was 16 but it was with H. Still counts!!! 

Angel - I know what you mean. I spend the majority of my nights alone, but going to bed is still kind of sucky. Like, having him there with me is so comforting. 

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : I never said that you had bipolar disorder. All I said was that what you described reminded me of my sister's manic phase. Some other things you've said remind me of her depressive phase. I just noticed the similarities. Your medical history is your business entirely, so I apologize if I intruded. 
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

No, you didn't. I wasn't intending to be rude, either.

Sorry if I was - I just meant that I was dealing with my issues and being treated.

LeiselEB

My friend was able to graduate, and had her baby one month after. Her boyfriend was working all the time, but somehow my friend was struggling to get formula and diapers for their baby. He was spending all his money on drugs. When he was sober, he wanted nothing to do with them and was a huge jerk to her, and when he was high all he wanted to do was party, and was acting strangely toward the baby. 

After she delivered, she was offered a prescription for either Vicodin or T3's and wanted T3's because her pain wasn't bad - her boyfriend bitchedd her out for not getting the Vicodin because he "could have gotten fuckedd up with that". I hate this guy.

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]I'm kinda ready to head to bed, but I feel all lonely going to bed by myself, which is strange, since I go to bed alone at home and love it. I guess it's just because I've never slept by myself down here yet... FI has always been with me, besides the time all the girls were down for the bach party and I didn't have my own room that time either.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Although these days I enjoy the occasional night of having the bed to myself because I can really load the bed up with pillows, I really don't like when H isn't there. </div><div>
</div><div>I did tell him that I was willing t buy him an air-mattress so he could sleep in the room with me, but that I would take the bed. He wasn't too fond of that idea. ;)</div>

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]My friend was able to graduate, and had her baby one month after. Her boyfriend was working all the time, but somehow my friend was struggling to get formula and diapers for their baby. He was spending all his money on drugs. When he was sober, he wanted nothing to do with them and was a huge jerk to her, and when he was high all he wanted to do was party, and was acting strangely toward the baby.  After she delivered, she was offered a prescription for either Vicodin or T3's and wanted T3's because her pain wasn't bad - her boyfriend bitchedd her out for not getting the Vicodin because he "could have gotten fuckedd up with that". I hate this guy.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>That makes me feel stabby. </div>

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]My friend was able to graduate, and had her baby one month after. Her boyfriend was working all the time, but somehow my friend was struggling to get formula and diapers for their baby. He was spending all his money on drugs. When he was sober, he wanted nothing to do with them and was a huge jerk to her, and when he was high all he wanted to do was party, and was acting strangely toward the baby.  After she delivered, she was offered a prescription for either Vicodin or T3's and wanted T3's because her pain wasn't bad - her boyfriend bitchedd her out for not getting the Vicodin because he "could have gotten fuckedd up with that". I hate this guy.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>WOW. That is just...wow. </div><div>
</div><div>Again, some people shouldn't be allowed to procreate.</div><div>
</div><div>My BFFs sister was 19 and was TRYING to get pregnant. She succeeded and it's been a disaster ever since. She and the father were both on drugs and both are still on drugs, though they're not together anymore.</div><div>
</div><div>It's definitely far from  the Cleaver family.</div>

LeiselEB

H and I waited until we were married, and had only shared a bed maybe 20 times before then since we were long distance for a few years and never lived together. I really miss having a bed to myself, haha. We both are tall and like to spread out - doesn't quite work in a queen size bed. I can't wait til we have the space for a king.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Yeah, I'm going tomorrow to buy materials. They offer three classes - each held over two weeks (one per week). You've got the basic class, a felted purse, and socks. Then there are other classes I could probably take. One cool thing they do is called "building blocks". Apparently you make a blanket or something, and it's made out of each of these little blocks of different knitting techniques. Each session is $10 and they give you a different pattern. I guess you just keep going until you're done or something. I'll have to look into it, it sounds neat. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Yes, building blocks is neat.

Socks... Socks aren't easy. You're a brave soul.

Yarn work is fun, I really enjoy crocheting. Knitting isn't my style, but my mother prefers it over crocheting. My grandmother does both equally as well, and she tats lace.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Although these days I enjoy the occasional night of having the bed to myself because I can really load the bed up with pillows, I really don't like when H isn't there.  I did tell him that I was willing t buy him an air-mattress so he could sleep in the room with me, but that I would take the bed. He wasn't too fond of that idea. ;)
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

<div>The bedroom H had in the house he shared with his family the first time I went to visit was so small that to make it work, he had a bunk bed type deal with no bottom bunk - that way he had actual space in his room. When I went to visit they managed to squeeze a cot in there. It was actually really sucky not being able to sleep in the actual bed wtih him. Fortunately they moved during my second visit and his new bedroom was large enough for a double bed. </div>

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday Night : Yes, building blocks is neat. Socks... Socks aren't easy. You're a brave soul. Yarn work is fun, I really enjoy crocheting. Knitting isn't my style, but my mother prefers it over crocheting. My grandmother does both equally as well, and she tats lace.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't fully know the different TBH.</div>

JessAndTrav

While the idea of H sleeping elsewhere so I can be more comfortable is incredibly appealing, I enjoy the security of having him next to me since I'm a scardy cat. 

We'll see how I feel about that a month from now when I'm about to pop. He may get couched a time or two.