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Using TheKnot.com RSVP tool
I think the RSVP tool on the website is a nice tool, however, I am wondering how others used it for RSVP. Is there a way to do dinner RSVP as well or are people just using it as a reception RSVP? I thought maybe I would put on the website "For Reception Only" and putting on Dinner Invites "Please RSVP for dinner by sending in your dinner card." I am just worried for those who aren't invited to dinner, because saying "For Reception Only" could be a "Oh yea, I didn't get invited to Dinner" thing. Any advice would be appreciated!
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Re: Using TheKnot.com RSVP tool
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[QUOTE]Your tiered reception idea makes you sound like an rsvp tool.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE]I think the RSVP tool on the website is a nice tool, however, I am wondering how others used it for RSVP. Is there a way to do dinner RSVP as well or are people just using it as a reception RSVP? I thought maybe I would put on the website "For Reception Only" and putting on Dinner Invites "Please RSVP for dinner by sending in your dinner card." <strong>I am just worried for those who aren't invited to dinner, because saying "For Reception Only" could be a "Oh yea, I didn't get invited to Dinner" thing. </strong>Any advice would be appreciated!
Posted by i3rooke[/QUOTE]
Wait, so its not a "oh I yea, I didn't get invited to Dinner" thing? Because.. IT IS.
[QUOTE]Your tiered reception idea makes you sound like an rsvp tool.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
Ouch, OP...better run to the emergency room after that BURN!!! *insert rimshot here*
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Oh, OP...just say no to the tiered reception - feed the folks, c'mon now.
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[QUOTE]Wow, I was just asking for some advice. I didn't realize that it would bring about insults.
Posted by i3rooke[/QUOTE]
You're getting advice: "Don't do a tiered reception."
The advice you need is better than the advice you want in this case.
In the Etiquette board, if you post something that is considered improper etiquette, you will likely be told so rather bluntly. Next time you post, just be prepared for responses that won't necessarily be to your liking. You can't control people's opinions on an internet forum.
Sorry it offended you, but I feel the same way as the previous posters. You might have better turn-out for your reception if it will involve food, since you said your friends might not know the custom in your family. I don't think I'd recommend online RSVP tools for a tiered reception. Paper RSVPs would likely be better in this case.
ETA: If you look at the FAQ sticky, #7 would show you the overall opinion of the posters here.
[QUOTE]The advice is fine, i appreciate knowing that people do not typically do this. It is customary in my family to have just immediate family members for dinner, such as grandparents and aunts and uncles. While my family is used to this some friends may not be. I understand that I have to be sensitive about this and I am sorry, I guess I just did not realize that this must not be customary outside my family. Just the next time someone ask a question, it would be nice not to be called a tool.
Posted by i3rooke[/QUOTE]
Customary or not, it's rude. Really. Perhaps it's time to change the custom so future generations of your family don't insult friends and extended family.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Using TheKnot.com RSVP tool : Customary or not, it's rude. Really. Perhaps it's time to change the custom so future generations of your family don't insult friends and extended family.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
Yes, this. Just because it's been done before doesn't make it the right choice this time. Try to find a way to host everyone equally.
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
Why even invite them then? I don't get it. So you're not stuck dancing on the dance floor alone because your aunts and uncles are too old to bust a move to Kanye West and Lady Gaga? Or is for the presents?
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[QUOTE]Why even invite them then? I don't get it. So you're not stuck dancing on the dance floor alone because your aunts and uncles are too old to bust a move to Kanye West and Lady Gaga? <strong> Or is for the presents? </strong>
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]
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