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addressing save the dates?

Hi girls...so we finally got our save the dates in and now comes the happy task of writing out the envelopes (sarcasm).  We have a few single friends and family members who are all invited with a guest...my question is, do we put "& guest" on the save the date?  I've asked around a bit and the consensus is no, but I don't want them to think they are invited as a single, so I am thinking of just going ahead and putting the "& guest" on there.....

Thoughts?  Does it even really matter?  Am I getting wedding brain and obsessing over stupid things that no one really thinks about anyway?

Re: addressing save the dates?

  • GiaspoGiaspo member
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    For my single friends, I addressed the envelopes to My Friend & Guest.  If they had a boyfriend or girlfriend and were serious enough that I knew their name, I put that on the envelope.  It will save you the headache later of people asking "can I bring someone"?

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    [QUOTE]For my single friends, I addressed the envelopes to My Friend & Guest.  If they had a boyfriend or girlfriend and were serious enough that I knew their name, I put that on the envelope.  It will save you the headache later of people asking "can I bring someone"?
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    Ditto this....I was making myself crazyyyyy thinking about what to do and all the opinions of people and decided I don't need the headache again later so I just did it now...
  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 Exit 21 (Jersey!) member
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    For single people, we just sent the STD addressed to them.  When we send the invite, we're adding + guest if we do not know their name. 

  • If they had a SO, I put them on there for the STD. IIf they didn't, I addressed it just to the single person.

  • I included & Guest just because I think I'd want to know if I was single whether or not I could bring a date.  
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  • The etiquette is that you do not have to indicate this on the STD. You would put "& guest" (better if you know their exact name) on the inner envelope of the invitation, if you have an inner. I would refrain from putting "& guest" on STD to guests who are truly single. As in, no relationship at all. A lot can change from now to then & it is a whole lot harder to explain why you can't have a guest anymore than it is to give them a guest. If you insist, only do it for those who have a SO. 

    Really, why would you need to know that far in advance if you can bring a date or not? Your date may not even know if they'll be available by the wedding date anyway.
  • hmm...lots to think about- thanks for all the feedback ladies!
  • We didn't do it in case we had to make cut backs later.
     
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